Hi lovelies!  On todays episode I have the pleasure of speaking to Judy Koons, a Spiritual Leader, Motivational Speaker, and Author at DAUR.co.

With decades of experience, Judy has dedicated her life to supporting individuals in reclaiming true health on mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual levels   Judy talks about finding those golden threads and discusses what it is to be "spellbound"   It is what happens when all the messages of the past build up, and you are left unable to access your brilliance. This could look like old trauma, words said that you adopted about yourself, or past experiences. It all adds up.   What if there was a way to release yourself from the accumulation in the way of designing your life? Imagine going from spell bound to super ordinary. What could your life be like if you no longer had to willpower, push through, or vigilantly control everything around you?   Judy talks about using Freedom Process with individuals  choosing to end gteh war within and come back to the magic of life,  She brings clarity and inner peace back go your life.   We always talk about breathing and how important it is to breathe but Judy talks about coming into your breath and accumulation is what binds us.     One of the things Judy said that I love love love is when your spellbound the brilliance in you has no way to shine out!  Such a powerful statement.   Judy's book - "Spellbound No more: An Invitation to Undo the Bonds of Trauma and Live a Super Ordinary Life" comes out January 2025.  Look out for it and purchase!  She can also be followed on her newly launched podcast 'Are you Breathing'   Judy can be found at www.daur.co

Hi loves! In today's episode, Abbie and I discuss the vital topic of helping a woman in need leave an abusive relationship.

Although Abbie didn’t know this woman personally, she was quick to step in when approached for assistance. We talked about the importance of having a plan and "backup" in case things go awry.

On the day of the departure, Abbie met the woman at her house to help her gather her belongings and leave safely. Thankfully, this woman had prepared ahead of time, ensuring that the process went as smoothly as possible.

Leaving an abusive situation is inherently dangerous for anyone, especially for women. Abbie was proactive in informing the police about the situation, just in case, and she made sure the woman wasn’t alone with her abuser. If you need help, please reach out—whether to a friend, an acquaintance, or anyone you feel comfortable asking for support. We are here for you.

Remember, you are the one who can decide when and if the time is right for you to take action. Start creating a plan and gather your important documents so you can escape quickly when the moment presents itself. The woman she helped is a true warrior. She recognized her need for help, made a plan, and bravely asked a virtual stranger for assistance. Since leaving, she has not looked back.

It is not easy, and making such a decision can be painful, and potentially dangerous. Please prioritize your safety and let someone know you need help.

Thank you, Abbie, for being there and ensuring the woman’s safety. And to the woman who left, we love and admire you. You are a warrior.

If you or someone you know needs help, please reach out to the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text BEGIN to 88788. Stay safe, loves.

Hello, beauties!  On today's episode, Abbie and I wanted to further our discussion from the last episode on what Empowerment meant to us by telling you why and how we feel empowered.  We share our stories of survival and thriving.  There is much more to my story I shared, the heartache, the many tears, the six years of enduring the abuse, but I wanted to tell you how I finally had enough. Abbie also shares how it was her kids who inspired her to get out and ran as fast as she could with nothing but her kids and all the animals she could take.

In the middle of trying to survive, we lose ourselves, our minds are telling us one thing and our hearts are feeling so much.  It's so hard to distinguish what is love and what is not.  When you put on this pedestal that showers you with love, love love, and such beautiful words, we believe it, just to be crashed back down with nasty words and name-calling, over and over again.  We have both been there and felt it all.  We are here for you.  It is a war between your mind and your heart, but that is the biggest destruction of your peace.

Wherever you are in an abusive relationship, it is yours to navigate as you are the only one who knows if you can leave or not, if you can speak or not, or even if you dont beleive you are or that you can change an abuser.  There is NO judgment here and no one way to leave as there are many reasons.  Only when YOU decide, when YOU are strong enough will you find a way.  We just want you to be safe in any situation.  We know what it's like and know you got this.

No one can know what you have endured like you, you have never claimed to be perfect, but your flaws tell your story.  There is no need to hide them.  Tell us your own story of survival.  We would love to hear it.  You are beautiful and we adore you.  

