Who Can Relate?

For those of you who have been a part of the Who Can Relate? community, it comes as no surprise to hear me talk about Therapy and Attachment Styles. So in this weeks episode, I bring on a licensed Therapist to talk about both! We go over all attachment styles, including what ours are, why therapy is necessary and how it's completely changed my life for the better. This is one of my favorite episodes I've ever done and I can't wait to hear your thoughts from everyone! If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

4:15 Kiaundra’s Background

6:20 Benefits of therapy

9:30 Finding a therapist

12:48 Don’t wait until it’s too late

16:20 A communication hack my wife & I use

18:00 The Bible of Relationship book: Attached

21:20 Most Women are Anxious. Most Men are Avoidant

1:14:30 Rapid Fire Questions

1:25:20 Bonus Content

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/zVog4LxYhG0

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Kiaundra’s Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/kiaundrajackson

Website: www.KiaundraJackson.com

Books: https://kwcouplestherapy.com/myshop/

Resources: www.KiaundraJackson.com/links

Therapy Resources:

www.TherapyforBlackGirls.com

www.TherapyforBlackMen.org

www.PsychologyToday.com

www.CliniciansofColor.com

www.OpenPathCollective.org

Attachment Book Recap on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRNpGsvzOlw

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I had the honor, privilege and pleasure of sitting down with the one and only Shan Boody! We talk about Self-Sabotaging in life AND relationships. We share personal stories about our experiences and how we overcame them in large part due to finding the right partner. Some more topics that were covered: Can you work on completing yourself while in a relationship? Shan explains her marriage equation of 1+1=3. And… Would You Marry You? This one is loaded! I was taking notes during and after the episode haha. If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

6:40 My history of Self-Sabotaging

8:33 You have to change more than just your mind

12:40 Don't have boogers on your personality

19:14 Why it’s so difficult to take that hard look in the mirror

22:37 1+1=3 Shan & her husbands marriage equation

25:15 The balance between Selflessness & Self-Worth

29:06 When you’ve done the work & get ready to date again

32:51 Would You marry You?

34:03 When you meet your partner but don’t know where they fit into your life.

41:02 My discovery of when I would Self-Sabotage

45:00 Difference between Self-Sabotaging & just not wanting the person

50:43 Final Takeaway

55:27 Rapid Fire Questions

1:06:49 Bonus Content

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/yT03NDaxpSQ

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Shan’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboody/?hl=en

Shan’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/shannontboodram

Informational Source for Self-Sabotaging definitions: verywellmind.com

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We’ve all been there or are currently there now, on the “Rediscovery” road! Aka, the process to become the “New Me- Who dis?” Who Can Relate? I had the pleasure of sitting down with Miss Gabi Lopez to discuss that exact experience that she just so happens to be going through currently. We both share our journeys and bring so much insight to why this time is or will be, one of the best times in your life! If you’ve had failed relationship after failed relationship, this episode will bring clarity and answers to your issues and questions- for BOTH Men & Women! I love episodes like this, where we peel back the layers and really get to the core issues, all while bringing solution based nuances to the table! If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

2:00 Gabi’s background

2:45 What caused your rediscover?

6:57 Only You can complete You.

11:30 When you make arguing the norm.

17:02 But why now? Why the change now and not back when?

24:24 What happens when you take the toxic you into new relationships?

32:30 What does rediscovery look like for you?

34:22 Taking an oath of Celibacy.

37:40 Certain Men/Women for certain things.

41:30 Self worth & what it means to you?

46:05 Final Takeaway

50:14 Rapid Fire Questions

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/3vZVq01mOFs

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Gabi’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabrielalopezla/

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DISCLAIMER: This episode will not fully translate on the audio side of things. I highly recommend watching this on my YouTube channel. Link: https://youtu.be/1G2uQH7rhhg

“JD, what’s that stone thing you use for your face?” In this weeks episode, it’s all about self-care & self-love! We’ve been going at it with all the self-improvement stuff for the last 5 months, so I figured it was time to give back to ourselves with some TLC! My good friend Sophie goes over some of the best facial hacks you can do for anti-aging, under eye bags, headaches, etc! We talk about the many benefits of Gua Stones and why you should get your hands on some ASAP! Enjoy the spa day coming your way. If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

1:42 Sophie’s background with facial work

3:45 The difference between Gua Stone & Roller

5:50 Roller demonstration

8:45 Gua Sha Stone demonstration

11:30 The neck is so important!

13:05 Let’s get started!

22:23 Under the chin is a game changer

25:07 Puffiness & dark circles lin the eyes

32:28 Under the eyes

37:00 Forehead wrinkles go away!

