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Dr. Frankie Bashan is a lesbian matchmaker, relationship expert, tv personality, event planner and doctor of clinical psychology specializing in serving the LGBT community.

Dr. Frankie is the founder and CEO of Little Gay Book: the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the United States, bridging connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with.

When we’re not in the middle of a global pandemic, Dr. Frankie organizes live singles events all over the country.

One of the events Dr. Frankie is best known for are Little Gay Book’s “Single Mingle” personalized speed dating events.

At Dr. Frankie’s “Single Mingle” events they use smartphone technology to connect people to each other based on their age and their preferred type. And they’ve continued offering these events during the pandemic.

I had been looking forward to interviewing Dr. Frankie for a long time, and I’m so thrilled she was able to join me on the podcast.

During the interview Dr. Frankie and I talk about:

This is an episode you won’t want to miss.

Dr. Frankie Bashan is a doctor of clinical psychology who has spent twenty years serving the LGBT community as a matchmaker, relationship expert, tv personality, event planner and therapist.

Dr. Frankie launched her company Little Gay Book in 2009. At Little Gay Book they specialize in bridging connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with. Little Gay Book is the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the

United States, boasting an extraordinary 85% success rate.

Since I know you are curious, I’ll give you the inside dish: Dr. Frankie is a Sagitarius and she lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and is the co-parent of twins and a cat.

You can learn more about her at LittleGayBook.com and also be sure to follow her on both Instagram and Facebook. Also check out her YouTube channel for more wisdom.

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If you’re a queer female who’s ever done any online dating in the past 5 years, you have undoubtedly heard of HER App.

Using dating apps is the easiest way to meet other queer women in any geographic location.

Before apps like HER App were released, it used to so much harder to meet other queer women. We would have to go to gay bars or gay events or be deeply networked into the queer community (or otherwise just get extremely lucky) in order to meet and connect with other queer women.

Now, because of dating apps we can go to any city and immediately start connecting with the queer women who live there. Plus, apps like HER App allow us to sort for who we’re attracted to and who we share our interests with.

(As opposed to just showing up at a bar or an event, where we are limited to connecting with only the people who happen to physically be there at the same time.)

Did you know that more than 4,000 new women sign up for HER App every single day?

What’s fascinating about the companies who run dating apps is the extraordinary amount of data on queer dating behavior that they have access to.

Apps like HER App have an incredible window into how queer women connect and relate and engage with each other, when they meet online.

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women I interview Robyn Exton, founder of HER App, to teach us all about it.

During the interview Robyn shares:

HER App is a dating resource created for queer women by queer women.

It is the largest social app for LGBTQ+ womxn and queer people to meet.

You can download the app on your smartphone and learn more at weareher.com and be sure to also follow both HER App and Robyn Exton on Instagram as well.

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Teresa Boyd is an international producer, based in New York, who started with nothing, and built the career of her dreams, working alongside the very best in the worlds of fashion and entertainment.

Women like Teresa Boyd stand out among the best because they show us what’s possible with massive hard work, sacrifice, imagination and faith.

Would any badass truly be a badass, if they didn’t ever take big risks?

In this episode of Women Wanting Women, Teresa Boyd shares how she got her start in the industry, and then bounced back from the bottom after being jobless and hopeless.

Since she knows what it’s like to be down-and-out, she uses the fear (of falling back there) to inspire her beyond, to always give extra and to push her limits in all areas of life.

This is a vulnerable, heartfelt interview not to be missed.

Teresa Boyd is the founder of 5 Points Production. They have offices in New York, LA and Miami and they shoot all around the planet, producing print and video content for advertising for some of the world’s most popular brands including Nike, Fendi, Starbucks, Victoria’s Secret, Nordstrom, Macy’s, Kalvin Klein, Michael Kors, Japanese Vogue, Tommy Bahama’s and Hush Puppies.

As a producer Teresa has also worked with many of Hollywood’s A-listers including Beyonce, Kate Blanchett, Jennifer Lopez, Vince Vaughn, Heidi Klum and Martha Stewart…

You can learn more about Teresa Boyd on her website at 5pointsprod.com

[Photograph of Teresa Boyd from Riku Campo’s book for Harper Collins shot by Samantha Rapp.]

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For years Jennifer Russell’s work has been about showing women how to source their power and how to be more powerful in more ways.

As lesbians it’s important for us to learn this.

Because women are attracted to power.

We want to have power and be empowered, but our culture tends to have a “conflicted” relationship with the word power (and with the idea of power).

Power scares people.

And yet, we can’t be powerful in our lives if we are threatened by the idea of power.

Jennifer Russell teaches that the first step in accessing our power is to make sure we intend to use it in service of something transcendent, for the good of all.

There is no reason to feel “conflicted” about being powerful if we know in our heart that we are using power as a source of good.

There are many ways of being powerful.

There are different types of power we can tap into.

And Jennifer Russell has created one of my favorite frameworks for understanding this topic.

