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In this episode, I’m joined by Renee.

We trained together, but she’s taken a very different path. Less structure, less rules, more creativity and depth. This conversation sits inside identity, realness, and what happens when you strip away who you think you are.

Renee works with weaving as a therapeutic process. Not just the outcome, but the act itself. Sitting, creating, and allowing something deeper to come through. The product matters, but the process holds just as much weight.

What stood out straight away was how quickly identity starts to fall apart when you question it. Who are you without your work, without validation, without the story you tell yourself about who you are? She speaks openly about that space where everything external drops away and you’re left with something a bit more raw and a lot less certain.

We also go into realness. Not the polished version. The actual version. The part where you stop performing, stop following rules, and start being honest about what’s actually there. How most of us are conditioned into roles and expectations, and how easy it is to lose ourselves inside that.

There’s also a big piece around relationships. Not trying to fix or change the other person, but being able to sit with them exactly as they are. And the uncomfortable truth that if you can’t do that, you’ve got to question what you’re actually doing in the relationship in the first place.

This one moves deeper than surface level pretty quickly.

Less about answers, more about questioning the things you’ve been blindly accepting as truth.

The question Renee leaves for the next guest is this.

What question would you most often ask yourself if your consideration was self-honouring?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist
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In this episode, it’s just me.

No guest, no buffer, no one to hide behind. Just me and the question that was left from the previous episode and where it took me.

This one moves into inaction, collapse, and what it actually takes to change. Not as ideas, but as lived experience.

The conversation comes straight out of Easter. Not the version most people focus on, not the story or the history, but the pattern underneath it. Death and rebirth. Collapse and what comes after it.

I go back to a moment in my own life where everything had fallen apart. Addiction, violence, blame, running the same story over and over again with different people and getting the same outcome every time. Eventually there was nowhere left to run. That point where inaction is no longer an option. That point where something in you either breaks or changes.

The shift from believing everyone else is the problem to realising the common denominator might actually be me. Not as shame, but as responsibility. And how confronting that is when the story you have built your life around starts to fall apart.

I also go into something that gets missed a lot.

That what I was chasing in addiction was not the substance. It was the feeling. The connection. The relief. And how easily that gets transferred into something else. Work, success, money, relationships. Different form, same pattern.

This is not about recovery as a concept.

It is about what it actually costs to stop running. What it takes to drop the story. What it takes to stop needing to be right and start looking at what is actually happening.

I talk about the moment where the ego cracks and something deeper has a chance to come through.

The question I leave for the next guest is this.

What would collapse if you stopped being right?

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In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah G.

Sarah is a university student working full time, with a strong interest in self improvement, introspection, and understanding herself beyond surface level thinking.

We sit inside intuition, overthinking, and inaction.

Not as concepts.
As lived experience.

We talk about the split most of us are taught early on.

Mind over body.
Logic over feeling.
Thinking over knowing.

Sarah speaks about growing up trusting thought above everything else. Over analysing. Interrogating every decision. Delaying action until everything felt certain.

And what that cost her.

We stay with that tension.

The gap between knowing and doing.
The hesitation that looks intelligent but keeps you stuck.
The subtle way overthinking becomes avoidance.

We talk about intuition.

Not as something mystical.
As something practical.

The ability to move.
To decide.
To trust without needing complete certainty.

This conversation also touches on anxiety and depression.

Not as something broken.
As a response.

A response to living in the past.
A response to living in the future.
A response to being disconnected from the present moment.

We do not fix it.

We sit inside the cost of not trusting yourself.
The cost of waiting.
The cost of staying safe.

And what starts to shift when you finally move anyway.

The question Sarah leaves for the next guest is this.

At what point in your life did inaction cost you?

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In this episode, I’m joined by Di Black.

Di is a psychotherapist and someone who was also my therapist for a period of time. She brings depth, honesty, and a willingness to sit in uncomfortable spaces without needing to rush to answers.

We sit inside fear, identity, and vulnerability.

Not as concepts.
As lived experience.

We start with a question that hits hard.

Share your most guarded secret.
Your most embarrassing fear.
The thing you least want to say out loud.

We stay with what that brings up.

Di speaks about recurring dreams. Feeling lost. Losing identity. Not knowing who she is or where home is. The fear of losing memory, losing self, and what it means to exist without the structure we rely on.

