Someone you love keeps drinking, using, or relapsing and you can feel your body tighten the moment you walk into the room. That tension makes sense, but it can also become part of the system that keeps addiction stuck. We sit down with therapist and family coach Jeff Jones, founder of The Family Recovery Solution and author of Rethinking Addiction, to unpack what actually helps families when a loved one is in active addiction or early recovery. 

We get concrete with a classic scenario from the clinic: a middle-aged man with alcohol addiction and a spouse who loves him deeply but feels forced into constant pushing and correcting. Jeff explains why “help” can turn into pressure, how triangulation pulls doctors into the drama triangle, and how a simple 180-degree experiment plus journaling can reveal new options. We also talk boundaries as a way to create safety, calm the nervous system, and make better decisions, not as punishment or control. 

Then we widen the lens to parenting teens and the added power dynamics families face, including why authoritative parenting (firm limits with connection) tends to work best. Jeff shares a powerful reframe from mediation: separate the addiction from the essence of your loved one, so you can hold consequences while staying anchored in love. We also cover structured family meetings, the idea that families move through the stages of change too, and why recovery is about building a life worth living, not only stopping a substance. 

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To learn more about Jeff's work: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/

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