In this episode of Women Wanting Women I talk with Jennifer Russel about what she calls “The Four Faces of Incorruptible Power.”

During the interview she breaks down what the four different faces are, how we can express them, and what the “shadow side” of that power is (so we can avoid “over-using” the power in ways that cause harm.)

This is definitely not an episode you want to miss.

Jennifer Russell is a speaker, author, leadership consultant, and coach, teaching integrated leadership through transformational developmental programs.

She is the CEO of Eden World, a membership community of conscious couples, bringing together visionaries, community builders, and thought leaders to break through to the next level of loving and leadership.

In her roles she’s helped bring more than 40 new technologies to market in dozen different industries.

Jennifer Russell and her partner Bryan Franklin work with couples to develop a deeper context for their relationship leading both partners towards their own evolution.

You can learn more about Jennifer Russell on her website at jennifersrussell.com. Jennifer’s “Power Profile” is available here. You can find the work Jennifer does with couples at evolvinglove.us You can also find her on LinkedIn.

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Dr. Pamela’s company helps teenagers plan for higher education.

Being a teenager is hard enough… but applying to college is a massively overwhelming and confusing process, forced on people during an already difficult time.

But Dr. Pamela is no stranger to personally handling overwhelming and confusing life situations…

Dr. Pamela was in her mid-40’s when she went off and started her own company.

Since leaving her corporate job and starting her own business, Dr Pamela has helped earn twenty million dollars in scholarships for families across the United States.

Dr. Pamela has the perfect energy for helping people face their overwhelm. She is grounded, wise, goodhearted and optimistic. And in addition to helping young people find the resources and direction they need to succeed scholastically, she also mentors women business owners to achieve the kind of spiritually aligned success she has achieved herself.

More than once, when I was searching for great guests for the podcast, I turned to my friend Chelsea O’Brien (who is a digital strategist for business leaders across the world), and I asked her if she has any clients and colleagues that more people in the world would benefit from learning from. The last time I called Chelsea to ask this question, she blurted out “Dr. Pamela!!” without any hesitation.

Dr. Pamela is passionate about supporting people so they can do work they love, aligned with who they are.

And on this episode of Women Wanting Women, she joins us to share her calm, wise, goodhearted, optimistic spirit with us.

In a world full of madness and stress and negativity, it’s such a gift and a breath of fresh air to find wise, grounded humans like Dr. Pamela.

Dr. Pamela serves as a role model and a reminder that we don’t have to be aggressive and on-edge to be successful and self-made.

Don’t miss this interview!

Dr. Pamela is a graduate of Stanford University and The Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth College. She was awarded a doctorate degree from the Stanford University School of Education. Her company, Compass College Advisory, was founded to help teens navigate selecting the right college and coaches them through the overwhelming college application process, so that their drive for learning is fueled instead of fizzled.

You can find Dr. Pamela on her website theeducationdoctor.com and compasscollegeadvisory.com as well as on Facebook @TheEducationDoctor and on LinkedIn.

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Arielle Ford is here to tell you that YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE ALONE FOREVER.

I first discovered Arielle Ford many years ago, in what feels like another lifetime…

I used to listen to her interviews, back when I was trying to find my way around love and dating…

I was so lost back then, and I felt so grateful to have discovered human beings, like Arielle Ford, offering such helpful, heart-centered wisdom.

But as much as I loved listening to Arielle Ford back then, I also remember wishing that there was someone doing for lesbians the kind of thing Arielle Ford was doing for straight people…

I remember wishing that someone would have the kinds of conversations Arielle Ford was having, but for a queer audience, answering the questions queer face, with dating, relationship and love advice specifically addressing the unique issues that LGBT women deal with in dating.

I couldn’t find a “lesbian-version” of what these inspirational people like Arielle Ford (and other dating/relationship/love gurus like her) were doing, so I made one myself.

This podcast exists, partially because of Arielle Ford.

That’s why it was so fun for me to have the chance to sit and talk to her myself.

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women I got to personally thank Arielle Ford for the impact she had on my life, and also get to pick her brain about all the best ways to find love, for anyone who is single and lonely.

Arielle Ford is the author of eleven books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction (published in 21 languages and 40 countries).

In her prior life Arielle was the publicist for some of the world’s most beloved personal development gurus, including selling authors such as Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, Gary Zukav, Dean Ornish, Joan Borysenko,  and Jorge Cruise. And she is credited for having been instrumental in launching the careers of stars Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Neale Donald Walsch, Debbie Ford and don Miguel Ruiz.

A personal development guru in her own right, Arielle is the author of eleven books and leads workshops all around the world.

You can learn more and find all of Arielle Ford’s books and resources on arielleford.com.

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Sabrina Chaw knew that connection was hard for women, even before Covid19.

As Sabrina Chaw teaches: so much of how we relate with women around us has to do with our cultural norms.

When we women meet each other, we so often go right into asking each other about what we do and where we’re from and what kind of families we have… Sabrina Chaw calls this “sharing socially identifying information.”

