Who Gets Love?? (Hosted by: Christal Clear & BJ)

Today we enter into Part 2 of The Unprepared, that we subtitled Make Believe. Here, Christal and BJ discuss the fantasy possibly being taken too far. The possibility is stretching your imagination so far that you being out of reach is now a thing in love today. And with opinions and perspectives, the duo discuss this openly and candidly for those who are awaiting a chariot or glass slipper from people who love from a very real place.

Instead of criticizing those who choose to believe fictional outcomes are possible in real relationships…we discuss the possibility of the term Make Believe being an actual responsibility for partners. Versus the description of fictional activity. What if your responsibility was to actually make someone believe love the way you've seen in the movies to live by? If it's actually your job to write a love story of your own…how prepared are you in saving the damsel in distress, who needs to be saved and rescued from her harsh realities of love? Can you love a knight in armor that is dull and has chinks?? Well if not, how do you prepare for what you made yourself believe all these years? Let's get into this discussion….open your minds and heart. Press play on the second part of The Unprepared.

This conversation is different. This is not your typical BJ, who has come to a full understanding of the things that he feels in this conversation, in previous discussions. Here, he is vulnerable and frustrated. Far removed from the place and time that these feelings derive from. This is not your typical Christal. Here, she is the teacher and the experience in this conversation. And from these two dispositioned co-hosts comes The Unprepared.

This speaks to the space of men and women who are not ready to receive one another. He feels he has the answers. She feels she needs to find her resolve on her own. He feels that she constantly curves him and leaves him on read. She feels like she wants to hide until she's ready to deal with people. Everything seems opposite of what it feels like. We navigate our experiences with hurt places in this conversation to give understanding and clarity to two people who have never dealt with themselves directly; and how this effects the person who wants to be a part of the solution you have yet to figure out for yourself.

The subtitle is called Cartoon Characteristics. This comes into play by way of our ideas of love and relationships. So much of who we are is merely fairytale. Men believing that they have to be responsible for everything and everybody. FAIRYTALE. Women not needing men or believing them to not be resourceful. FAIRYTALE. We learn here that many of our expectations and beliefs started with our formative years and adolescent television. And today, it seems to skew the realities we face with each other as adults. This is a challenging conversation....I hope you understand the need of this conversation. Hear BJ's frustration with empathy. Witness Christal teach with grace and compassion. This will help you to prepare for the many challenges we will face with one another.

The last and final part of The Willingness is here. Part 3 discusses Christal's theory that "You're Not Available Until You're Willing"...which completes the content cipher. In this conversation, we discuss the impossibilities that come about after you decide to do your shadow work. Most times, we think that karma reverses, after we decide to change. That rarely ever happens. Instead, it tests you to see if your change is authentic. And we must admit, its hard to stay positive when the negative seems to linger much longer than we expect. And from here, we created a magnificent conversation for the listeners.

There is so many great takeaways to grab from this. There is no way to paraphrase a conversation packed with wisdom, knowledge, and valuable experience. We just suggest that you focus in on what's being discussed. It leads to a greater conversation coming in a few weeks that will take your Willingness to another level. Tune in and tell us what you think!!!!

And did we mention that the conversation was so good, that we ended up doing The Recap while in the midst of wrapping this up. Seems like we naturally flowed into The Recap from the conversation. So you get The Recap as well at the end. Enjoy!!1

We have arrived at the second installment of The Willingness conversation. We touched on the misunderstandings that prohibit willingness in Part 1. But in this conversation, we peel back the layers a bit to really get to the bottom of willful understanding and cooperation…and what that means for your relationship.

In this conversation, which is sub titled “Your Availability Does Not Mean Willing”…Christal and BJ lay out questions that build on your understanding of what it truly takes to be willing. The questions are raw, honest, and transparent. Each question helps you see what it actually takes to be willing. It takes awareness. It takes shadow work. It takes ownership. There are so many things that come before your readiness and availability for love.

Listen as Christal and BJ learn more about where their co hosts perspectives derive from. You will be surprised by the questions…and the answers. Truly the lightest, yet impactful conversation to have as a second part of the series. Enjoy this and share your thoughts!!!

So...we have just wrapped up The Potluck, to discuss where we got the first experiences of bringing things to the table. Whether you were empty handed, inexperienced, or overcompensating for the lack of others. You may have recognized a pattern. One day we are the age of an adult and we are supposed to identify a quality partner to build a life with, when we have no clue on how what we offer holds up in the real world. We may feel we know what we want, but was any of those things based in reality?

