Whole Black Woman

In this conversation, we discuss the transformative experience of childbirth through the lens of HypnoBabies. We explore the importance of language in the birthing process, the myths surrounding Black birthing experiences, and the empowerment that comes from understanding one's agency in childbirth. Aleisha shares her personal journey with HypnoBabies, emphasizing the significance of community support and the role of consent in the birthing experience. The discussion culminates in envisioning a liberated birth, where individuals feel empowered to make choices that align with their needs and desires.

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IG: blissfulbirthkc

Website: www.blissfulbirthkc.com

Learn More about hynobabies: www.hypnobabies.com

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Self-love is more than affirmations, candles, or soft playlists. In this episode of The Whole Black Woman Podcast we explore the layers of self-love: how it’s shaped by our past, how it shows up in our daily lives, and how to love the parts of ourselves we were told to hide.

Joined by Saunya Starr, Author, Wellness Entrepreneur and Creative, Creator of Fully Loving Yourself, we’re unpacking what it means to truly come home to yourself. This includes acceptance, self-trust, and the kind of love that holds you through your mess, not just your milestones.

Whether you’re just starting the journey or deep in the work, this episode offers you tools, reflection, and permission to love yourself as is.

👩🏾‍⚕️ Guest: Saunya Starr J, BA, LMBT

IG: www.instagram.com/astarrylife_/

YT: https://www.youtube.com/@FullyLovingYourself

🔁 Life Work This Week:

This week, take one part of yourself you usually hide, and sit with it. Not to fix it. Not to erase it. But to meet it with curiosity and compassion.

Ask yourself:

• Where did this come from?

• Who told me it made me unworthy?

• What do I want to believe about myself instead?

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For so many Black women, the messages we received about sex and faith were rooted in control, shame, and silence. We were taught to save ourselves, be modest, and suppress desire, but nobody told us what to do with the guilt, the fear, or the disconnection we felt from our own bodies.

This episode is for women who are trying to navigate sexual shame while still holding onto their faith.

We’re breaking down:

✔️ The psychological impact of sexual shame and how it shows up in relationships, pleasure, and self-worth.

✔️ What healing looks like when you’re trying to reconcile faith and sexuality.

✔️ How to reclaim your body, your pleasure, and your wholeness without abandoning your spirituality.

I’m joined by De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar, Missouri’s first Black AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist , who is going to help us unpack all of this.

Life Work for This Week:

This week, I want you to question one belief you were taught about sex that no longer serves you.

💭 Was it the idea that pleasure is sinful?

💭 Was it the belief that your body doesn’t belong to you?

💭 Was it that shame that comes with enjoying intimacy?

Once you identify it, I want you to challenge it. Find a new narrative that honors both your faith and your sexual autonomy.

📚 Further Reading:

• Christian Post: The Harm of Purity Culture & The Church’s Role (⁠ChristianPost.com⁠)

• Pew Research Center: Black Protestants & Changing Views on Casual Sex (⁠PewResearch.org⁠)

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Healing isn’t linear. You can do the work, set the boundaries, grow into your wholeness, and still have moments where an old wound gets triggered, making you question everything all over again.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about what it feels like when you thought you were past something, only for it to creep back in and shake your confidence. Does this mean you’re back at square one? Does it mean you’re not whole after all? Absolutely not.

Your Life Work this Week:

This week when those feelings creep in, I want you to remind yourself:

I am still whole.

Let me know how this feels for you. DM me on Instagram (@wholeblackwoman) and share your reflection. I'm only on IG until 3/1! Then catch me on Blue Sky and Spill

Black mothers are expected to be everything to everyone. The nurturer, the strong one, the provider, the fixer. But where does that leave them? In today’s episode, we’re talking about boundaries in motherhood, why they’re necessary, how to set them even when guilt creeps in, and why boundaries are not a rejection of love but an act of self-preservation.

We’ll also break down the difference between boundary violations and boundary crossings, and how society’s expectations make it harder for Black women to say “No” without guilt.

👩🏾‍⚕️ Guest: Jessica Lyles, LISW-CP.

IG: www.instagram.com/therapistjess_/

💡 Topics We Covered:

🔹 The biggest boundary struggles Black mothers face.

🔹 How society, family, and partners make it hard to say no without guilt.

🔹 The psychological cost of not enforcing boundaries.

🔹 Practical strategies for setting and maintaining boundaries in motherhood.

🔹 How to move from feeling guilty to feeling empowered.

Your Lifework This Week:

I want you to consider ONE boundary (just one, Rome wasn't built in a day).

📩 DM me on socials and tell me what boundary you’re setting this week!

📖 Article Cited: Chernata, T. (2024). Personal boundaries: Definition, role, and impact on mental health. Personality and Environmental Issues, 3(1), 24–30. ⁠⁠https://doi.org/10.31652/2786-6033-2024-3(1)-24-30⁠⁠

📚 Further Reading:

We Need An Honest Conversation About Black Women, Families & Boundaries

Diary of an Honest Mom: “How to Set Boundaries with Family and Children”

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It's a new day, make of it what you will

Absolutely

You deserve to be heard

"We all have the same 24 hours....."   Yeah Right

It can be so annoying