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In today's solo episode I talk about the importance of community, what we learn from community, and the story that kept me stuck for many years.

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https://women-over-50-a-life.captivate.fm/episode/my-40th-high-school-reunion-and-a-tale-of-the-impact-we-make (Podcast episode mentioned )

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Today’s episode I have Person Irresponsible with me, who has asked to be anonymous Person Irresponsible says she is a female, fat, funny, mid-forties and in her fourth year of recovery (with AA) who, for reasons I still cannot fathom, walked solo from Mexico to Canada during the pandemic. Previously I had walked from the fridge to the sofa and back multiple times. I considered camping to be a loathsome pursuit. Hiking was something one did for a few hours before rounding off the day with a hot chocolate and an even hotter bath. I came back to the UK, did my quarantine, then set about writing a book about my endeavors.

Memorable Quotes

"We put ourselves down instead of just accepting a compliment and saying, thank you. We'll just react. And actually that's the easiest way to find out if someone's got insecurity issues. I've had to really train myself or someone gives me a confident, I just say, thank you. ~ Person Irresponsible

“There's still this sort of petulant immature. Feeling when you first come into recovering and life's not fair and you have lots of temper tantrums about it, but on top of that, the reasons why you drank in the first place, a lot of us drank on trauma and be great. And unaesthetic alcohol is a fantastic anesthetic.” ~ Person Irresponsible

You can get Person Irresponsible book here

https://amzn.to/3qXU12X (Everything You Ever Taught Me: If you've a lot on your mind, go for a walk...)

Think you may have an issue with alcohol. https://womenforsobriety.org/ (Find a Women for Sobriety group here. )

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Today I have Rosie Mankes with me. She life coach and author of Find Your Joy and Run With It, a heartwarming memoir about overcoming her second battle with cancer, the transitioning of her mother into an assisted living facility, and the unexpected loss of her brother, all within one year. Rosie’s recovery from these major challenges inspired her to become a life coach, in order to help people pull through significant adversity and life challenges. Rosie is a resident of New Jersey, where she lives with her husband. She is the mother of two grown sons.

Memorable Quotes:"I don't want to miss the beautiful gift of now. And that's what I live by. Like when I'm getting worried or I'm starting to kiss it out. I try to pull myself back to where I am and, sure. We all have to make educated decisions for ourselves, but sometimes the best places to be where your feet are planted, because sets in, as people say, yesterday's gone, tomorrows not promised, live for today." ~ Rosie

“So, I wrote this book, at the time I wrote it, I thought it would just be cathartic for me. I was writing it because actually it was a dare, a producer friend of mine. He said to me, wow, this your story is so amazing.” ~ Rosie

You can find Rosie’s Book here:

https://amzn.to/3cCavFG (Find Your Joy and Run With It)

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Today’s episode is the fourth in the series “Getting Your Shit Together” with Michelle Horton of https://www.alwayschasingbetter.com/ (Always Chasing Better Coaching.)

Memorable Quotes:

“I don't think we realized the power of actually wanting something and thinking about it and dreaming about it and then actually making it happen. I think a lot of times we think things just happen to us. We can just go through life. And this happened today and this happened today. When I think when you live more intentionally, it's like, you, you plan it out a little bit and the universe delivers.” ~ Michelle

“So really being intentional about who you surround yourself with, because if you surround yourself with people who whine and complain and I can't, I'm afraid, then you're going to whine and complain and you're afraid. But with you surround yourself with women who, who do dream big and who do accomplish those dreams and who are positive and moving through life with an intentionally that that's who you will be. ~ Shelly

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Let's stop setting goals and instead create a future self, and a purpose to lean into.

http://womenover50aliferedesigned.com/2021/11/future-focused-and-purpose-drive-goals/ (Full transcript of episode)

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Welcome to another episode of the Women Over 50, Life Redesigned! I’m so glad that you are joining Michelle and I again for the third part of the Getting Your Shit Together mini-series. In today’s episode, we're going to talk about honoring your past, and how behaviors that we created in our childhood manifest themselves today, and if they are serving us.