So if you have been or currently in the place of trying to figure out what you truly want and how to get it, you arrived HERE. Today, we are having the discussion of The Willingness. The space you are in when you know it’s time to work on yourself. Even if you are in a relationship you may notice there are some areas that need improvement. So now we enter the Willingness conversation for yourself, and your partner.

BJ and Christal begin this conversation with their own perspectives to Willingness. An entendre if you will. Saying their perspectives out loud made the other variable that much powerful. We break those perspectives down in pieces, and we realize that we communicate the same things, just differently. Which is why we subtitled this conversation, The Common Misconceptions.

Listen as we discuss being willing, scared, in the dark, in the know, and in fear….in one conversation. And what each of us should do for each other once we arrive to these spaces. There was so much uncovered in this, that made sense to all of the challenging moments we experienced that may have led to us being unwilling today. You will enjoy Part 1 of THREE conversations we are having this month. The Willingness is such a great dialogue from your new Co-Ed content creatives. Let's dig in!!

A quick overview of a powerful conversation. If you haven't listened to parts 1 & 2 of The Potluck, STOP and go to listen. This recap doesn't do any justice to the content within those two conversations. You will enjoy what you hear. But if you have heard the conversations, press play. We give an overview, along with pointers. We also drop some announcements too!!! 

We have returned to you with the second part of The Potluck. The Potluck is an analogy based on the habits and beliefs you developed over the years, in terms of proper contributions and table manners. These skills directly effect you in terms of family and your love life. We discussed the women and the habits some of them have. But NOW, we discuss our men and the passive leadership, in what we will subtitle, The Head of The Table.

Christal and BJ delve into a conversation about a man's communication, in terms of his appetite. But this doesn't reflect his hunger or taste buds. It's more directed towards what he chooses to stomach in his manhood, for the sake of living up to society's standards. His hunger then turns him to some very bad habits, that effect his family and relationships. Some things he is completely unaware of.  Which leads us to a loaded question that only he can answer: Who is responsible for making his plate? His Woman or Himself?

In order for you to know where this is going, you will have to press play and supper with us on this very hearty conversation. BJ's confused feelings coupled with Christal's compassion created a very healthy dialogue that's long overdue for discussion at the table. You will thoroughly enjoy this from start to finish. Let us know what you think!!! 

We arrive to our topic choice for the month of June. The topic chosen from Who Gets Love is called The Potluck. The Potluck is a cultural tradition that we use to pool our resources together to prepare a meal for the family. And in this space, we now realize that some very unhealthy table manners are developed. BJ was able to recognize some ideals that stem from family gatherings he has attended in life. And now that he shares co host responsibilities with Christal Clear...he decided to bring this conversation to their table of content.

The Potluck starts with Part 1, which is sub titled "The 3 Women At The Table"...and this conversation discusses some not so typical circumstances that happens at these potlucks to women directly. So much responsibility is assumed for our women, in terms of protection and provision. But what happens when its her turn to make accommodations for someone other than herself? How will she ever gain an understanding of the responsibilities taken for her, if she never gets to experience the responsibility for herself and others? We ask these questions here today, because this very same woman shows up at a completely different table expecting to be taken care of...while not knowing what to give in return on dates as well. The potlucks in her family gatherings are what taught her what she now knows in terms of reciprocation in dating. Now there are men in her life telling her that what she brings to the table is nowhere near enough. But she can't trust their words due to the fact that nothing was ever required of her at any of the tables she's previously been seated at. Do you see where this is going???

Tune in and let us know what you think about this very dynamic conversation between Christal and BJ. This will definitely ruffle some feathers for the greater good. And trust, Part 2 gets even deeper. 

Who Gets Love returns with a brief overview of the first month's worth of content. Compensation was a great start to self development in a relationship. Understanding your worth and what it commands from other people puts you in a great space. So BJ and Christal delve into some of the key points of both conversations. Christal explains how compensation impacted her experiences. BJ was able to draw a few conclusions from experiences he didn't understand, while in the midst of the lessons. This short summary will definitely impress upon you to go back and listen to Parts 1 and 2 of Compensation. Take a listen before the next topic discussions come in June. Thank you for subscribing, sharing and supporting!!!