Our kids are facing battles in their minds. Everything from school pressures and expectations to personal identity and relationships are weighing on them. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about the mental load kids are carrying and how dads can help them manage it well. 

**WARNING** We do mention and discuss suicide in this episode. If this topic is triggering for you, skip the portion from 29:33–31:20.

Why This Matters

Kids who are burdened by too many negative thoughts begin to see a dip in confidence, self-esteem, and motivation. 

Key Takeaways

• All kids battle their thoughts: Children commonly struggle with intrusive thoughts like "No one likes me," "I'm stupid," and "I can't do it.”
• Intrusive thoughts have a source: Often intrusive thoughts result from developmental limitations, environmental influences, and past trauma or modeling. 
• Parents can help kids combat dangerous thoughts: Help them practice open communication and positive thinking.

Important Episode Timestamps

●       (00:00 - 00:00:54) Introduction & Meet the Hosts 

●       (00:54 - 01:14) Big Question: What Are Some Dangerous Thoughts That Kids Battle? 

●       (01:14 - 03:32) Childhood Negative Thoughts

●       (04:05 - 05:41) The Five Most Common Dangerous Thoughts in Kids

●       (05:41 - 07:52) Social Media is Reinforcing Negative Thoughts 

●       (07:52 - 10:17) Recognizing When Kids Are Struggling

●       (11:14 - 12:59) The 'Fred in Your Head' Strategy

●       (14:10 - 18:00) Dads Can Create a Safe Space for Kids to Share Their Feelings

●       (19:34 - 25:50) Modeling Positive Thinking for Kids 

●       (31:20 - 32:52) Pro Move of the Week: Ask This Question 

APD Pro Move:
To help combat persistent or severe intrusive thoughts or behaviors in your children, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or mental health professional.  

All Pro Dad Resources:

Episode 62 – How to Raise Emotionally Strong Boys

5 Thoughts That Are Dangerous For Kids

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