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Lucy, can I ask you something?
Sure. What's on your mind?
Yesterday I was talking to a friend. He's 29, has a stable job, he's in a healthy relationship, but then he said something that completely caught me off guard.
What did he say?
He looked at me and said, "I don't think I'll ever get married."
Wow. Did he just go through a bad breakup or something?
That's exactly what I asked, but he said, "No, I still believe in love. I just don't believe marriage is for me anymore."
That's interesting because I'm hearing that more and more these days.
Same here. And it got me thinking, is this just one person's opinion, or is something much bigger happening?
That's exactly what we're exploring today.
Why are so many people in Gen Z choosing to avoid marriage? Is it fear, money, changing values, or is marriage itself changing?
Let's find out. You know, if this were just your friend, I'd probably say he's an exception.
That's what I thought, too. But then I started noticing the same conversation everywhere, on podcasts, in interviews, even on social media.
I've noticed it, too. It feels like more and more people in their 20s are saying, "I want love, but I'm not sure about marriage."
Exactly. And that's what surprised me. They're not saying they never want a relationship. They're questioning marriage itself.
So naturally, I started wondering, is this just something people talk about online, or is there actually a bigger shift happening? It turns out there is. Across many countries, people are getting married later than previous generations, and in some places, fewer people are getting married at all.
That's a huge cultural shift. For a long time, getting married was seen as the next step in life. You finished school, found a job, got married, and eventually started a family.
Now that timeline doesn't seem as automatic anymore.
Exactly. Today, many young adults are focusing on building a career, improving their mental health, traveling, or simply figuring out who they are before making a lifelong commitment.
And here's something important. This doesn't necessarily mean Gen Z has stopped believing in love.
Right.
In fact, many of them still want deep, meaningful relationships. They're just asking a different question.
Instead of asking, "When should I get married?" they're asking, "Does marriage actually make sense for the life I want?"
And honestly, that's a very different conversation.
It is. So, if people still believe in love, why are so many of them hesitating when it comes to marriage?
You know what I find fascinating?
What?
If we had this conversation 30 or 40 years ago, it probably wouldn't even exist.
You're right. Back then, marriage wasn't something most people questioned. It was simply part of growing up.
Almost like an unwritten life plan.
Exactly. You finished school, found a job, got married, started a family, and that was considered a successful life.
But somewhere along the way, that script started to change.
It did, and I don't think one single event caused it. The world itself became very different.
Different how?
Well, think about it. Careers aren't as predictable anymore. People move more often. Technology changed how we meet, how we communicate, and even how we think about relationships.
So, Gen Z didn't just inherit a different dating culture.
They inherited a completely different world.
That actually explains a lot.
It does. Every generation makes decisions based on the world they're living in, not the one their parents grew up in.
So, maybe comparing Gen Z to previous generations isn't entirely fair.
Exactly. They're playing by a completely different set of rules.
And once you understand those new rules, their decisions start making a lot more sense.
So, let's look at those changes one by one. Can I ask you something?
Of course.
If you met the right person tomorrow, someone you truly loved, would you feel ready to get married?
Honestly, I don't know.
Really?
Yeah, and I don't think it would have anything to do with love.
Then what would stop you?
I'd start asking myself a hundred practical questions. Can we afford a home? What if one of us loses our job? Are we financially stable enough? What happens if things don't go as planned?
That's interesting, because those aren't relationship questions.
Exactly.
They're life questions. And I think that's one of the biggest differences today. For many young adults, marriage isn't just an emotional commitment anymore. It's a financial one, too.
Everything seems more expensive than it used to be.
Housing costs have gone up. Living expenses have increased. Many people are still paying off student loans or trying to build a career before they even think about settling down.
So, when older generations ask, "Why don't they just get married?" Gen Z is often thinking, "How can we when we're still trying to build a stable life?"
That changes the whole conversation.
It really does. Marriage hasn't become less meaningful. If anything, the stakes feel higher than ever.
Because now people feel like they need to have everything figured out before they can say, "I'm ready."