" i found something funny here, greetings are basically… a personal questionnaire. Like, strangers (in first time convos) would ask me straight up: “How old are you?” Not “hi,” not “how’s your day,” just — age lol- I remember thinking, why on earth is that the first thing you want to know about me? Because obviously, if you’re asking, that means you care. That means age is a kind of measuring stick.....of course i know what's going on, i'm just pointing out the.. absurdity behind the ..normalcy? this is common right? And it doesn’t stop there. In a lot of places, greetings are body commentary. “Oh, you look thin.” “Oh, you’ve gained weight.” Like, can you imagine that being small talk? For me, it’s not just weird — it’s borderline dangerous.
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And all of this makes me wonder: why are our first questions always about things that are, honestly, surface-level? [.....] That’s what we lead with. But when you’re actually making a friend, or choosing a partner, or building trust — those aren’t the things that matter, are they? Wouldn’t it make way more sense to start with: 'are they kind? Are they trustworthy? Can they make you laugh?' (Having a sense of humour, to me, is the most important thing lol ) But nope, we start with stereotypes . And speaking of stereotypes [....]"
就是一集意识流的产出吧，questions/greetings——> stereotypes (of therapist works)——>ethics——>anonymity...
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If you’ve ever wondered, “What do therapists *actually do?” — this is the part you’ll want to hear.
I chatted bout the myths vs. the reality of therapy:
- How therapy is regulated in the States and Canada, esp. a few places i've worked (Vancouver, Seattle).
- The different schools of thought (CBT, biopsychology, psychoanalysis, psychiatry).
- What my work looks like day-to-day: well, not just an hour in an office....
- (the uncomfortable truth) The gap between ethics we’re taught and the reality of practice.
- Why I still believe in therapist anonymity, even in the social media age.
- End with ...how to spot a therapist who’s truly there for you
中文：
当你想到“心理治疗师”的工作，会想到什么？BetterHelp 广告里微笑的面孔？弗洛伊德的皮沙发？还是一个静静点头陪你聊一小时的人？
在这一段里，我简单的聊了聊心理治疗的迷思和现实：
- 治疗在北美(主要是 温哥华、西雅图地区)的监管方式。
- 不同学派的咨询师还是挺不一样的！（认知行为、 biopsych、生物心理学、精神分析、精神科）。（指主攻但也灵活）
- 治疗师的 日常工作：不仅仅是漂亮的房间里一小时左右的谈话
- 咨询伦理 （课堂上学到的与实际工作中的差距）。
- 为什么我依旧相信，治疗师应该 尽量保持“隐形”,即使在社交媒体时代
- 如果有什么结论的话，就是如何分辨一个真正以你为中心的治疗师，和一个只是“看起来像在”的治疗师吧
如果你也曾经好奇这些 ——可以从05:50 - 这一段就是为你准备的。
as always, 感谢收听！
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