Episode 14: Breaking the “Single Mom” Stigma with Gav 🎙️

Ever wondered if being a single mom is a dating dealbreaker? 🤔 Join us in this eye-opening episode as Jess chats with her partner Gav, who brings a refreshing perspective to this often feared topic. We dive into a question many of my single mom followers have asked: “Does having kids make dating harder?”

Gav shares his candid thoughts on how past experiences shape our dating views and how societal pressures often create outdated stereotypes. From our own journey of blending families to the benefits of being upfront about your situation, this episode challenges the old-school stigma and highlights the evolving landscape of relationships.

Tune in to discover why having kids shouldn’t be a barrier but rather a unique aspect of your dating profile that can attract the right kind of partner.

Plus, get insights on how embracing your role as a mum with confidence can change the dating game entirely.

Ready to shift your mindset? Listen now and reshape your dating narrative! 💫

Episode 13: In this episode, Jess is joined by her partner Gav, sharing his fresh perspective on a topic that touches many—why people avoid therapy, even when dealing with significant trauma.

Have you ever wondered why, despite knowing the benefits, some people still steer clear of therapy? Gav, who’s new to the world of deep healing and therapy, provides an insightful look into this phenomenon. From his experience as the go-to friend for advice to his own journey through healing practices like breathwork and hypnosis, Gav reveals the real reasons behind the resistance to therapy.

Discover why vulnerability makes therapy seem daunting and how the fear of opening emotional “cans of worms” can be paralysing. We discuss the unsettling feeling of facing unknowns and why the thought of change can be even scarier than the problems we’re trying to solve.

We challenge the myth that therapy will make you worse before it gets better and explore how finding the right therapeutic approach can expedite real, meaningful change.

Tune in to learn why confronting your trauma sooner rather than later might be the key to freeing yourself from it. If you know someone who could benefit from this discussion, don’t forget to share!

Welcome to episode 12 of Why Do I Do That? In this captivating episode, we dive deep into the loaded and controversial question: "Why do I cheat, even when I feel really bad afterwards?" Join us as we explore the multifaceted nature of infidelity with our insightful guest, Steph J.

Steph's knee-jerk reaction to this question leads us into the realm of shadow work, where we uncover the hidden desires and suppressed emotions that might drive someone to cheat. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, we discuss how deep-seated needs and unconscious patterns play a crucial role in this behavior.

We'll take you through real-life scenarios, shedding light on how trauma recreation and unmet desires for passion and aliveness can push individuals towards infidelity. You'll hear about a fascinating case study from the Ashley Madison documentary, revealing that many cheaters still love their partners but seek something missing in their lives—often a sense of excitement and vitality.

This episode isn't just about understanding why people cheat; it's about offering a compassionate and curious perspective on these behaviors. We discuss the importance of self-awareness, radical honesty, and integrating different parts of our personalities to lead more fulfilling lives.

Whether you're grappling with similar questions or seeking to understand human behavior better, this episode is a must-listen. Join us for an enlightening conversation that blends psychological insights with practical advice, helping you navigate the complexities of human relationships.

In Episode 11 of "Why Do I Do That?", we dive deep into an issue that affects many of us: prioritising others' opinions over our own. Our host is joined by Stephy J, a fellow expert in the healing industry, to explore this pervasive question. This episode promises not just a casual chat between friends, but a transformative conversation that blends education with heartfelt insights.

Discover why we often seek external validation and how our childhood experiences shape this behavior. Steph and Jess share personal anecdotes, revealing how even as adults, we can struggle with the need for approval. Learn practical steps to shift from seeking validation to self-validation, fostering a healthier relationship with yourself.

This episode is perfect for anyone feeling overwhelmed by others' expectations. Steph’s compassionate approach and actionable advice offer a roadmap to reclaiming your self-worth and living authentically. Don't miss this empowering discussion that could change how you view yourself and your interactions with the world.

Tune in and start your journey towards self-acceptance and inner peace.

Episode 10: Ever wonder why you can't handle too many sounds at once in your home? This episode dives into why women, especially mums, feel overwhelmed by noise. You’ll discover two main reasons: how you were raised and the state of your nervous system.

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Discover practical steps to reclaim your calm and handle life’s chaos with ease. For a quick eye movement technique to soothe your nervous system, check out my social media.

🔗 Share the Wisdom: Know someone struggling with overstimulation and burnout? Share this episode with them and help spread the calm.

To work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess, use the link below:

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Episode 9: Navigating Negative Focus in Loving Relationships

In Episode 9 of "Why Do I Do That?", we dive into the common dilemma many women face: Why do we often hyper-focus on the negatives in our loving partners? Jess uncovers the psychology behind this behaviour, identifying three key reasons: protection, projection, and a misplaced need for drama.

