We Come From Queens

It is unfortunate that a lot of people can bond over the absence of a father. Growing up Black in America, we all have one or some in our inner circles who know what it feels like to grow up in a household with mom holding it down solo. We unpack this narrative a bit this week and pair it with some songs that relate to the experience.

Articles Referenced In this episode

Things Only Women With Unfaithful Fathers Understand
http://madamenoire.com/1012221/things-only-women-with-unfaithful-fathers-understand/

The 20 Realest Rap Songs About Fathers
http://www.complex.com/music/2012/06/the-20-realest-rap-songs-about-fathers/

Father Of Mine: 15 Fathers Day Songs For People With Daddy Issues
http://www.vh1.com/news/53176/worst-fathers-day-songs/

Monique's Quote
https://www.christianpost.com/news/jay-z-reveals-fatherhood-has-changed-me-rapper-talks-beyonce-surrogate-rumors-video-99767/
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This week we break down the pros and cons of being "busy" using the article "The Disease of Being Busy" by Omid Safi ( https://onbeing.org/blog/the-disease-of-being-busy/ ) as our guide.

Questions for reflection

Would you consider yourself a busy person?

What are you busy doing?

Has that ever been an ideal for you?

How did we get here (being so busy)?

How do you feel when there is an extended period of time when you are not busy?

Would you consider being busy an addiction or a disease?

Quotes from the article

“This disease of being “busy” (and let’s call it what it is, the dis-ease of being busy, when we are never at ease) is spiritually destructive to our health and wellbeing. It saps our ability to be fully present with those we love the most in our families, and keeps us from forming the kind of community that we all so desperately crave.”

Has it been destructive for you?

Work/ life balance. Do you have that?

"In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal-ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?" What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient state of one’s heart. In reality, we ask, “How is your heart doing at this very moment, at this breath?” When I ask, “How are you?” that is really what I want to know.”

“Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing. Tell me you’re more than just a machine, checking off items from your to-do list. Have that conversation, that glance, that touch. Be a healing conversation, one filled with grace and presence.”

Do you have an internal barometer to tell when you are getting to be too busy?

When you find yourself getting to be too busy, how do you reel it in?

Do you think there is this glorification of being busy?

Episode quote brought to you by Cadacia

'Crazy-busy' is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up.

Two Cents  

Alicia D of Cubicles & Curls

As we bask in the latter years of our twenties, we can’t help but to be confronted with the inevitable “biological clock.” Even when we aren’t mentally entertaining the internal dialogue, someone always comes around to ask “So when are you having kids?” We invited a couple of men to weigh in on the conversation for varied perspective.

This episode is broken up into two parts. First an interview with the upcoming podcast Enter Tha Minds. The join us for the second part in discussing the male biological clock and more.

Enter Tha Minds minds is a podcast where four millennial men tr to gain guidance and the answers to life's questions. Their show will be launching on April 9th.

For now you can follow them on Twitter and Instagram @EnterThaMinds

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We’ve already talked about social media and how it has the power to project exactly what it’s supposed to … whatever the moderator wants: the good, the bad, the in between. This week, we talk about Angela Simmons’ social media account and how it has revealed a lot about her relationship status. We also discuss whether or not this should constantly be happening.

Angela Simmons IG Posts

Cryptic post 1

Cryptic post 2

Breakup post

Articles mentioned

8 Reasons Why Happy Couples Rarely Share Their Relationship Statuses on Social Media

8 Things to Never Post About Your Relationship on Social Media

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This week we're smooth like buttah!! I mean that's actually a regular thing for us so that's probably not a surprise :)

OK, this week we are joined by founder of the digital publication Brooklyn Buttah, Alley Olivier.

Alley talks about her company, realigning with your purpose and plays our question game.

Visit Brooklynbuttah.com to see what has been going on since it's launch. Keep in mind that new content will start going up March 2018!

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twitter.com/brooklynbuttah
instagram.com/brooklynbuttah/

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This week we go uptown!! Kinda... ok not really :(
We have blogger Toya of ToyaFromHarlem joining us to talk a bit of Black History and we have her talk through our favorite posts on her site.

Here are all the posts we covered:
The African American Day Parade-Photo Journal
toyafromharlem.com/african-american-day-parade-2017/

5 Recreated Photos of Iconic Black Woman
toyafromharlem.com/5-recreated-photos-of-iconic-black-woman/

5 Recreated Photos of Iconic Black Men in History
toyafromharlem.com/5-recreated-photos-of-iconic-black-men-in-history/

How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
toyafromharlem.com/overcome-negative-self-talk/

My Fearless 2017: A Black body Photography Project
toyafromharlem.com/myfearless-2017/

Follow Toya

ToyaFromHarlem.com

Twitter / Instagram @ToyaFromHarlem

Also here is the info for the play that Cadacia mentioned in her "Can I Say Something?"
A Brooklyn Boy
www.eastvillageplayhouse.com/shows
www.facebook.com/events/1650362788347918

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There has been much conversation surrounding what the term “Afro-Latino” means. We take a small moment to define the term for ourselves; discuss our experiences growing up as Afro-Latinas; as well as dig into the current conversation surrounding the term. Is it even that big of deal?

We'd like to take the time to thank Your Average Afrolatina for highlighting us in " 10 Podcasts Created by Afro-Latinx"

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We're back and ready for this new year in podcasting! In this week's episode we will be recapping 2017 from a personal standpoint as well as sharing some intentions for the new year. 

Here are the questions we talked about if you'd like to use them as journal prompts

How was your 2017, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?

What we are leaving in 2017, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?

What are you bringing into 2018, personally? Work wise? Podcast wise?

How has your year been so far? What have you been up to?

Any hiccups?

Podcasting [you can replace this with a person or thing]  has been in my life since _____________ If it were not in my life how would things be different today? What would be different? Better? Worse?

What’s one thing that you hope for the show [again you can replace this with something else] this year?

At the end of this year, how do you want to describe or remember it?

The holiday season is upon us and it's only right that we have our annual "Christmas Party" on the show with former guests. This year, we decided to invite the Play Cousins to the function because what's a holiday gathering without family (podern fam that is)?! Tune in to the fun we've concocted for this holiday themed episode! [[Also #TriggerWarning. We do mention self harm at around 1:40:00 - 1:41:25]]

Games Played

Twas The Night Before Christmas

What's In Your Stocking

Tis The  Season

Naughty Or Nice

All I Want For Christmas Is___

Connect with play cousins podcast
soundcloud.com/play-cousins-podcast OR search the show on iTunes
and on Instagram @playcousinspodcast

Jameer and Lindsey can be found on IG & Twitter at @itsjameer and @lindseyindia

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We are true 80’s babies who were raised in the 90’s. With that, there are a ton of things that we can bond over with others in our age range. One of those is, without a doubt, TV Shows! This week, we discuss the major TV shows that we obsessed over throughout our childhood years. If there are any that we missed, drop us a line in the comments!

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