We're Not Fine

WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Geoff, Jon and Digg as we ask them their secrets to a healthy relationship and their greatest insights about relationships. You don’t want to miss this one!

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

02:43 The Impact of Mental Health on Relationships

04:09 Reflecting on the Journey: Challenges and Growth

09:07 Building a Supportive Community

23:57 Excitement for Future Episodes and Live Events

36:39 The Power of Honesty, Communication, and Empathy

37:05 Assuming Nothing and Listening

38:01 Being Considerate and Setting Boundaries

40:24 Self-Love and Not Compromising

54:25 Don't Be a Dick and Empathize

57:13 Continual Learning in Relationships

01:00:52 You Can't Beg Someone to Love You

01:06:23 Differentiating Between Healthy and Enmeshed Relationships

01:08:24 Self-Love and Confidence in Pursuing Personal Goals

01:11:34 Gratitude for Team Members and the Opportunity to Create

Alex's Chocolate chip cookie recipe

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230g Cake Flour

27g AP Flour

5g Kosher Salt

8g Corn Starch

6g Baking Soda

1.25 cups (2.5 sticks) Unsalted Butter

285g Brown Sugar

115g White Sugar

2 Eggs

3 Egg Yolks

100g Walnuts

450g chopped chocolate bars (mix of milk chocolate and dark)

Mix wet, mix dry, combine together, add chocolate and walnuts, refrigerate overnight. Preheat oven for 375F. Bake 6oz cookie balls on sheet tray for 23 minutes sprinkling generously with flake salt halfway through.

I've also been experimenting with creating Nutella "wafers" in the freezer to bake sandwiched inside the cookie dough. I press a bit of Nutella between two sheets of Parchment paper, then freeze until solid. Cut cookie dough in half and insert Nutella wafer before baking.

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In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait. The importance of understanding and accepting different personality traits in ourselves and others is also discussed. The conversation covers how different personality traits can impact relationships, mentioning specific disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder, borderline personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The Big Five personality traits are revisited, and the concept of agreeableness is examined, particularly in relation to valuing harmony and cooperation. Positive and negative personality traits are discussed, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance. The episode concludes with 11 practical ways to give yourself a personality makeover.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview

09:12 Exploring Openness

13:32 Understanding Conscientiousness

23:24 Navigating Introversion and Extroversion

26:39 Understanding Neuroticism

28:15 Exploring Personality Traits and Disorders

29:04 The Big Five: Understanding the Core Traits

29:31 Agreeableness: Harmony vs Authenticity

30:27 Positive and Negative Personality Traits

36:57 11 Ways to Give Yourself a Personality Makeover

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Today’s topic is Dating with Daddy Issues in honor of Father’s Day. Here’s to all of the amazing dad’s out there who are showing up for their children with interest, affection, tenderness and consistency. You are changing worlds and preventing attachment issues. We applaud you! Today’s episode focuses on the wounds we carry with us when we have unmet needs from our own fathers’ rejection, disinterest, criticism, infidelity, disappearance… All of these unmet needs affect our adult relationships and influence who we are attracted to. The first part of this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk about the attachment issues that can arise from our father wounds. Then we invite Melissa Rogers, expert matchmaker from our most listened to episode from last June 2023, Let’s F#*%ing Date, into our conversation. She shares her experience as expert and dater. What are daddy issues? How do we know if we have them? How do our unresolved issues affect us in dating? What are the different wounding father archetypes and how do they affect our attachment style?

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In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have a chance to talk to the beloved former news anchor on KARE 11 Sunrise, Bryan Piatt. He started experiencing symptoms of Anxiety and OCD from an early age with no understanding of what was happening to him. The disparity between his perfect external presentation and his quiet internal suffering grew until he could take it no more. He chose to stop running and hiding from his mental illness, and instead integrated the diagnoses into his life, ultimately setting him free and starting him on a healing journey that turned into becoming a therapist specializing in OCD and Anxiety. Please join us for this powerful conversation and get ready to fall in love.

You can find him on Instagram at @bryanpiatt and his Podcast Take What Serves. Leave the Rest. on all podcast platforms!

https://stateofmindtherapy.com/bryan-piatt

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In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia respond to real life couples struggling with mismatched libidos that are negatively impacting their relationships . One writer is breaking off an eight year relationship because they can’t meet their partner’s sexual needs and feels insecure and constantly pressured to give more than they are able to give & in the second couple, the writer has a much higher sex drive than her boyfriend and can’t help but feel undesirable and rejected whenever she initiates and he’s not in the mood. To get to the meat of the episode, skip ahead to the 25 minute mark as Dr Talia and Doug catch up and banter for the first part of every episode!

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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling undesirable and rejected and the other member of the couple feeling overwhelmed, maybe even avoidant, and generally terrible that they are not able to satisfy their partner. We share 12 great conversations starters to connect with your partner around libido compatibility and sexual desires, and we go over many potential causes of the libido mismatch. Tune in to your one stop shop relationship meets mental health podcast, and thank you for tuning in every week!! 

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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples’ therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you’re married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can’t be undone, trusts broken that can’t be repaired, differences in values and dreams that can’t align without one of the partners feeling stifled. Tune in! We answer all of the questions you might be asking yourself!

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Meet Gao Motsemme, a Botswana born current resident of Germany, and mother of three from a long ancestral lineage of gifted intuitive healers. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug sit with Gao as she takes us on her complex and unexpected mothering journey while needing to face her own mother wounds. “Why doesn’t my mother love me?” and “What is a mother without her children” are a few of the questions echoing throughout this episode. Every one of us can see ourselves in this episode, honoring the mother shaped hole, the insecurities and attachment issues that can arise in the wake of a primary caregiver that can not or will not meet your basic needs for love and belonging.

https://calendly.com/magneticleader/consultation

https://www.instagram.com/gaomotsemme.magneticconfidence?igsh=dmk0aWYwMzVuaHpw

She is offering a free 45 minute consultation and she invites people to schedule that on her Calendly link

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In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divorce might be further down the list of solutions than you think.

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Dr. Talia Jackson

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You know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popcorn because you will be screaming NO! Run for the hills! Don’t do it! Enjoy at your own risk and not with your children or your grandma!