41:36 Helps if you grind your teeth at night

44:30 Which stones to buy?

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/1G2uQH7rhhg

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Sophie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/consciouslivingbysophie/

Products:

https://livinglibations.com

CJB Beauty website for stones & rollers: https://beautysecretsus.com

More Gua Sha & Face massage tutorials:

https://youtu.be/4K7zpTQkdqs

https://youtu.be/Wec3UvRz_G0

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Ok, so last week we talked about Dating Under 30. So it was only right that this week we talk about Dating in your 30’s and what better guest to have on than my beautiful Wife! We met in our 30’s and thank God we did, otherwise I’m not too sure we’d be married, in large part due to me not being ready until that “click” appeared once I turned 30. In ths weeks episode, we talk about the Pro’s of dating in your 30’s, dating women in their 30’s who want a family, how there are certain women for certain things, why you should date knowing your worth & not someone who was just better than your ex, and why you should still date in your 20’s, but not with the intention of marriage. I can’t wait to hear from you guys about this one! You can leave a review below to let me know your thoughts!

Episode Time Stamps:

2:53 Pro’s of dating in your 30’s

5:35 Not truly knowing who you are in your 20’s

6:20 Still date in your 20’s, just manage your expectations

9:05 Date knowing your worth, not someone who’s better than your Ex

13:11 Did we know who we were in our 20’s?

15:02 Stop fixating on finding our soulmate, instead find yourself.

16:16 Knowing your Love Languages

20:10 Is there a “click” for Women when turning 30?

22:12 Something for Men that Women can’t do anything about.

24:47 Dating for women in their 30’s who want a family

28:11 Women- Stop being afraid to ask for what you want.

29:57 The Men who are afraid to have the break-up conversation

36:25 There are certain Women & Men for certain things

43:24 Rapid Fire Questions

1:00:00***Bonus Content***

If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/z68Uz2MatSo

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Shay's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xoshaydavis/

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In this weeks episode, my good friend Aygemang and I talk more in depth about why Men under 30 just aren’t ready for a life partner. We go over why Men take so long to “figure things out.” We share our experiences in our 20’s. Why knowing & loving who you are should always come first. And lastly, to the girl/guy dating under 30 saying, “but my partner is different” we try to get you to see our perspective. This episode was about what Aygemang & I personally feel strongly about & it may come across as the hard truth, but it’s still the truth. I hope you guys find this helpful & insightful, but nonetheless, please let me know what you think (good or bad) in the comments below! Don't forget to subscribe, like & turn on your notifications so you don't miss out on an episode!

Episode Time Stamps:

5:45 Aygemang’s background

7:13 Why it takes Men so long to come correct

10:20 Emotionally immature

12:45 Men under 30 “ready for marriage” are rare/non-existent

16:00 Men under 30 checklist

19:47 Message for the Women dating Men under 30

22:37 Why Men have a hard time expressing feelings/emotions

27:10 Why some messages resonate differently due to timing.

37:10 Aygemang’s company “ATLEXO” the first luxury fitness kit

41:45 Knowing who you are takes time

43:15 Dating under 30, odds are you’ll grow apart.

46:24 “But my boyfriend is different” -Random girl

53:45 Rapid Fire Questions

1:06:28 ***Bonus Content*** that YOU don't want to miss!

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/-tmiCadyd5s

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Aygemang’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aygemang/

Atlexo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/atlexo/

Atlexo website: https://atlexo.com

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In this weeks episode, Rome and I sit down to talk about the Ins & Outs of what dating with intentions really means. When you’ve done the work and finally start to date again. Why Men under 30 should not be considering a long-term relationship. How you can have multiple soulmates. How Men think in the short term, whereas Women think in the long term. And finally, why you should change your relationship with the word “relationship.” This episode is LOADED from start to finish & something tells me, this will be an all-time favorite episode!

If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

9:30 Do the internal work while you’re single

12:42 The difference between: A mess & a beautiful mess

16:00 Be comfortable being uncomfortable

18:00 “I had to change my relationship with the word relationship"

23:35 How to start the process of the “Intentional Man”

26:37 When you finally start to date again

32:30 “I don’t chase women anymore”

34:09 Choose the man or woman, who chooses you!

35:33 Men think in the short term-Women think in the long term

39:58 Love doesn’t keep a relationship together, Growth does.

42:42 Men aren’t worth a damn until they’re 30

46:45 You can have multiple soulmates

48:55 What does an intentional man look like?

51:40 What does an intentional man look for?