If you or someone you know is in need of help and are in a Domestic Violence situation, please call 1-800-799-7233  or Text BEGIN to 88788

You can purchase my book "Invinsible to Invincible" on Amazon.  https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Invincible-Kellie-Kristiansen/dp/B0CGL9VD1L

 

Welcome to our Reboot episode! 

Today Abbie and I wanted to discuss our absence and what it means to "empower" and our thoughts. Women EmpowHerment has five areas, self-worth, right to have and determine their own choices, access to all opportunities, power, and control over their own lives, and ability to influence.  There are so many ways to empower yourself and others.  Let's all try to empower each other and lift each other, it is not hard.  

An empowered woman knows her wants, needs, rights, capabilities, and weaknesses.  

You too can "butterfly".  Abbie explains this in beautiful words in the episode.  A strong woman will always turn her pain into power.  We are unstoppable once we are empowered.  

To the women who wipe their own tears and still smile every day, WE SEE YOU. We were you, and we love and adore you completely.

Welcome Lovelies!  Another episode with the beautiful Abbie!  Abbie and I discuss coping mechanisms in Domestic Violence.  We share our own experiences and some of our own coping strategies.  Ours may not work for you, but they worked for us. Maybe this can be a takeaway for you.  We truly hope so because we love you all. 

Abbie talks about her Ketamine Therapy and how much it has changed her life, as well as her daughters.  There is a lot of negative as well as positive talks about Ketamine Therapy for PTSD, but for Abbie, it worked wonders!  Whatever you choose, find the one that works for you.

We talk about how important it is to keep calm, do what you have to do to survive. Writing down your thoughts, emotions and all your feelings can be very helpful in healing.

Although most women recognized that they were having difficulties in their relationship, the majority did not realize that they were experiencing domestic violence or abuse. Early in the relationship, women used a variety of strategies to justify or deal with their partner’s behavior, such as ‘normalizing’, ‘acceptance’, ‘denial’, keeping the peace’ or ‘blaming themselves’.

When women tried to stand up for themselves or challenge their abusive partner, this usually led to further abuse, so, to play safe, women tended to take on a more submissive role

Keeping a diary

On the recommendation of the police or a solicitor, several women began to monitor and record their partner’s behavior, by keeping a secret diary.

Secretly getting help

Women have to be very careful getting help, especially if they were planning to leave, as they knew their partner’s abusive behavior would get worse if he found out.

Be safe!  There are a lot of resources out there if you need to reach out.  The Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.

 

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Hi loves!  on todays episode, me and Abbie decided to keep it light and have some fun.  Do you have a date that was bizarre? just plain weird and made you go WTF??  

We polled some friends and are sharing a few stories along with some of our own stories.  Wow, it just amazes us some of the stores but in all honesty I have read way worse!  

Be safe ladies and always always remeber to meet in a public place!!! Trust your gut or intuition, if its tellingyou somethihng is off, trust it and move on.  We love you and hope you all find love and respect.  You deserve it all!

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Welcome in ladies!  Today I have the beautiful Jenn Beninger!  Jenn is the Co-founder of Genius Ulocked, a visionary coaching leader with over 3500 lives transformed, empowering businesses with advanced multimodal methods and an inernationally acclaimed speaker and trainer.

Pardon the sound on my end, had some difficulty with my audio. 

Jenn and I discuss hour you are not your thoughts and your intuition is overwritten by other inner voices.  Your conscous mind is the "Goal Setter"  and your un conscious mind is the "Goal Getter".

Your unconscious values, limiting beliefs, and negative emotions live in your unconscious mind, and when you’re not reaching a goal, they’re not in alignment with what your conscious mind wants.

Your job is to uncover what is happening in your unconscious mind that’s blocking your goals, s you have to learn to tap into your intuition to do this.

When you do, you’ll hit every goal you set

Have you ever set a goal multiple times that you haven’t been able to reach?

You do all of the actions you’re “supposed” to.

You work really hard.

You invest in all types of programs, templates, and support.

Yet you still haven’t managed to achieve it?

This happens when your unconscious values do not support what your conscious mind wants.

