Work-Life Flow

In today's episode, I explore the topic of mental load in motherhood (also called motherload). I share my evolution on this topic and my thoughts about why we need to stop propagating the celebration of mental load in motherhood. I believe that we have it in us to change the dynamic and let go of being the"perfect mom" who does it all. If we can't do it for ourselves, let's at least do it for our children, so they can grow up in a more equitable society.

Main takeaways:

• Why do we need to view mental load posts critically
• That we have the power to change the dynamic
• How to share the load
• Why are we proud of having to bear an enormous mental load? 
• How to change the narrative on social media

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, So You Can Sit Back and Relax While They Get Ready On Their Own and Learn Executive Function

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In today’s episode, Amy Lockrin shares her journey from the corporate space to becoming an entrepreneur in search of a better work-life balance. Her drive to be more present with her family ignited her passion to help other entrepreneurs to build a business with strategy and create efficient systems to not enslave themselves to the continuous demands of running a business.

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids so They can get Ready on Their Own and You Can Sit Back And Relax

Amy openly shares the challenges that having her kids home all day brought and how she and her husband navigated the distance learning period. Listen in to hear a refreshing take on what it means to bring systems not only into your business but also into your home. 

What we’re talking about…

• What can systems do for you
• How systems and SOPs helped her kids with chores
• How she managed to integrate work-life balance after leaving a corporate job
• Why we should consider our family a team
• Tips on how to teach your kids to be responsible with their chores

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You flipped your lid. Now what?

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt so triggered that you said (or yelled) something you truly wished you hadn’t said? Right. It happens. You flipped your lid. Now you fall into the negative spiral thinking you damaged your kids, or how you’re not cut out to be a mom, or how you should have been able to control yourself better,...Now you’re feeling shameful.

I want you to know that you are not a bad mom because you sometimes yell at your kids, so let’s get that off the table. We flip your lids. It happens at times. And it tends to happen more often when we are spread thin when we do not have time to decompress and rest as much as we need. See how we’re coming full circle here?

In this episode I share:

• Why we lose it at times
• How to repair a relationship after a conflict
• That we have to pay attention to our energy levels
• Why the objective situation often is not the reason we lose it and what it is instead
• Research on apologies and why they are so difficult to muster

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, So You Can Sit Back and Relax While They Get Ready On Their Own and Learn Executive Function

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In this episode, I share 4 areas in which you can increase your resilience and mental well-being at home and at work.

What we're talking about...

• Invite a mindset shift by focusing on what each member of the family can control.
• Honor the amount and type of self-care that is right for you.
• Difficult conversations - done right - can build more trust in a relationship.
• Consider how your environment affects your emotions.

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, So You Can Sit Back and Relax While They Get Ready On Their Own and Learn Executive Function

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In today's episode, I share how timely my episode on how to actually handle a "heated" situation was. I was having a rough day and thanks to my self-awareness, I could see that I needed a break from my family and chores. I made an unconventional offer, opened up a beer, and proceeded to record this episode.

What we’re talking about…

• What self-awareness is and how to increase it
• Why emotional intelligence is tied to mental well-being
• How to respond rather than react in situations where you feel triggered
• Why speaking our thoughts is important for modeling this skill

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, So You Can Sit Back and Relax While They Get Ready On Their Own and Learn Executive Function

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In this episode, I am exploring the connection between our emotions and our mental well-being. As I had been preparing a talk for an online summit about mental well-being I had to make my case for why I think Emotional Intelligence is the basis for mental well-being. The more aware we can become of our emotions in certain situations, the better we will learn to mitigate difficult situations and learn to respond rather than have a knee-jerk reaction. The better we know ourselves, the better we can find ways to increase our well-being.

Get my Freebie, the 4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, so You can Sit Back and Relax While They Get Ready on Their Own.

What we're talking about...

• How our brain and body processes emotions
• Why we can't escape our emotions 
• The effect of emotions on our, decisions, behavior, and performance
• How to increase our emotional intelligence
• A practice to heighten your self-awareness and exploration of your triggers

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Today's episode is all about the magic that happens when we let go of control. Karla shares how she started out with school-like homeschooling, but when she added three more kids she decided to focus on creating a safe space for the blended family. This is what ultimately led her to unschooling and to discover who her children really are (as she says).
Even if you're skeptical of unschooling, go, give it a listen as Karla shares so much wisdom about leading a life with purpose.

Check out the Take the Lead Bootcamp where homeschooling moms create their family vision and explore their self-leadership so they can inspire their kids!

or get my Freebie, the 4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids, so You can Sit Back and Relax while They Get Ready on Their Own.
What we're talking about...

• How letting go of control can open up the space for self-discovery
• Why we should focus on the way we show up
• That our priorities can shift from day to day or even moment to moment
• How to be fully present with your children or even yourself
• That we all should strive to find work that lights us up (or parts of it at least)
• Why following our curiosities is the most powerful decision we can make 

You can find Karla:

 Karla's webiste
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YouTube- Karla and the Sensational Six

Today’s episode is all about trauma and our response to it. Christa helps us understand the difference between big T and little t trauma and why we should never discount a traumatic experience. She shares what TRE is and why it helps resolve trauma. We explore why attachment parenting could actually be bad for moms and what to do instead. Lastly, Christa shares her key steps to creating a work-life integration that works for her.

4 Must-Have Checklists for Kids so They can get Ready on Their Own and You Can Sit Back And Relax

What we’re talking about…

• Why we have to stop being martyrs and start leading a fulfilling life
• The faulty premise of attachment parenting
• How important it is to work through trauma
• What TRE is and how it helps
• Why we should never belittle our little t traumas
• That we need to lean on support even if it’s a paid position

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Christa'a Website
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In today’s episode, Chris shares how he created a program for dads who want to live fatherhood with more presence. He noticed that many dads wanted to feel more connected and be more involved in the preparation for the baby's arrival. We explore why dads often feel left behind throughout pregnancy and the early years and what to do about it. 

4 Must-Have Checklists for Your Kids, so You Can Sit Back and Relax While They are Getting Ready

What we’re talking about…

• How the partners can be the emotional buffer and bring a sense of calm
• Why we need to talk about changes in intimacy once a baby is born
• Dad’s intuition and how to access it
• It the importance of tuning into your partner and remind them to take a break
• Why we first have to become aware of our limiting beliefs before we can make a shift
• Why children are our mirrors and how they actually help us grow.

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A Dads Presense Website
A Dads Presence Facebook
Chris Hanlon Instagram