Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to talk about one of the topics that truly changed my life- Self worth.

This episode walks you through the step by step process on how to build a foundation of self worth. I share answers to frequently asked questions, my favorite book recommendations, and practical strategies that you can start implementing TODAY so you can start to build unconditional self worth. Transformation doesn’t come from information, it comes from implementation.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Forming a Foundation of Self Worth [01:30]

• “Self worth is different from self esteem. Self worth is the idea that we deserve to be alive, be loved and deserve great things.’” [02:20]
• “Confirmation bias is your brain saying, ‘I knew this was going to happen, I knew he would do that, I knew she would do that, I confirmed my belief, I am happy out.’” [03:50]
• “It doesn’t matter what you have on the outside that either confirms your self worth or rejects it, if you cant determine your own unconditional self worth you will spend your life in survival mode.” [05:00]
• “Then we fall to the coping strategies that very temporarily take away the noise of not being good enough- but because they don’t give us what we actually need, they reinforce that ‘What’s wrong with me?’ feeling.” [6:30]
• “It doesn’t matter what we want in life if we don’t believe we are worthy of having it we either won’t attempt to go for it or when we get it we can’t let ourselves enjoy it.”[8:10]
• “Why am I so unhappy? I have everything I ever wanted.” [8:50]
• “Separate your self worth from the outside. You are worthy because you are born.” [9:35]
• “I am worthy because I am here. I am not worthy because of how much I get done. I am not worthy because of my relationship status. I am not worthy because of how many followers I have or how many likes I get.” [11:20]
• “It’s never too late, or too early, to develop that unconditional self worth.” [12:20] 

Strategies for Self Worth Transformation [12:30]

• “Step 1 is awareness. You can’t change what you’re not aware of.”  [12:45]
• “The only way you can start using your brain so it works for you, not against you, is awareness.” [13:20]
• “I want you for 1 minute, before you brush your teeth, to do self awareness. You are noticing, observing, and not judging. Be the observer.” [16:50]
• “Another thing that helps with self awareness is journaling. Just having a blank page and doing a brain dump.” [17:55]
• “Another thing that helps with self awareness is talking to others.” [18:05]
• “Catch criticism and turn it into compassion.” [18:50]
• “Nobody’s life is made better by you being hard on yourself.” [19:50]
• “Mirror Work: Looking yourself in the eye and giving yourself the approval, validation, attention and affection that you’re constantly looking for inside of yourself.”  [21:25]
• “Women of worth know that the only person that can define their self worth is themselves.” [25:00]
• “Set the bar so low that you can step over it. Gain confidence and build momentum so you can be successful.” [25:30]

Book Recommendations [25:50]

• The Mastery of Love Don Miguel Ruiz  [26:00]
• Heal Your Life Louise Hay [27:00]
• The Gifts of Imperfection Berne Brown [27:25]
• Radical Acceptance Tara Brach [27:45]
• A New Earth Eckhart Tolle [28:15]

Q + A [28:55]

• Best way to build up unconditional self love [29:00]
• Tips on Doubt [31:00]
• Switching from external validation to recognizing your self worth [33:30]

Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to have you join me today to kick off this amazing journey and dive into how I got to this place in life. 

This episode covers how I got out of my own way, stopped self sabotaging and finally gave myself permission to be happy and enjoy life. I also answer a few questions from my incredible listeners and clients, as well as share how my journey helped me to embrace that I am truly a woman of worth.

But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Claire’s Story [02:20]

• “You are not your current circumstances. You are not your current beliefs. You are not your current thoughts about yourself.”
• “I was exhausted. I was overwhelmed. I thought to myself, ‘I can’t keep doing this.’” [02:35]
• “My gut and my intuition encouraged me to reach out to a life coach.” [04:15]
• “I started realizing that the outside wasn’t the problem- it was actually my thoughts. It was what I was saying to myself about work, being on the hamster wheel, feeling stressed, feeling exhausted.” [04:45]
• “What we focus on, we feel. I was focusing on all the things that weren’t going well and I was feeling like crap.” [05:05]
• “I had to stop relying on the approval of others to be happy.” [07:45]
• “Your low points are where you get the greatest lessons.” [08:30]
• “A lot of my courage and faith comes from knowing that my brother is always with me and always supporting me.” [10:00]
• “Be the girl that decided to go for it.” [12:20]
• “We can’t change our past, but we can change the meaning of our past.” [13:10]
• “If you don’t know your core values and priorities, you’re living by other’s values and priorities.” [14:50]
• “We see people going after their dreams and goals, and we think it’s because they don’t have fear and are so confident, but we all have fear-it’s primal. The difference is that they control their fear, their fear doesn’t control them.” [17:00]
• “Whatever your circumstances are today, they are just a reflection of the choices you’ve made.” [22:15]
• “Life is not up and down because you’re weak or not doing life right, it’s because that’s the journey we’re meant to go on. We’re meant to have the low points so we can learn the lessons, get clear on what matters to us, and so we can appreciate the high points.” [24:25]
• “When you reconnect with your self-worth and get rid of limiting beliefs, it is the most rewarding feeling ever.” [26:00]
• “Outcomes and others won’t make you happy in the long run.” [28:50]
• “My greatest achievement in life is my relationship with myself. Genuinely loving myself, genuinely feeling content and happy in myself. I get to help others do that.” [29:50]

Get in touch with Claire!

• Instagram: @clairefealymindsetcoach
• Website: https://www.clairefealy.com
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