I could talk to Jenn for a very long time on this subject, but listen and reach out to her if you want to go inside and find yourself.

Jenn is offering a free meditation to support you with developing and trusting your intution. you can find it here along with her social media accounts:

Social Media Links:

YouTube: Genius Unlocked

youtube.com/@geniusunlocked

LinkedIn: Jenn Beninger

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennbeninger/

Website: http://geniusunlocked.coach

Unlocking Your Intuition Meditation Challenge: https://geniusunlocked.coach/unlocking-your-intuition-challenge/

 

Welcome everyone!   We are back again!  Abbie abd I delve into the world of mom guilt.  Well, we are now calling it parent guilt because its not just mamas that feel it, its all of us.  The guilt is real and we dont want to downplay it.

We all feel guilty for something we have done raising our children.  No judgement here. My goodness I have so much parent guilt that I have dealt with on my own that I rote a whole chapter on it in my book!

All different reasons we felt guilty.  From not being societys "perfect mom" in their standards to what our family deems as a perfect parent, etc.  We are all trying to do the best we can as parents, have some grace with yourself.  You got this.

Social media us flooded with a million educational ideas, heathy breakfast options and other "momgoal" posts all to make us feel less than or that we should be doing it "their way".  Listen, your doing good just the way you are, you are in survivor  mode taking care of them, shuffling them back and forth to events, school, making sure they are fed, bathed and working your ass off too!  No one is perfect and that is OK.  

Your parent guilt now, more than ever, is going to be strong, but it doesnt have to be.  You dont have to give in to those outside pressures.

One thing to remember is sometimes parent guilt, especialy mom guilt, is so pervasive that it inhibits your ability to parent or function.  If you feel your guilt is creatiing high levels of anxiety, its worth bringing up to your doctor,  For many parents its a matter of stopping the subconscious comparisons and regaining confidence in your own decisions that are right for YOUR family.

Much love to you all and know you are NOT alone.  Kell & Abbs

 

On todays episode of Womens EmpowHerment Jukie, I welcome in my co-host once again!  She is amazing.

We dive into a little bit of each of our experiences with Domestic Violence and how we coped and how we want to help others find their way out.  Our show is a safe space to share and we never judge.  We want you to know we love you and we got you.  We were Born to Love, neve regret loving someone, even it that love didnt work out or was not reciprocated.  Love love.

Along with her parrot on her shoulder and my dog having the zoomies in the background, we talk about a new segment once a month called "Where's Wanda".  Abbies spirit woman, so unapologetically herself.  We invite you to ask Wanda anything in our facebook group "invisible to Invincible Females".  What is your Wanda?  We wanted to bring something fun and light to our show to break up the world of abuse talk.  Lets have fun with this.  Dont let Abbie fool you, she is a great artist!

As discussed in the show, I am shamelessly plugging my book on Amazon about my story of trauma and recovery:

https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Invincible-Kellie-Kristiansen/dp/B0CGL9VD1L?mibextid=Zxz2cZ

If you want to work with me to recover from your Trauma, you can find me here and book a call.  I also offer a 12 week program, check it out here:

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If you are or know someone in a Domestic Violence situation, you can call 1-800-799-7233 or text the word START to 88788

https://www.cpedv.org/

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Welcome back lovelies!  We took a few months break to enjoy family and travel, but we are back baby!  

On todays first episode, I wanted to introduce you all to my new co-host Abbie.  She is empowered and inspirational to say the least.  She has been through Domestic Abuse a few times in her life and has become an advocate for women in the same situation, her and I are kindered spirits in this world.  

Abbie has done alot in her life even as obstacles were in her path.  She has come out fighting and stronger than ever.

Listen in as she summarizes her story of abuse and surviving.  She has alot more to tell and we can and will in future episodes go deep into surviving while in a DV relationship and how to cope after clawing your way out.  We love you all so much!

"Some bridges are beautiful when they burn.  There is a calmness that takes over when you can't go back.  When you have changed.  When you have decided.  When you have left behind a version of you, that is no longer you,  The end of everying.. is the start of anything"