But Sabrina points out that when we engage with other women this way, we subconsciously isolate ourselves from each other because that “socially identifying” information causes us all to make up stories in the back of our minds about “where we fit”, compared to everyone else…

In 2001, based on the teachings of David Deida, Sabrina started hosting women’s circles to create a safe container and a trusting space for women to connect in an energetic and emotional way, instead of in a mental way.

In these women’s circles Sabrina leads women through exercises that enable them to “see” each other for the physical creatures and sensitive beings we all are, once we look beyond the social roles we play in our families and careers and in the wider culture.

These exercises enable women to know and appreciate each other on a far deeper level.

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women I interview Sabrina about what these exercises are and how they work inside the women’s circles she leads.

Sabrina Chaw teaches women to be sexy at any age…

In 2001, Sabrina initiated women’s circles to form a community of women who longed to live a life that mattered…

She apprenticed under David Deida, was certified as a nutrition consultant and her teaching combines those experiences as well as influences from holistic health, nutritional biochemistry, Tantra, Vajrayana Buddhism, hatha yoga, Ayurveda, breathwork and somatic psychology.

Sabrina’s focus is on helping women discover the lucid and tender awareness of what it means to be a woman, and on helping them become successful in ALL areas of their lives, without losing themselves in the process.

You can learn more about Sabrina Chaw at afemininefeast.com.

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Talking about friendships might sound “elementary”… but, as Sacha

Because, as Sacha points out, we humans evolved to live as hunter-gatherers, where all of our time was spent in an inseparable circle of women that we did everything with.

Our genes call upon us to experience a life of deep, all-consuming sisterhood.

And that, as Sacha explains, is why women today all feel so lonely.

All women have a deep longing for more, deeper friendships with other women than what we get to have in our modern lives.

That’s why Sacha Lalla wants to promote sisterhood and women friendships all across the world.

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women Sacha Lalla teaches us all

During the interview Sacha shares:

• How to approach women to start a friendship with them…
• The optimal mindsets for attracting women for friendship…
• What to say to women, in order to connect in a way that can lead to friendship, and…
• How the things we do to try to make friends can build our self-esteem…

Through her best-selling retreats, personal coaching practice and her

She demonstrates that by moving away from the ingrained habits and

You can find Sacha on her website at sachalalla.com

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There is so much burlesque can teach us about seduction and feminine power.

Burlesque is a form of performance art, incorporating strip tease with humor and storytelling…

In recent years interest in burlesque has increased among women

In burlesque the female body is celebrated, not held to “impossible standards” (the way women are in mass media…)

This is especially true in the neo-burlesque movement, where

Performing a strip tease in the mirror can be a transformative experience.

Women are taught to use the mirror as a tool of criticism.

We see our reflection and compare ourselves to impossible standards.

But seduction is ancient.

Human females have been attracting mates throughout history.

And when we perform a strip tease and allow our bodies to move in the

These are powers that we can access any time.

These seductive powers are intrinsic to who we are, inherent within us.

Because “feminine beauty is an energy, not a symmetrical aesthetic.” (Mary Lofgren.)

That’s why learning burlesque (or any kind of strip tease or exotic

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women I interview former burlesque performer Mary Lofgren.

During Mary’s burlesque career her name was Kitty Cavelier.

As “Kitty Cavelier” Mary taught women empowerment through burlesque

During this episode Mary teaches us:

• A tool anyone can use to recognize their own beauty, even if we’ve never felt beautiful before…
• What the erotic is and how to access it more fully…
• A trick for mastering confidence and accessing our own seductive powers, and…
• A more “feminine” alternative to mindfulness meditation…

Mary Lofgren is the founder of the School of Sensual Living where

You can find out more at The School Of Sensual Living. Mary is on Instagram @hellomarylofgren.

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Tantra is one of those things that most people have heard of, but don’t really know much about…

We know it has something to do with lovemaking, but what is it ?

Have you ever wanted to learn about this, but didn’t know who to ask or where to begin?

It’s so important for couples to keep growing together on all levels.

Learning the secrets of tantra is a great idea for anyone who wants to keep their connection with their lover alive and exciting…

The problem is that so many tantra teachers are too spiritual, eccentric, and hard for the “average person” to relate to.

When Oprah Winfrey wanted to teach her audience about tantra, she needed to invite a teacher who was more “mainstream.”

That’s why Oprah invited Lisa Schrader onto her show. Lisa Schrader is down-to-earth and “normal” and she teaches in a way that anyone can relate to.

And in this episode of Women Wanting Women Lisa Schrader teaches a

Don’t miss the interview. (And take notes!)

Lisa Schrader has been teaching Tantra-based practices since 2001 and was the first tantric sexuality teacher to be featured on the Oprah Winfrey show.

Lisa is a professional coach, certified with the International Coach Federation and is the author of Kama Sutra 52: A Year’s Worth Of The Best Positions for Passion & Pleasure.

You can learn more about Lisa and her offerings at the Awakening Shakti website.

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