What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors

There are two key factors at play - temperament and reinforcement. 

Parents may over-emphasize temperament and over-value personality.  We do it all of the time.  "That's just his personality."  Strong-willed individuals may require more work.  Defiance may require more work.  Thus, shaping and reinforcement for that child's individual needs requires something different.  

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Healthy Families Allow for Disagreement

Parents struggle with this one.  They use terms like "disobedience," or "rebelliousness."  Parents are unsure how to allow for disagreement while still maintaining authority in the family.  In today's parenting podcast, I lay out the specific rules for allowing for disagreement.  

This is taken from Dr. Dan's new book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist.  

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What is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance? 

65% follow through and are consistent more than two times per week.  Lots to discuss about this.

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This week's parenting podcast is The Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge!  We are all sleep deprived.  We as parents need more sleep.  Our children need more sleep.  Today, I present the Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge. 

Let's consider the behavioral sleep recommendations and consider how we can apply good sleep practices to the kids.

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There are many stressors young people face.  I go through some of the stressors young people are facing as reported by my colleagues (social workers, psychologists, professional counselors, and others) throughout the country.  

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Dr. Dan explores the key solution to manipulation and passive aggressive behavior.  He says that parents need to name it.  And encourage (even expect) direct and honest communication.  

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Today's podcast is about an argument between a father and a son.  A father goes on to try to enforce the son to tell the truth with discipline, consequences, and punishment. 

When situations develop within the family, truth emerges out of a relationship.  When there are parent-child power struggles, multiple perspective can develop.  Parents involved in family details may develop elaborate consequences but this will not deliver the truth.  Love and the relationship is what brings forth the truth.  

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Many parents inquire about "encouraging disagreement."  It might sound better if I emphasize "allowing disagreement."  Many ask, "What does that mean?"

The new generation of healthy families consists of multiple ideas and perspectives.  If teens don't feel heard, they feel shut down.  If pre-teens aren't respected, you come across as a tyrant.  If young children aren't encourage to think on their own, their ability to think for themselves is dimnished.  These individuals might then be easily moved and manipulated by a charismatic personality, for example.  

This podcast discusses key aspects of respectful disagreement in the family.

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I present two interventions today that can make a difference, along with some key tips for healthy functioning when dealing with a tough adolescent.  

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Many parents pathologize childhood using terms like "He's an attention seeker," OR "She's so oppositional," OR "He's a tormentor," OR "He's A defiant kid!"  

These kinds of vague descriptions may help us cope, but they do nothing to help children help.  We need to help kids recognize that behavior is based on choices.    

We offer a 5-step specific problem solving method that is the answer to these behavior problems that all kids have.  

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