Sometime people choose ineffectual therapists because they are repeating dysfunctional relationships from their family origin. After all, a therapeutic relationship is a relationship and if you have had a poor pattern of choosing dysfunctional relationships in general, please do your research before you choose your healer. A good therapist should a be a good fit for you, someone you feel comfortable with. A good therapist has a system that is clearly spelled out before you get involved with the therapy. A good therapist will also be transparent about methods and payments involved. A good therapist should have done his or her own therapeutic work and offer you referrals to others if they feel that you are not a good fit. Therapy is like dating, keep going until you find someone that you can benefit from.