What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors

Parents need strategies to dismantle power struggles.  Today's podcast focuses on The Negotiation Strategy.  We can assert obedience.  However, choice helps children (and especially preteens and even more so, teens) to find their own individuality while they learn to follow directions and learn to take responsibility within their own boundaries.  The next and more advanced step is teaching negotiation.  When teens master negotiation, they learn skills that will last a life time.

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Kids need a strategy for arguments.  Parents can give their kids a strategy by having them classify arguments into petty and purposeful arguments.  This podcast looks at a strategy that when applied, can make a difference in developing the skill of perspective taking - which is the ultimate goal.  

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The Oven Timer Strategy is a great solution for putting an end to manipulation.  "Start engaging in problem solving or you will lose a minute toward your allotted time with your iPhone."  For more, see You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist.  

The use of this strategy is great for bed time ritual, homework problems (i.e. procrastination), video game limits (or lack thereof).

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How do we teach children humility?  It starts with us.  Check out this week's parenting podcast.  There are lots of things to apply from the latest research on parenting including addressing manipulation and the keys to allowing disagreement in the home while maintaining respect for authority.

Then there are things that make life better for the family like turning off the TV.  

One of the things that is most needed is HUMILITY.  "I make a lot of mistakes" is about us, as parents.   

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Parents of Teenagers have a lot in common.  It's time to get together and form support groups.  Many of you do this informally through friendships via sporting events, church get togethers, community gatherings, etc.  We provide some key things to think about in putting together the parameters of a formal support group.  

Themes, facilitator roles, key books and websites, and group rules.  

Time to form a group!  We are in this together!

Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

We need strategies for our kids' anger.  Of course, parents need to work on their own stuff.  The more parents are calm, cool, and collected, and can self-soothe and handle stress with poise, the more are kids will respond well.  Our stuff is for another day.

This podcast is about key strategies for our kids.  This podcast presents anger scaling, helping kids with categories, and the use of visualizations and role plays for handling future scenarios.  

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It is common to deal with manipulation when you are attempting to address another problem.  It is common to see eye roles or receive back talk when addressing aggression between siblings.  First of all, address everything and assume nothing.  Second, you need a strategy.  The following podcast is a Triple D Strategy when you are dealing with a second level of nonsense.  

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In today's podcast, I provide an example where a Dad made a mistake by communicating a negative assumption about his kid.  The kid went on to speak out of her hurt by being passive aggressive.  The answer in this scenario is vulnerability.  We walk through the steps on how family members can express how they feel and others can receive those expressions.  

Holiday Stress?  We can all relate.  There are numerous holiday challenges.  Inconveniences are endless in family situations.  Inconveniences double and triple and stress multiples during holidays.  Cognitive Flexibility helps with the flow that is needed during holiday stress.

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Nobody wants to think about our children's future problems.  The reality is that adversity is right around the corner.  Listen to this parenting podcast as I give an extreme example of trauma and why one young man ended up with post-trauma resilience rather than a debilitating condition.  He attributed his resilience to his strong family support.  

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