On the 78th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I am delighted to introduce our guest, Simon van der Els, PhD. Simon is a student of the invisible realm. He holds a PhD in the empirical tradition of molecular microbiology and also explores the subjective realm of shamanism as a way of rediscovering the interiority of the living cosmos. He enjoys time in nature, dance, and other sensory embodied experiences. Dialogue is one of the practices in which he can encounter a flow state, and it is one of his favourite activities.

In this glorious conversation, Simon shares his explorations of a greater sense of being in life. He highlights the importance of connection—to ourselves, each other, and the biosphere—in terms of feeling a deeper sense of being and belonging that goes beyond temporary moments of flow or peak experiences. We touch on the grief that is necessary to navigate in order to feel the depths of love and joy that are freely available to us, and that much of the way is more about remembering and resting than turning life into checklists for being and productivity.

If you are struggling to feel a greater sense of being or alignment in life, or if your explorations into being have yielded more processes and things to do in order to be, this conversation will point to fundamental aspects of being that could greatly shift your present perspectives and experience of life.

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00:00 Introduction
03:07 How to be in this life between worlds?

08:07 Peak experiences and broadening our aperture 

14:32 Remembering a way of being and connection

19:17 The grief and love through coming home 

24:02 The sense of loneliness in the world

27:22 We need to remember, feel, and sense

33:31 The shift from compulsive thought to sensory experience

39:27 The role of grief and presencing 

43:07 It is all about connection

46:27 The experience and challenges of a new sense of being

50:07 The journey of becoming and joy

54:37 Letting go of the checklists in life

59:15 What is a good life for Simon?