This episode is a follow-up from episode 15, Having Balance. You have to find what works best for you. Some people may thrive on working excessively while others need a balance of work and personal activities that nourishes their soul. The purpose of this episode is to help you decide whether or not you are maintaining peace & happiness while working. It is essential to make sure that you are feeding your mental health while also doing work that you enjoy, or just working in general. Lana discusses why making sure that you are taking care of yourself is first before aiming for any goal. Do we use personas and achievements to distract us from other things? Is impressing others or disregarding others’ views a coping mechanism for more emotional pursuits?

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Resources:

Scary Close by Donald Miller

An introductory discussion on the similarities and differences between sociology & social psychology. Sociology is the study of human behavior and how it affects life, interactions, and social change. It analyzes how our patterns affect the world on an organizational and societal level. Social psychology is a subdivision of psychology. It is the study of human perception in relation to the way the rest of the world influences our behaviors and our beliefs. It analyzes how outside patters affect us, as well as our ideas, perception, mood, and emotions. Sociology is how people socialize with one another and social psychology is how socialization affects us psychologically. Lana illustrates both sciences by discussing theories and experiments that have conducted based on subjects. Has your name, race, or gender played a role in employers inviting you for a job interview? What are your views on prison reform and have you ever heard of a Bobo doll?

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Resources:

https://www.influenceatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/BrokenWindowsArticle.pdf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYIh4MkcfJA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o8BkzvP19v4

https://www.prisonexp.org/

piperkerman.com/

Lana breaks down the classifications of friendship, the meaning behind each, and the vast benefits understanding them provides us. We review Aristotle’s categories of friendship and how each term is defined. Lana discusses the stages of friendship, what we look for in friends based on our life points. We see how the evolution of friendships has significantly changed in modern times, with social media playing a major role. Lana explains the major differences in the 3 classifications of friend groups, the clear boundary that separates them, and implementing this practice keeps us from being spread thin. In addition, Lana covers how having these classifications help us to properly divvy up our time and effort and keeps us protected. If you find yourself having trouble with placing friends in the correct category and always being let down, also exerting way more effort than that one friend, how do you address it? What key things can we look for in a friendship? What is the difference between being a confidant and a “yes” friend?

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Lana talks about what is causing us stress at work and how we can be organized & productive to set ourselves up for success, personally and professionally. Is there really such a thing as multitasking? What’s better than having coffee in the morning? What does it mean to be overworked & underjuiced? This episode is for you if you work for an employer or yourself. This episode is for you if you are excited to be back in an office but are struggling to stay organized, transitioning back into an office space and struggling to be productive, or working from home and possibly struggling to do both. Let’s get productive & organized!

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Resources:

https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/8108-work-life-balance-quiz.html

Lana talks all about managing anxiety, self-care, and not letting our emotions hinder us from moving forward and staying grounded in order to still have that mental clarity to make the decisions we set forth for ourselves. How do we take control of our lives? How do we make decisions without surveying everyone around us? How do we track our choices and manifest a great day?

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Lana sits down with Sarah to discuss how our inner child constructs our attachment style. They unpack all of the ways in which we develop our attachment theories, demonstrate them in our relationships — whether it be romantic, familial, friendly, professional, or societal. We hear our we can easily transform into a different attachment style based on the people that we are interacting with. What are the most common relationship styles amongst partners? How can our partner’s attachment style cause us to become more dominant in one style or another?

Sarah breaks down how we can benefit from therapy and what things are needed to find success with our therapist or coach. We learn how just because we want something, doesn’t mean it’s comfortable, good for us, or what we think we even want. Sarah talks to us about how her personal experiences have led her to Polyvagal and somatic healing work.

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References:

John Bowlby

Peter Levine

Diane Poole Heller

Lana discusses how essential it is for our psychological and physical health to do our best at accepting what is. She dives into what practices she works hard at to make sure she does not allow things she does or has, define who she is. She talks about how we should do our part to keep outside forces, and more importantly things that we cannot change, from affecting our overall mood, behavior, and personality. Seeking to learn about ourselves, our loved ones, and those around us goes along way to helping us grow in this way. It is important that we realize that we are the average of the people that we spend our time with, and that some selfishness to maintain a healthy circle goes a long way for our mental health. Listen to the episode to hear all of the benefits that accepting what is holds, and what other key things we can do to tip the scale in our favor and help us maintain resiliency, compassion, and good spirits.

Check out the amazing UC Davis article below!

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Resources:

health.ucdavis.edu/medicalcenter/features/2015-2016/11/20151125_gratitude.html

Lana talks with Elizabeth about the importance of being your own advocate and informed consent in the healthcare industry. First, we learn a fun fact about Elizabeth and how it led her into the life of becoming a doula. We get some tips on how to travel safely, and for partners on how to provide support for mamas from pregnancy to birth!

Why are doulas beneficial? How can doulas and midwives help mamas? The ladies talk about the importance of doing your own research and speaking up when medical advice goes against your intuition. We hear why it is important to give grace around motherhood and why judging women’s choices or lack thereof is detrimental to the community. Elizabeth tells us all about some of the common misconceptions around doulas, midwives, and birth in general!

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Resources:

Evidence Based Birth Website: evidencebasedbirth.com/

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Evidence Based Podcast: evidencebasedbirth.com/blog

Lana discusses some of the key factors to effectively communicating both inside and outside of conflict. She talks about how we have to pick our battles accordingly so that we can adjust the stressors in our lives that we have control over, instead of allowing our problems to build up and overwhelm us. Lana talks about what it truly means to listen and understand someone versus just being an ear with little to no regard for the person we are speaking to, or their words. We learn how intentional or unintentional mistakes can still be treated the same when the overall solution begins with an apology. We get some tips on how not to apologize as well as how to do so properly. Hear how Lana breaks down 8 effective ways to enhance our communication strategies.

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Resources:

www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/the-right-wrong-way-to-apologize-why-it-matters.html

www.forbes.com/sites/amyanderson/2013/05/01/admitting-you-were-wrong-doesnt-make-you-weak-it-makes-you-awesome/?sh=70246757376b

Matt walks us through his journey from sports to being a corporate employee to finding his passion in Psychology. Lana and Matt discuss the importance of a morning and night routine and what being on our phone at late hours of the night really is doing to us. They talk about how roadblocks can end up being a benefit for us and help us to see things we may not realize otherwise. Are we our thoughts? Can we do anything without motivation? How do we have grace and compassion for people and how can we use our experiences as well as understand others’ to have a productive conversation? Listen to what Matt has to say about how he uses mindful thinking to be a better parent.

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