54:39 Rapid Fire Questions

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My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Rome’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iromealot/

Rome’s Podcasts: “Real Boss Talk”

https://www.patreon.com/comedytraphouse

Dormtainment info: https://linktr.ee/dormtainment

Shady Side Up: https://www.shadysideup.com

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In this weeks episode, I sit down with James Silvas, as he lets us in on something we all need- a Mindset Coach! We talk about how mastering your mindset, can be the ultimate advantage to becoming your best self. How breath work can solve most of your internal problems. What happens when you get hurt in relationships, or feel like you’re not a priority to your partner? Lastly, what happens when a Mindset Coach has a bad moment! This episode is loaded with a lot of value, so get your notes out & enjoy! If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

1:43 James’s background

4:55 What is a Mindset Coach?

7:30 Being in a positive delusion

11:05 When a Mindset Coach has a down moment

13:54 What does "Meta Meta” mean?

18:25 “Breath” book

21:00 Getting hurt in relationships

27:16 Feeling like your partner doesn’t prioritize you

35:55 Final Takeaways

43:24 Rapid Fire Questions

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/1hU75mwKbvg

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

James’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_silvas/

"Be that 1%" Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/be-that-1-podcast/id1330345445?i=1000505286475

https://www.jamessilvas.com

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Home Series on the couch is back! This time, we’re talking: How we fight, communicate & the failures we’ve had along the way. A friendly reminder to all, it’s not IF it’s WHEN you’re going to fight with your partner. However, if we can learn how each other fights, how they need/want to be communicated with and ultimately find the lesson in every moment of conflict, we have a better chance of having a healthy relationship. Shay & I let you in on what works for us and how we figured out what didn’t work for us… the hard way haha! You guys are going to have a lot of laughs in this one, enjoy! If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

8:47 Our Triggers & Traumas

13:27 Find the root of the problem, not just what’s on the surface.

20:05 Learn how your partner fights

22:38 How we fight

28:00 How Therapy helped us communicate better

34:29 What if your partner doesn’t want to go to therapy?

39:06 Then vs Now

42:24 Why Men resort to Anger as their choice of emotion

47:54 **BONUS CONTENT** We answer 2 questions from the audience

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/AJOy4OAHm7Y

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Shay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xoshaydavis/

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Finally, Let's talk about Books! We're kicking off this series with all things self-improvement. I talk about the top books that have changed my life & my mindset. From quick easy reads, to corner stone pillars I implement every single day, to something that I re-read every year, you're getting it all! If you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcast, let me know your thoughts in a review below! While you’re there, it would be AMAZING and mean the world to me, if you guys could leave a rating too!

Episode Time Stamps:

1:19 Why I started reading

3:13 Book #1: “The Maxwell Daily Reader” by John C. Maxwell

5:12 Book #2: “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne

7:52 Book #3: “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz

11:19 Book #4: “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero

17:05 Book #5: “Limitless” by Jim Kwik

21:21 How I read-"Active reading”

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/LsVablDfTOM

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis/

Links to purchase books:

#1 “The Maxwell Daily Reader” by John C. Maxwell

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1400203392/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

#2 “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne

https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Secret-Rhonda-Byrne/dp/1451673442/ref=sr_1_1?crid=14PA30JJP05P7&dchild=1&keywords=the+magic+rhonda+byrne+book&qid=1610990328&s=books&sprefix=the+magic+Rhonda%2Cstripbooks%2C198&sr=1-1

#3 “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz

https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319/ref=sxts_sxwds-bia-wc-rsf1_0?crid=30U3CP5KMJEUJ&cv_ct_cx=the+four+agreements&dchild=1&keywords=the+four+agreements&pd_rd_i=1878424319&pd_rd_r=2552d99f-3e80-4d80-b494-d87f8d833677&pd_rd_w=Lh9lV&pd_rd_wg=s4RCP&pf_rd_p=e0f994a8-a359-40a9-8917-dadca71c7184&pf_rd_r=WD12Z5QT45M4SMNTGK60&psc=1&qid=1610990356&s=books&sprefix=the+four+agree%2Cstripbooks%2C211&sr=1-1-526ea17f-3f73-4b50-8cd8-6acff948fa5a

#4 “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero

https://www.amazon.com/Badass-Making-Money-Books-Collection/dp/9123735600/ref=sr_1_8?crid=2Y1ZZJKAF6B4C&dchild=1&keywords=you+are+a+badass&qid=1610990380&s=books&sprefix=you+are+a+%2Cstripbooks%2C224&sr=1-8

#5 “Limitless” by Jim Kwik

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401958230/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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