We sit with that.

Not to analyse it.
Not to fix it.
Just to be in it.

We move into addiction.

Not just substances.
Addiction to thinking.
Addiction to being right.
Addiction to our own perspective.

We talk about how hard it is to step outside of that. How we live inside our own version of reality and mistake it for truth.

And how relationships force us to confront that.

To step into someone else’s experience.
To drop the certainty.
To admit we might not see the full picture.

We also touch on vulnerability in therapy.

The idea that therapists are not above the work.
That hiding behind the role can become another defence.
And that real connection comes from being human first.

We do not solve anything.

We sit inside the discomfort of not knowing.
Of not being as together as we think we should be.
Of recognising that the work never really ends.

The question Di leaves for the next guest is this.

If you could have your life over again, what would you change?

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In this episode, I’m joined by Tommy.

Tommy is in recovery. He is also a businessman, a dog dad, and the founder of Takeoff Monkey, a construction estimating business he built after drinking himself out of everything and starting again from nothing.

We sit inside recovery, accountability, and what happens when one person starts to wake up.

Not as ideas.
As lived experience.

We talk about what it means to admit fault in a relationship and then have that honesty turned back on you as a weapon.

We stay with the tension of that.

How owning your shit can be freeing.
How it can also be dangerous in the wrong relationship.
How one person doing the work cannot carry the whole burden for two.

Tommy speaks openly about sobriety, obsession, and what happened when he got sober and realised the life he was in no longer fit. Not because she was a bad person. Not because he was above it. But because waking up changed the whole dynamic.

We also talk about transference.

How addiction does not just disappear.
How alcohol can become work.
How the pub can become the gym.
How the same unconscious drive just puts on different clothes.

This is not a conversation about being healed.
It is about being honest enough to see the pattern.

We talk about masculinity, emotional safety, repair, and how rare it is for two people to both take responsibility in the same moment.

Because when they do, something shifts.

Not perfectly.
But enough.

The question Tommy leaves for the next guest is this.

Share your most guarded secret.
Your most embarrassing fear.
The thing you least want to say out loud.

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In today's episode I am on my own.

Last week Toni Will left the next guest a question.

What have you changed your mind about lately?

Usually my guests get hit with that question without warning. This time it landed on me.

For most of my life I believed the problem in my relationships was the other person.

The partner.
The boss.
The coworker.

Different people. Same story.

Eventually something uncomfortable happened.

I ran out of people to blame.

This episode sits inside that turning point.

The moment where I started to realise that if the same dynamic keeps happening with different people, the common denominator might actually be me.

I talk about how easy it is to build an identity around being the victim of your story. How we walk around repeating the same narrative about what happened to us, who hurt us, and why things never seem to work out.

And how confronting it is when that story starts to fall apart.

I also talk about a moment that landed for me recently through a simple Japanese haiku.

Barn burns down.
Now I can see the moon.

Sometimes the thing we thought was protecting us is actually what was blocking us.

When the structure collapses it feels terrifying. But sometimes that collapse is exactly what lets us see something deeper that was always there.

This episode also touches on something that gets missed in a lot of personal development conversations.

Responsibility sounds mature. It sounds enlightened.

But responsibility can also be dangerous if you offer it in the wrong places.

If you start owning your behaviour around people who will not look at themselves, that responsibility can quickly be turned into a weapon against you.

So the work is not just about looking in the mirror.

It is also about knowing where it is safe to do that work.

Because if only one person in a relationship starts waking up, the dynamic often cannot survive the shift.

We do not solve it.

We sit inside the discomfort of recognising our own patterns, our own ego, and the ways we keep repeating the same story.

The question I leave for the next guest is this.

Have you ever admitted you were wrong or at fault in a relationship and had it used as a weapon against you?

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In this episode, I’m joined by Toni Will.

Toni is the General Manager of a men’s professional hockey team in Michigan. She is one of the few women in the world in that role. She is five and a half years sober, runs a coaching business helping high functioning professionals reduce or remove substances from their lives, hosts a podcast, and has a book coming out this year.

We sit inside pressure, identity, and relief.

Not as ideas.
As lived experience.

We talk about high performance environments. What happens when success breeds more pressure. What it means to be at the top of your field and still be human.