So sit tight and listen until the end because we are about to get brutally honest with ourselves.

[00:01 - 02:06] Opening Segment

Welcome to the podcast!

Join us on our https://www.facebook.com/groups/aliferedesigned/ (Facebook Group)!

I introduce our guest for today, Michelle Horton

We talk about our topic for the third part of this series

[02:07 - 20:24] Connecting Our Present Behaviors to Our Past

I talk about my past and the chaos

Feeling the responsibility of holding everything together

Rebellious behavior was a form of “escape

How our behaviors are results from our environment in our past

Realizing the connecting between our childhood and our past

How we should work around our past

Pressure to let go of the past

Acknowledging the pain in our past

Paying attention to our body’s response

Check in with your body

Notice your chest and stomach

Crying is one of the best ways of letting the pain go

Choosing a therapist with training in dealing with trauma

What is the story you’re telling yourself about yourself

[20:25 - 25:24] The Positive in Our Past

Reliving the good things in our past

Sparking joy and makes us aspire to feel those feelings again

What can we take away from our past that is meaningful?

[25:25 - 26:38] Closing Segment

Resources Mentioned:

https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379 (The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer )

I want to note if you are an adult survivor of childhood abuse and need more support, please seek out a trauma-informed therapist. You can call the RAINN hotline number to be connected to local resources - 800.656.HOPE (4673)

Tweetable Quotes:

“So honoring our past is kind of walking through some of the good stuff and the stuff that is still hurting. Because honestly, that stuff that is still hurting is influencing us in a way that's probably not positive.” - Michelle Horton

Connect with Michelle on https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Facebook) and https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Instagram)!

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Are you doing one or more of the following:

Putting others first

Surrounded by drama, chaos, gossip

Feeling like everything is happening TO you

Difficulty overcoming your past

Send us an email at [email protected] and let us know if any of these areas resonated with you!

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Welcome to another episode of the Women Over 50, Life Redesigned! Today’s episode is the second part of our Getting Your Shit Together mini-series with Michelle Horton where we will be talking about being brutally honest with ourselves, living our values, and being compassionate.

As women over 50, we have been conditioned to check off certain boxes. Like if we can check off the boxes that contain a good career, stable relationships, and a nice home, we think we’ve got our shit together. And while Michelle and I were able to do just that, we still felt like we were not living our best lives. So make sure to tune in until the end because Michelle and I are diving deep about being honest with yourself while having self-compassion, and the importance of having strong core values (the non-negotiables).

[00:01 - 03:39] Opening Segment

Welcome to the podcast!

Join us on our https://www.facebook.com/groups/aliferedesigned/ (Facebook Group)!

I introduce our guest for today, Michelle Horton

We talk about our topic for the second part of this series

[03:40 - 22-:18] How Do We Start Being Honest with Ourselves?

Pressure to tick all the boxes

Dealing with the uncomfortable thoughts and conversations

Being brutally honest is a way of taking responsibility for your life

Vulnerability and gentleness goes hand in hand with honesty

The things that you tell yourself are the things that you need to be honest about

The power of telling and sharing our stories

Having a strong set of core values

[22:19 - 26:380] Closing Segment

Be compassionate with yourselves

Get to know who you are

Connect with Michelle through the links below

Final Words

Resources Mentioned:

https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-test/ (Dr. Kristen Neff – Test Your Self-Compassion)

https://unleashyou.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/new+folder/Identifying+Your+Core+Values.pdf (Core Values Exercise)

Tweetable Quotes:

“This is the time where we get to kind of sit back, and that but it's also a good time to stay take stock. And I think that's what getting our shit together is. It’s really taking stock about who we are today, and getting brutally, brutally honest, is not easy. But I think it's easier when you're over 50 because there's nothing to lose.” - Michelle Horton

“There's also a lot of power in sharing your story, even if it’s just one other person who can just sit and listen. There's something about hearing yourself tell your story.” - Michelle Horton

“If it doesn't fit in your values, then you have a choice. Is this something worth my time or not?” - Michelle Horton

Connect with Michelle on https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Facebook) and https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Instagram)!

SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A 5-STAR REVIEW and share it with other women over 50 who want to redesign their lives to a one that they love.

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Check out our website at http://www.womenover50aliferedesigned.com (www.womenover50aliferedesigned.com)

Are you doing one or more of the following:

Putting others first

Surrounded by drama, chaos, gossip

Feeling like everything is happening TO you

Difficulty overcoming your past

Send us an email at [email protected] and let us know if any of these areas resonated with you!

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Welcome to another episode of the Women Over 50, Life Redesigned! In today’s episode, we will be chatting with Deanna Rose Harper Selby who has spent a few work years helping entrepreneurs with their bookkeeping and finance needs after going through a divorce. As she approached the mid-century mark, she began to pursue her vision to help Goddesses Shifting From Divorced to Self-Made, and eventually formed her own group named Better Indeed Group, LLC in 2020. She started to focus on helping female entrepreneurs and newly single women get their lives and finances in order. With the passion that she has for empowering women and helping them to find success, Deanna now serves a large community of female entrepreneurs through the Facebook Group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/fempreneursdreamingbig (Fempreneurs Dreaming B.I.G.) and helps newly single women show the world that they can do it without "HIM" through her Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcedtoselfmade (Goddesses Shifting From Divorced to Self-Made).

In this episode, Deanna walks us through how she was able to break free from an identity that she has been living for the majority of her life and how this breakthrough led her to helping other women do the same. We also talk about the importance of allowing yourself to grieve, making sure that you are covered in terms of finances, and getting out of the ditch for good.

[00:01 - 06:52] Opening Segment

Welcome to the podcast!

Join us on our https://www.facebook.com/groups/aliferedesigned/ (Facebook Group)!

I introduce our guest for today, Deann Selby

Deanna talks about her story

Being an ambitious stay at home mom

Being immersed to the mother role

Took a really long time to get out of the “ditch”

[06:52 - 25-:20] Breaking Out of the Motherhood Identity

A conscious choice to be a full time mom

Deanna’s situation after the divorce

How she was able to get out of the hard situation

Allowing herself to go through the misery

Shifted to helping women go through the same thing

Figuring out the emotions that are holding you back

[25:21 - 26:380] Closing Segment

Connect with Deanna through the links below

Final Words

Tweetable Quotes:

“We always go through what we go through for a reason.” -Deanna Selby

“And you never ever know, even if you have the best relationship in the absolute world and you know things are always going to be perfect. Always make sure that your butt is covered.” -Deanna Selby

Connect with Deanna through her website at https://www.betterindeedgroup.com/about (www.betterindeedgroup.com)!

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Welcome to another episode of the Women Over 50, Life Redesigned! In today’s episode, we will be chatting with Laura Davis, who is an author of seven books, including The Courage to Heal and I Thought We‘d Never Speak Again. Her groundbreaking books have been translated into 11 languages and sold two million copies. In addition to writing books that inspire and change people’s lives, the work of Laura’s heart is to teach. For more than twenty years, she’s helped people find their voices, tell their stories, and hone their craft. Laura loves creating supportive, intimate writing communities online, in person, and internationally.

In this episode, Laura talks about the book she wrote called The Burning Light of Two Stars, which is about her relationship with her mother. She also shares more about reconciliation with family members who have hurt you, healing from it, and setting boundaries. Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 09:17] Opening Segment

Welcome to the podcast!

