Do you often feel self-conscious around people you don’t know well? Guess what? That’s perfectly normal.

Most of us spend a lot of our lives feeling like others are judging us and not coming to a very flattering conclusion. Does that sound like you sometimes?

Maybe this will help - people don’t focus on you as much as you think they do, because they’re too busy focusing on themselves. Really take that in – they’re not focused on you because they’re focused on themselves.

When you can feel comfortable with that thought, you’ll feel more comfortable in your own skin, and you’ll feel less self-conscious and more confident, too.

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Have you ever had the experience of being with someone, you both experienced the same event, yet you came away from it with different ideas of what happened?

You look at the world through the sum total of your life experiences. The other person looks at the world through the sum total of their experiences. Both of you processed the event through what the experiences in your life have taught you.

News flash - no two humans have the same experiences, so all of us react differently to the same things. We’ll see things differently – even things that we watch unfold as we are right next to each other.

When you understand that you are unique and have a unique point of view, and so does everyone else, it’s easy to avoid arguments and misunderstandings.

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Do you feel stressed a lot? For some people, stress is chronic, which can be devastating to relationships and to their health.

Want to know the secret to stress relief? It’s not having a stress-free life, it’s having a stress-free outlook.

What happens around you happens. You’re not in control of red lights, gridlock traffic, rude clients – none of it. You can’t control what happens around you – you can control your response to it.

Think about one thing that happens in your life often and that causes you to feel stress, think about how you usually react, and how you’d rather react. Practice the new reaction in your mind, so that when the thing happens in your life, you’re ready to try out your new, improved, stress-relieving reaction.

Ahhhh…less stress!

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Are you the best you that you could be? Probably not – we’re all human and we all have our weaknesses.

Are you pretty awesome anyway? Probably so – though you might not think so.

Nearly everyone downplays their strengths and focuses on their weaknesses. If you have a tough time taking a compliment, that’s one indication that you might want to learn to focus on your awesomeness instead of on your weaknesses.

To start becoming the best you that you can possibly be, make a list of the things you’re already good or great at and keep that list where you can see it and add to it any time. Then add one thing to your morning routine - remind yourself that there is only one “you” on this planet and you’re going to be the best “you” possible all day long.

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Do you know that you’re at your very most powerful right now?

Yep…it’s true. You have all the power you’ll ever have right this very moment. And in the next moment, you’ll still have it. No matter how much you’d like to change the past or the future, this moment right here is where all your power is.

You can’t go back and get a do-over for yesterday, and while decisions you make right now may impact your future, you don’t have a crystal ball to see exactly how.

Today is where all of your possibilities lie. Today is a brand new day. How will you use your today? Because it really is all up to you. And your power is really right now.

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Having a bad day? Maybe you’re surrounded by grumpy people, or maybe you are the crabby one.

No matter why things are off-kilter, there’s a simple way to get back on an even keel and help those around you, too. Find something to laugh about.

If it’s just you that’s crabby, what usually makes you smile? Think about that or do that. Right now.

If you’re surrounded by crabby people, is there something you can say that will make them all laugh? If you can make a joke – one that’s not at the expense of anyone, except maybe you – that can quickly ease a tense moment. If your team already has an inside joke, invoke it. If not, maybe it’s time to see if you can create one…quickly!

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Most of us have heard the phrase “you are what you eat.” It’s a pithy way to remind us that food is fuel, and if we fuel our bodies with junk they won’t work as well as if we feed it well.

What if I told you that you are what you think?

People who focus on what they dislike are constantly aware of what they dislike. The neighbor’s barking dog – red lights – people who cut in line or cut them off in traffic. How do you think those people feel most of the time?

What you focus on is what you’re paying attention to, which means it’s what you’re going to notice most and react to most.

You are what you think, so focus on what you love, not what you fear or what you dislike. Believe me, it’s way more fun to focus on the positive things that are all around you than the negative things.

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When you were 8 years old, what was your biggest problem in life? How about when you were a teenager? College student?

Chances are, as you got older and lived more life, your problems also became more complex, yet it’s very likely that some of the attitudes, beliefs and behaviors you used to solve problems as a young child still exist and are in use now, whether or not they serve you and your more complex problems.

Those behavior patterns were formed in childhood and your brain is a pattern-running machine. It wants to meet problems head-on with the same pattern it’s been running most of your life.

Next time you catch yourself reacting in the same old way, ask yourself if that’s really how you want to behave now that you’re grown up.

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Have you ever noticed how similar words can have very different meanings?

Those three sets of words – gratitude and appreciation, nice and good, right and fair – are often used as synonyms and can mean wildly different things to different people.

If you’re having a disagreement with someone, remember the words being used may not mean the same thing to both of you. When the other person says something that hits you wrong, instead of getting upset, gently ask, “can you please explain that a little more for me?”

You’re not issuing a challenge, you’re asking for more clarity. When the two of you understand what you each mean, the pathway to mutual understanding happens.

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How do you feel when you expect a response from someone and they’re silent? Do you feel judged? Disrespected? Small?

If so, congratulations because you’ve gone to MSU. You’re assuming that their silence is an affront, a condemnation, or a complete dismissal of you. You're making stuff up.

Heck, maybe they didn’t even hear you! Silence on their part does not equal “less than” on your part – maybe they’re so blown away by your brilliance they have no words.

When you notice yourself feeling judged or disrespected, take a moment to remind yourself that those are YOUR feelings, and no one else is in control of your feelings but you. It’s up to you to control your feelings starting right this minute. That’s how you show yourself the respect you deserve!

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