When Co-Parenting Just Won’t Work
“Divorce is not inherently bad for the child. Conflict is.”In today’s episode, Seth and Pete talk about the challenges of parenting when divorced parents just can’t make things work. It’s called Parallel Parenting. Is it okay for the kids? How does it work? And how do parents handle the challenges that come with it? What happens if your ex is alienating your child from you or using the child as a tool for vindication? They talk through many aspects of this parenting plan as well as explaining why it’s used and in what situations. They talk about improving your communication skills using the BIFF method – Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. And they talk about why it’s important to try getting to a place where you can say things like, “whatever’s easiest for you.”
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• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (00:26) - Parallel Parenting
• (01:57) - Why This Route
• (03:33) - Extreme Example
• (04:27) - Avoiding Conflict
• (05:40) - Communicating
• (06:46) - Extreme by Default
• (08:36) - Sponsor: Soberlink
• (11:04) - How They Get There
• (15:12) - Other Problems
• (15:59) - Parental Alienation
• (18:29) - Dealing with Issues
• (19:57) - Levels of Damage to Kid
• (20:41) - Changing Through Child's Growth
• (22:47) - When High Conflict Personality Involved
• (26:48) - Conversely...
• (27:40) - When Challenged
• (29:06) - Conflict Points
• (31:54) - Jurisdictional?
• (34:53) - Keys to Successful Parenting
• (38:15) - Wrap Up