Wellish

After spending the last month telling you guys how we can love ourselves to the fullest I feel like I leaned so much into the kinda well side of myself that I don't want the kinda toxic part of me (literally 50% of who I am) to slip through the cracks. This week I am breaking down for you all of my toxic traits from petty ones to ones that I should probably look into fixing a little harder. All in all, isn't it our toxic traits that make life a little more entertaining though?

For our last day of this month long series together I want to of course ease some of the pressure. I never expected you to get all the way through the 28 Days Of Self Love and be completely healed from whatever was troubling you when you began the challenge. That's because there will always be shit to heal from. We can't expect to be fully healed to just be knocked down by life's bullshit that so much of the time is out of our control. But we can love ourselves 100%. The same way that you continue to love another person or pet more and more everyday the same applies to yourself. You can love yourself fully today and just keep loving yourself more tomorrow. I love all of you so much and I am so grateful for everyone who too this journey with me. I will talk to you Ishies MONDAY!!!!

You are not stupid. There is a reason behind your thoughts. At the end of the day there is a reason you are having them. This is not to be mixed up with your overthinking mind, but looking at your initial thoughts and diving into the core of it to discover the truth is going to save you a lot of time and grief compared to not listening to it and finding out, typically in a harder way, that you were right.

As we come to the end of our self love journey together I want to talk to you guys about one of my biggest fears. I believe that the more you step into the the best version of yourself the more you are becoming your truest, most genuine, self. Therefore, when you are given the opportunity to show people this evolved version of you and you face the possibility of being rejected or judged for who you ACTUALLY are??? Phew, terrifying. Not to mention the possibility of losing the current people in your life who have already accepted the old version of you. We're covering all of it today.

The word evolution sounds soooo long term. No thanks. I want to feel like the best version of myself now. I don't want the only answer for this to be that I need to accept myself flaws and all as I am right now because again that's something that takes practice, in other words, time. I want answers now and to feel good about who I am now compared to constantly waiting to meet this better future version of myself that never actually arrives. Evolution doesn't have to be long term and I want to tell you guys how to become the new you right now.

Sometimes the thought of being what the world considers sexy is daunting. Especially now that we live in a world that has examples of what it means to be sexy everywhere you look. And all of those examples some how look....the same? lol. So what do you do if you don't fit that specific mold? That means you can't be classified as sexy. I refuse to succumb to that pressure. I want to challenge what it means to be sexy so you can feel good about how you specifically radiate sexy.

We know that making decisions easier is something that comes from confidence and that being able to make decisions is something you're "supposed" to be able to do. But from one indecisive mfer to another, how can we start incorporating this into our lives? I have a couple tricks up my sleeve to make the daunting decision making task a little easier!

Self doubt is so far engrained in my daily way of thinking I don't realize the subtle ways that I constantly do this. Other times it's very obvious and I feel like I'm drowning in a deep pit of uncertainty of who I am, what I doing, why sh*t happens the way it does the list goes on & on. I want to talk about a way to stop this that doesn't require you to love yourself first. The only thing you need to make this happen instantly is a little bit of courage.

If any of my episodes are calling the kettle black, it's this one. I used to live my life in a constant state of rumination. It is one of my least favorite feelings because not only would I be driving myself nuts, I would want so badly for it to stop, but have no capability of putting an end to the issue. Looking back, I was never given anything concrete to try. I want to give you things you can actually utilize to calm your spiraling mind. Find that in today's episode!

One of the feelings I hate the absolute most is feeling like I cannot get a handle on how I act in order to align with how I want other people to view me. Honestly, I have a hard time aligning my actions with how I want to view myself sometimes. Learning my needs has been one of my favorite tools in nailing down who I am, loving who I am for understanding those needs, and capitalizing on them in order to create a life I love. I want you to have the ability to do the same, so I am outlining it all in day 20 of the self love challenge.