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Now you see me, now you don't

Flowers 

Bouquet

Ring of roses 

Display 

Elegant bloom

Delicate scent 

Thorns

Daffodils 

Ribbons 

Vases

Pressed

Heartfelt 

Artificial 

Remembrance 

Fresh cut

A gift

There maybe some sound distortion

This is the second part of our series with Dr Kim Bond from NAPAC and we talk about anger and how to recentre yourself along with ACEs are an international problem faced by all people and the better advocacy we have around helping adults recover from Adverse Childhood Experiences the less likely it will be passed down the generations.

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00:00 Intro

00:45 We are talking about impact

01:48 Trauma excessive stressors

04:10 Constant Drip 

05:22 Key stress responses 

07:50 Jimmy Savile Operation Yew tree

09:30 International solutions are required 

10:00 Maladaptive? Safeguarding of self

12:08 Unpacking Anger 

16:16 Kim's stress response 

20:00 Self-worth and value 

21:55 First Disclosures

23:00 Self-reliance & Perfectionism 

25:10 Normalacy, model student

27:17 Getting Complimented 

29:35 Anger and Guilt 

31:14 Deserving safety

32:04 Recognise anger responses 

33:15 Outward expression of inward hurt

36:00 Self Advocacy and Boundaries 

37:37 Survivors stories 

38:28 Loaded maladaptation 

39:08 Grounding for Flashbacks 

43:00 Emotions denied!

45:15 NAPAC and emotional support

47:53 End of part 2

Sometimes the sound quality isn't great.

We are talking ACEs with Dr. Kim Bond who works at https://napac.org.uk/ ACEs are Adverse Childhood Experiences and in this series, we discuss what they are and how they affect the development of the child and later the adult.

Dr. Kim Bond studied what the survivors of these experiences wanted whereas other studies have been conducted from a law/justice point of view.

00:00 Introduction 

00:50 What are ACEs

03:00 Was is abuse?

04:04 Imbalance of power in abuse

09:19 Introducing ACEs

11:00 Lack of choice and support

12:03 Community, Personal and Social ACes

13:50 Indelible marks

16:08 Loss of innocence

18:19 Bearing witness

19:30 Comparisions 

22:13 Using your own words

25:15 What is an undisclosed and disclosed survivors

30:50 Less obvious contextual ACEs

31:40 Adverse doesn’t mean abuse 

33:22 Missing connection

34:20 Exploiting the vulnerable 

35:38 Shades of Grey

40:50 Normalacy 

44:20 Emotional Support & avaliability

46:43 Begining to break cycles 

47:50 Ownership & grieving vunerability 

51:40 Engaged Recovery 

53:03 Living with Injury

53:45 You choose who and what you share

55:40 Setting your boundaries si good for you

57:35 Red Flags 

59:15 End

This week's word game we are delighted to have our guest Kim Bond join us and play along with the word game.

If you'd like to join in please send a word list on a theme.

Theme is gardens

Chore or charm?

Fresh cut grass

Formal or wild

Zen-like

Weeds?

Potter and plan

Dig and turn

Enrich

Sow

Transplant

Scent

Seed bomb

Flutterby Butterfly

Seasons

Bloom

Theme is Games

Red Light, Green Light

Hide and seek

Kick the Can

Musical Chairs

Simon Says

Bop it!

Monopoly

Twister

Scrabble

UNO

Catch Phrase

Risk 

Snakes and Ladders 

Hop Scotch 

This side up 

Theme is Austin & Pratchett

Moving pictures

Thief of Time

Pride and prejudice

Thud

Interesting Times

Never trust a dog with orange eyebrows

Equal Rites

Soul Music

Good Omens

The night watch

Carrot

Persuasion

The truth may be out there, but the lies are inside your head.

Sense and Sensibility

People think that stories are shaped by people. In fact it’s the other way around. (Sir Terry Pratchett)

We are pleased to introduce our friend Cuddy Cudworth founded

The chat centres around “Is the Problem the Problem?” and

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https://www.prioritymindmanagement.com/

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00:00 Introduction and our guest Cuddy Cudworth

01:40 What is Mind Management?

02:40 Coaches' beliefs around trauma

03:25 The Problem is Not the Problem

04:55 Event Fixation and our response

06:25 Emotional Labelling

07:50 Ali’s Suit Jacket

09:50 Misdiagnosing

10:38 It is just a bar

12:38 Procrastinating? Energy tank too low?

14:15 Anatomy of Anxiety

16:40 Spider-Man in the Multiverse

17:55 Thought weeds

19:15 Time and new opportunities

20:30 Is the label useful?

22:30 Back to the Problem is not the Problem

 23:20 Victim Mindset

25:30 Balancing Act

26:35 Identity who are you?

27:52 Pivot Point for change

29:00 Monkey Mind (The emotional brain)

31:45 Symptom of the problem

32:43 Lightbulb moment & Mind Space

35:08 Long may I be 8 years old

36:55 Cuddy will be returning with Graham Nicholls

38:08 Summary

40:27 Where to find us

This week's, word game is all about the playground and Superheroes

This week's word game is all about Stage Magic and Day Break.

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Ali and Rich have a chat about resiliency what it is and how you can create more in your life, from going out of your comfort zone and stretching your boundaries in some way such as in taking up a new hobby, sporting pursuit or something that interests you that you might want to go back and take up again.

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00:38    Defining resiliency

01:18    Challenging the idea of just get on with it

02:03    Adaptation

03:10    Improvise, Adapt, and Overcome

03:54    Improvise

05:24    Transferable learning and skills

07:02    Interrupting patterns and adapting

07:39    Exiting our comfort zone and grounding

09:25    Gratitude, acceptance and Compassion

10:40    We’re not in this alone

10:58    Compassion for self and others 

12:52    Capacity for growth and repurposing of

14:18    Luck as an interpretation after the event

15:15    The impact of our social network and support

17:47    Coping strategies

18:10    Managing our internal state

18:28    Breathing techniques and personalized

22:10    Link between self-esteem and resilience

23:00    Communication skills

23:33    Learning to express your emotions and

27:09    Emotional regulation and signs we are

27:43    Knowing your red zone boundaries, bridge out

28:46    The 7 C’s

30:29    Curiosity

31:55    Confidence, competence, or both?

33:50    Imposter Syndrome

36:14    Boredout versus Burnout

37:04    The role of our community

40:20    The role of purpose

41:48    You stress versus Distress - Coping

44:26    Control and decision making

46:13    Boundaries and curiosity

47:00    The power of tell me more.

48:33    Outro

In this word Game Challenge. Rich gets to tell a story about hats and Ali takes you on a delicious food journey.

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Headwear

Skip

Peak

Bobble

Beanie

Tip

Cowboy

Brim

Beret

Bowler

Ear flaps

Yellow

Cap

Blown off

Fascinator

Felt

Foods

Berry

Sweets 

Bread 

Fudge

Pickle 

Preserve 

Mince

Roast

Salad

Cheese

Soup

Stew

Peach

Tart

Mustard