The episode also emphasises the importance of healing both individually and within a relationship. Our host explains how secure relationships provide a safe space to address and heal relational wounds, contrasting the supportive behaviour of a secure partner with the detrimental patterns of insecure attachments.

Don't miss this deep dive into relational psychology, filled with actionable insights and practical advice for anyone looking to enhance their love life. For a more comprehensive guide, check out the Love Wounds program mentioned in the episode.

Share this episode with friends who need a fresh perspective on their relationships, and join us next time for more enlightening discussions!

To work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess, use the link below:

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Episode 8: The Secret to Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Why do I never follow through with things? Are you guilty of signing up for a course only to never watch it? Or perhaps you've paid for a gym membership, went once, and never returned? This episode is tailor-made for you. Join Jess as she delves into a common yet crippling issue that touches all aspects of life: the inability to follow through.

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🎧 Tune In and Transform Your Life: If you’ve ever struggled with following through, this episode is a must-listen. Jess’s insights and practical tips will help you break free from self-sabotage and create a life where you consistently achieve what you set out to do. Share this episode with someone who needs it—yes, even if they might be a bit offended. They’ll thank you later!

To work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess, use the link below:

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Episode 7: Why Can't I Remember My Childhood? 

Unlocking the Mystery of Repressed Memories

Welcome back to another compelling episode of "Why Do I Do That?" This week, Jess delves into one of the most intriguing and complex listener questions yet: "Why can't I remember my childhood?"

In this episode, Jess explores the layers behind memory recall and what it means when we can't remember our early years. You'll discover that it's perfectly normal to only have a few vivid memories from each year of your life. Jess explains how these memories typically surface only when relevant, painting a picture of how our brain prioritises information.

But what about those who have large, unexplained gaps in their memory? Jess breaks down the concept of repressed memories, a topic she's deeply familiar with from her personal and professional experience. Learn how repressed memories can manifest as fragmented, elusive "edges" of a memory and why our brains might hide these experiences from us.

Jess also sheds light on the distinction between repressed and suppressed memories, and how each impacts our mental health. With vivid examples, she describes how the brain stores traumatic memories in a way that can make them feel fresh and immediate when they resurface, often leaving us confused and overwhelmed.

For those struggling with unexplainable feelings of depression or anxiety, Jess provides invaluable insights into identifying potential repressed memories. She shares touching stories from her clients and her own life, illustrating the profound impact of betrayal trauma—where those meant to protect us are the ones causing harm.

Jess discusses the critical role of safety in uncovering these hidden memories and how feeling secure can make all the difference in the healing process. You'll learn practical strategies to build self-trust and prepare your mind to face and process these difficult memories.

Don't miss this eye-opening episode that not only answers your questions about childhood amnesia but also offers hope and guidance for those on a journey to uncover and heal from their past. Join Jess as she navigates the delicate balance between protecting ourselves and facing our truths, offering a beacon of light for anyone struggling with the shadows of forgotten memories.

To work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess, use the link below:

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Episode 6: Uncover the Truth Behind The Thought “Why Does No One Like Me?”

Welcome to episode six of "Why Do I Do That?" where Jess dives deep into the pervasive and distressing belief many women face: "Why does no one like me?"

In this eye-opening episode, Jess unravels the root of this common concern, explaining how childhood experiences shape core beliefs and influence adult perceptions.

Discover the transformative power of belief work as Jess shares compelling client stories and practical strategies to shift negative mindsets.

Learn how to harness your thoughts and perceptions to foster genuine connections and cultivate a positive self-view.

If you or someone you know struggles with feelings of unworthiness, this episode is a must-listen. Share it, embrace it, and start your journey toward self-acceptance today.

To work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess, use the link below:

https://linktr.ee/jessellaainsworth

Welcome back to "Why Do I Do That?"

In this episode, we're diving deep into a compelling and often misunderstood phenomenon: the addiction to healing. If you find yourself constantly seeking the next self-help book, therapy session, or healing modality, you're not alone. This episode uncovers the three critical reasons behind this endless cycle of self-improvement, and how to break free from it.

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Curious about how to move through the stages of healing effectively? Jess introduces her transformative workshop, Self-Mastery. This 2.5-hour session delves into the stages of healing, providing practical tools to navigate them smoothly. Learn how to achieve emotional balance and embrace the ultimate stage of healing—surrender and joy.

Don't miss this enlightening episode that promises to shift your perspective on healing and self-improvement. Share it with friends and family who might need to hear this crucial message, and take the first step towards a more balanced, fulfilling life.

By addressing these aspects with relatable anecdotes and expert advice, Jess not only captivates the audience but also offers tangible solutions to transform their healing journey. Tune in and discover how to break free from the addiction to healing and truly enjoy life to its fullest.

Follow this link for ways to work with, learn from or get in contact with Jess

https://linktr.ee/jessellaainsworth