We move into sobriety. Not as a badge. Not as a moral high ground. But as something that can start as armor.

Toni speaks openly about using sobriety as protection at first. Living it out loud. Hiding inside the identity so she would not slip back into who she used to be.

We sit with the tension between pride and self righteousness. Between healing and ego. Between growth and performance.

Then we land on something deeper.

Relief.

Not just addiction to substances. Addiction to relief. The search for dopamine. The escape through food, shopping, achievement, busyness, validation.

We ask the harder question.

What are you actually trying to escape?

This is not a conversation about fixing addiction.
It is about noticing where relief has quietly replaced presence.

We do not resolve it.
We leave it where it lives.

The question Toni leaves for the next guest is this.

What have you changed your mind about lately?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist
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Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
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Toni is a Coach and Author and can be found at:

Website: toniwill.com (empowHER 2026 - conference, Rebellious Success - book)
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In this episode, I’m joined by Claire.

Claire is a counsellor, a mother, a wife, and someone I studied with. She understands this work from the inside, not just professionally, but personally.

We sit inside authenticity, over responsibility, and rejection.

Not as concepts.
As lived relationship dynamics.

We talk about the illusion that therapy is about fixing other people and the reality that it becomes a mirror. A constant confrontation with your own patterns. Your own defences. Your own subtle violence.

We sit with what it costs to be fully authentic.

Not the cost of hiding.
The cost of actually showing up.

Claire shares something uncomfortable. In trying not to reject her husband, she was rejecting him in micro ways. Correcting. Reframing. Telling him what he really meant. Gaslighting without intending to.

We stay inside that tension.

How good intentions still wound.
How perfection creates distance.
How taking too much responsibility can become another defence.

This is not a conversation about getting it right.
It is about noticing where we create the very dynamic we say we do not want.

We do not fix it.
We do not wrap it up.

We leave it where it lives. In the complexity of two imperfect people trying to meet each other without weapons.

The question Claire leaves for the next guest is this.

What do you blame your partner for but secretly it suits you?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist
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Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

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Claire is a Clinical Psychotherapist and can be found at:

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In this episode, I’m on my own.

Solo episodes are different. Harder. There’s nowhere to hide when there’s no guest sitting across from you.

This one sits inside resentment, projection, and accountability — not as theory, but as lived history.

I speak about Pam, my former mother-in-law, and a period of my life where I was reactive, resentful, and convinced someone else was the problem. Messages were sent. Blame was projected. Stories were told — and believed.

And then came the moment that this podcast is named after:
Where I thought it was her.
Oh fuck — it’s me.

We sit inside what it costs to hold a story for decades.
The bar stool version of 1982 that never ends.
The righteousness of being wronged.
The protection of staying the victim.

Not to fix it.
Not to rewrite it.
But to notice how strong the pull is to look out instead of in.

Amy’s message from the previous episode was simple:
The next time you think about judging somebody, stop — and ask yourself why.

This episode sits inside that.

Where do I still judge?
Where do I still protect?
Where do I still tell stories that keep me safe but disconnected?

We move through social media envy.
Engagement frustration.
Expectation inside relationships.
Even a recent engagement and the quiet tension between authenticity and performance.

What does it cost to wear the mask?
What does it cost to remove it?

We don’t land it neatly.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives — inside the tension between awareness and embodiment.

The message left for the next guest is this:

What is the cost of being fully accountable to yourself — and fully authentic?
And how does that cost you in your life?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
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Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
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In this episode, I’m joined by Amy.

Amy had read It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there.

We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed.

We talk about how judgment starts early.
Learned in families.
Normalised as personality.
Used as protection.

And how it quietly follows us into adult life — into relationships, work, parenting, and intimacy — especially with the people we feel safest with.

We stay with what it’s like to catch yourself after the judgment has already happened.
Mid-thought.
Mid-reaction.
And to feel the discomfort of seeing it without immediately defending it, justifying it, or turning it into someone else’s fault.

This isn’t a conversation about stopping judgment.
It’s about noticing the cost.

The cost of distance.
The cost of righteousness.
The cost of staying protected instead of present.

We don’t clean it up.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives.

The episode ends with something left for the next guest to carry forward:
The next time you think about judging somebody, stop, turn it around and ask yourself that question. Why am I about to judge them? That's it.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
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Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

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