Who Gets Love?? (Hosted by: Christal Clear & BJ)

The final draft of Smell the Rain Coming has arrived. The final draft speaks about self-inventory and accountability. The possibility of one being their own storm in life. Is it possible to be the cause and effect of your own love life? Thats what we discuss today.

BJ and Christal discuss what it's like to smell yourself...which in the old days meant to be full of yourself. It is very possible to become that when you feel you should be exempt from what takes place (good or bad) in relationships. And because these experiences haven't settled with you yet, you bring about a gust or raging wind when you arrive. That sometimes indicates what your attitude or energy is about. You become the storm for others, based on the storms you've been through.

Accountability is at the forefront of this conversation. Along with Christal's belief that it's important to be a storm sometimes for your own good. This final draft completes the cycle of life's experiences that you don't know how to prepare for. Take a listen and let us know what you think!!!

Rough Draft 3 is our new draft that discusses your perception of storms you've yet to experience in life. Far too often we live vicariously through those we are close to. And without realizing it, we rob ourselves of our own personal experiences. We want to bring light to how good a teacher our personal experiences can be to the development of our love languages. 

The subtitle of this conversation is called Weather Proofing Your Home...which is the analogy we use as a hedge against the energies that come against us when we choose to be positive in our actions and beliefs. There is always something that believes otherwise when we've made up our minds to believe such a thing as love. The question becomes:

How do you believe in something you have never experienced personally, when the accounts of others prominently show a different chain of events opposite of what you've decided for yourself. Where does the faith come from? What will you use as inspiration to stay the course that you have set for yourself (That no one knows about but you). We have a very layered discussion about faith being accompanied with work to weather the storms we will face at the hands of love. Hope you enjoy today's draft. 

Rough Draft 2 of Smell The Rain Coming deals with the beginning signs of storms that often go unnoticed. There are plenty of indications that serve as tell tales that go completely over our heads. And oftentimes we become upset with ourselves for what we've allowed, that we've seen all along. Which although we may have been wronged, we are still at fault for. 

This draft discusses The Lawn You Don't Water , which serves as a sub title for todays draft. Christal and BJ discuss the importance of understanding the position you play in the issues and circumstances you are in. The detail it takes to survey your land. And lastly, the importance of being weatherproof of individual , as well as relationship storm warnings. This may seem over the head. but if you press play...it will all make sense in the end. Let us know what you think!!

Who Gets Love bring a brand new conversation that deals with our instincts and intuitions. Titled Smell The Rain Coming, Christal and BJ discuss how are senses can assist in being proactive to our issues in relationships. There was a time when many believe to have had the ability to smell a storm in the air. Some of us still can smell the weather changes ahead just by getting a whiff of the outside air. But what about the air you breathe inside your home? Where are those same instincts and intuitions when the air is thick at home? Where are we in terms of sensibility in smelling the storms brewing with our partners? Tune in and tell us what you think!!! 

Here is the final draft of Wrong and Unsafe. Listen and tell us what you think. 

Listen to Wrong and Unsafe Rough Draft 3! 

This week's draft continues the conversation of topic, Wrong and Unsafe. This conversation intends on establishing grounds for people in question to find comfort in their realities. We discuss the responsibility it takes to become aware. As well as what has to happen for the people involved to be completely honest with one another. Which isn't always an easy task. Take a listen to this conversation and let us know what you think. Rough Draft 3 is around the corner! 

How important is honesty to you in today's world? Is it imperative that those around you keep it real with you?

Those are questions that NOW we question to even matter at this day and age. Considering the fact that living a lie is such a real thing today. Today, Who Gets Love is discussing the position of being insecure in yourself. And in the discussion, we dissect how incorrect our feelings and beliefs are to concepts (not necessarily character traits) we as people will believe without any inventory of self and others. What if the lie someone told you was their truth? Who determines the truth in this scenario?

Listen to this latest draft. You will eventually see how shaky the grounds of keeping it real can be. Enjoy Wrong and Unsafe. Its a goodie!!!

Today is the release of the Final Draft of Handsome Devil. This is a difficult conversation to have with yourself, and your partner. That conversation is when two people play a part in the current issues but can't defend their position at all. Normally, this happens when circumstances have reached a point of no return. How long do you continue to fight your demons before they kill you? That's primarily the question this conversation discusses. Christal and BJ challenge each other throughout the entire dialog. And in the end, a conclusion is made. Let us know what you think after you listen!!

Today's draft follows up on the conversation in Rough Draft 1, where BJ asked Christal..."how do you let a man know his promise, or potential, despite him not being the one you choose?'

We discuss how hard it is to stay energized in dating, with little to no encouragement or context from the person on the other side of the table. And for men, the complex responses from women often leave us feeling like failures when we can't gauge our progress. So, instead of continuing to put forth genuine efforts...we begin to create strategies to beat the dating system. And that's when the devil gets busy.

 We talk about the intentionality of women when it comes to a man having a few fumbles in the beginning stages. We also discuss the issues of men and their confidence to get the women they want. Should we show more grace to people who are a bit unsure how to approach us? Are you capable of rebounding, when you drop the ball with someone you like? These are concepts we tackle in the second draft of Handsome Devil.