We Come From Queens

This week we break down the word "friend" and talk about the highs and lows of friendships during the course of our lives thus far. We'd like to thank Alicia of Cubicles & Curls (http://www.cubiclesandcurls.com/) for submitting this topic!

Talking points

What defines a friend?

How has your definition of a friend evolved throughout the different stages of your life - from childhood to adolescent through adulthood thus far?

What shifts have you noticed in the types of friendships you've maintained?

Who do you prefer to be friends with -- men or women? Why?

Do you buy the narrative that "women are to ____ to befriend?"

Supporting articlee "Roxane Gay Lists 13 Rules for Female Friendships"

(http://womensenews.org/2014/09/roxane-gay-lists-13-rules-for-female-friendships/)

 (4) Sometimes, your friends will date people you cannot stand. You can either be honest about your feelings or you can lie. There are good reasons for both. Sometimes you will be the person dating someone your friends cannot stand. If your man or woman is a scrub, just own it so you and your friends can talk about more interesting things. My go-to explanation is “I am dating an asshole because I’m lazy.” You are welcome to borrow it.

(5) Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.

(6) Tell your friends the hard truths they need to hear. They might get pissed about it, but it’s probably for their own good. Once, my best friend told me to get my love life together and demanded an action plan, and it was irritating but also useful.

6A. Don’t be totally rude about truth telling and consider how much truth is actually needed to get the job done. Finesse goes a long way.

6B. These conversations are more fun when preceded by an emphatic “GIRL.”

(10) When something is wrong and you need to talk to your friends and they ask you how you are, don’t say “Fine.” They know you’re lying and it irritates them and a lot of time is wasted with the back-and-forth of “Are you sure?” and “Yes?” and “Really?” and “I AM FINE.” Tell your lady friends the truth so you can talk it out and either sulk companionably or move on to other topics.

(7) Surround yourself with women you can get sloppy drunk with who won’t draw stupid things on your face if you pass out, and who will help you puke if you overcelebrate, and who will also tell you if you get sloppy drunk too much or behave badly when you are sloppy drunk.

(13) My mother’s favorite saying is “Qui se ressemble s’assemble.” Whenever she didn’t approve of whom I was spending time with, she’d say this ominously. It means, essentially, you are whom you surround yourself with.

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To know us is to know that we generally do not talk about pop culture because that’s not what our show is based on. This week, we switch things up a little and talk some things that have been going on that we haven't really voiced our opinions about . . . at least the things that we actually have an opinion on.

Topics covered

Jeannie Mai from The Real getting divorced from her husband

Tamera Mowery reminding everyone that she loves her some interracial love

Tamar Braxton getting divorced from her long time husband

Cardi B's engagement

Wendy William's fainting on live tv

Hollywood calling out a growing list of men for sexual assault

Tyreese's social media meltdown

#JusticeForJazzy - Black college student tormented by her white roommate

Do we forgive Shea moisture for their #BeardedBaes

This week's episode was sponsored by Sudio Sweeden

Visit sudiosweden.com and use the code QUEENS15 to get 15% off any purchase and they provide free world wide shipping

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This we were joined by a married couple Enaya & Jon to talk about #BlackLove & provide us with some insight to “the married life”. They also talk about the importance of being a tourist in your own city and we got them to play our infamous question game!

Enaya Instagram @Enaya_k

John Twitter @BlessNYC | Instagram @Blessnyc_

Social Butta Fly website http://social-butta-fly.blogspot.com/

This week's episode was sponsored by Sudio Sweeden

Visit sudiosweden.com and use the code QUEENS15 to get 15% off any purchase and they provide free world wide shipping

A couple of years ago we had four men on our show weighing into a convo surrounding all things dating. We decided to strike up that conversation again. This time, we elicited the help of Reek of the He Man Woman Hater's Club Podcast.

Follow Reek on Twitter & Instagram @theogblackman

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This week we sit down with Rico of the Feel Free to Disagree Podcast to discuss what it means to be a man and how his cultural background influences his definition of masculinity.

Connect with Rico

IG @ff2d_podcast

Listen to his show on iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/feel-free-2-disagree-podcast/id1195672810?mt=2

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This episode we are joined by Thomas Knox of Date While You Wait to talk about the current representation of Black men in media.

You can find Thomas on
Instagram @DateWhileYouWait
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Twitter @DateWhileUwait
website datewhileyouwait.com

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As you’ve seen via IG, we have recently returned from a girls trip to Cuba and are ecstatic to share our experience with you!

We continue our summertime fine series with part two to our version of the Love Connection. This week, listeners get to  hear how the blind dates went and if there actually will be love connections.

We continue our summertime fine series with by kicking off our version of the Love Connection. This week, listeners get to meet our bachelor and bachelorette as they select a date for themselves.

If your are familiar with Podcasts In Color (hey Berry!) then the hashtag #Podin should be very familiar to you. If not, it's a hashtag used to check out what podcasts other people are listening to.

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