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I introduce our guest for today, Laura Davis

We talk about her book, The Burning Light of Two Stars

The book focuses on her relationship with her mother

I talk about how I related to the book

[09:17 - 29:39] Healing Relationships with Our Parents

Choosing to care for family members who have betrayed us

Sharing the truth about the reconciliation

Steps towards reconciliation

It’s not always advisable

Set boundaries

Agree to disagree

Re-fixing boundaries

Sending love and kindness to a person that you don’t want to have relationships with

Learning about the influences and traumas of her mother

Protecting yourself and having an open heart

[29:40 - 42:05] Closing Segment

Who The Burning Light of Two Stars is for

Anyone who struggled with their relationship with a family member

Anyone who has trauma and wants to know how healing is like

Laura reads a portion of a chapter from the book

Connect with Laura through the links below

Final Words

Tweetable Quotes:

“If you have someone who was violent, or incredibly hostile, the best thing you could do actually, is maintain boundaries, have separation, and live your own life, because continued contact with that person is going to be really devastating to you.” -Laura Davis

Other Resources:

https://amzn.to/3vzLqUh (The Burning Light of Two Stars)

Connect with Laura through her website at http://www.lauradavis.net (www.lauradavis.net), or connect with her through http://www.facebook.com/thewritersjourney (Facebook) and http://www.instagram.com/laurasaridavis (Instagram)!

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Welcome to another episode of the Women Over 50, Life Redesigned! Today is a very special episode, which is really the first episode in a four part series with my good friend, Michelle Horton. Michelle is the Founder and CEO of Always Chasing Better Coaching, and if you have been listening to the podcast or part of our Facebook group, you have seen Michelle in there many times doing lives making posts. She is a very insightful, lovely woman, and I’m so happy that she is doing this mini project with me.

I'm going to give a little warning here for all the people who have delicate ears, is we swear. And in this first episode, we're going to talk about ways that you may be doing in your life that gives you a hint as to whether you need to get your shit together. These are things that Michelle and I have noticed in our lives back in the day and that we have since been able to really work on not doing anymore, thus getting our shit together. Let’s dive in!

[00:01 - 02:39] Opening Segment

Welcome to the podcast!

Join us on our Facebook Group, see links below

I introduce our guest for today, Michelle Horton

I give a preview of our topic in this 4-part series

[02:40 - 19-:11] Signs to know that you need to get your sh*t together

Normalizing things that are not normal

Women put everybody else before ourselves

Societal conditioning

Getting caught in gossip and drama

Getting into a lot of self help

Knowing that something is wrong

Don’t know how to fix it

Not taking action

Feeling powerless about changing

Knowing that this is not where you belong

Being hopeless and settling

Not taking accountability and blaming everyone else

Blaming other people for our life

Relationships play a big role

[19:12 - 10-:20] Closing Segment

How relationships affect us

Showing up as your full self

Learning to trust ourselves

Connect with us through the links below

Final Words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Don't just listen to us chat, go take action and let us know how it goes.” -Michelle Horton

“We feel hopeless, we settle and we don't expect anything more out of our lives in the time of our life when we have everything we need. We've got the wisdom, we've got the experience, we've got knowledge, we have everything we need to create the life we want yet this is a time where some of us sadly start to settle in because we don't know the way out.” - Michelle Horton

Connect with Michelle on https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Facebook) and https://www.instagram.com/alwayschasingbetter (Instagram)!

SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A 5-STAR REVIEW and share it with other women over 50 who want to redesign their lives to a one that they love.

Join our https://www.facebook.com/groups/aliferedesigned/ (Facebook Group)!

Connect with me on https://www.facebook.com/shelly.drymon.96 (Facebook) and https://www.linkedin.com/in/shellydrymon/ (LinkedIn).

Check out our website at http://www.womenover50aliferedesigned.com (www.womenover50aliferedesigned.com)

Are you doing one or more of the following:

Putting others first

Surrounded by drama, chaos, gossip

Feeling like everything is happening TO you

Difficulty overcoming your past

Send us an email at [email protected] and let us know if any of these areas resonated with you!