Have you ever gotten to the point in your marriage where your spouse felt more like the enemy than the person you committed to stand by in sickness and in health? What used to feel easy now feels tense. Conversations turn into misunderstandings. Small things feel big. Or maybe it's not conflict, it's distance. You're living side by side, but feeling miles apart.

Somewhere along the way, everything started to feel… personal. And today, we're talking about why that happens, and how to change it.

Episode Highights:

It's not you vs. your spouse. It's you both vs the pattern.

Your thought life shapes your marriage

Healing and gratitude change everything.

Quotes from Today's Episode:

One moment doesn't define your marriage.- Mrs. Nancy

The more I'm grateful for who Nancy is in my life, it's so much easier to say "no, I'm not talking this personal."

People get ticked off for so many easy things nowadays and it's easy to get sucked into that.

We don't want to look at ourselves. If I can blame Nancy then I can stay with that and not have to blame myself. God had to work on me.

Our negative thinking can take over so much of the time. That negative thought process- and I have to go back to Romans 12: 2. Renewing our mind. That's the key.- Mrs. Nancy

If there are old wounds, we have to take care of those.

Time to Talk About it:

Do you feel like I do things just to upset you? If so, how can we resolve this?

List out 5 things you are grateful for about your spouse. Share them with one another.

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

• Unmet expectations can wreak havoc on your marriage. You need this brand new resource: The Marriage Expectations Worksheet

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Summer is coming and the beach is calling, and the Lord can use the ocean to speak encouragement into your marriage- see for yourself Islands, Tides and the Deep: A Marriage Message from the Sea

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

• It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer this month, you'll receive our brand new Marriage Expectations Worksheet. This powerful tool is going to change the way you think about and talk about expectations in your marriage.