You Can Tell Me

Always introduced as The Friend, this episode's guest discusses his first love with someone who wasn't out of the closet just yet. Despite having noteworthy chemistry, ultimately something had to give when communication broke down between the two of them. A romantic trip to Louisiana would turn into their ultimate demise.

Survival strategies shared in this episode:

• Nourish and cherish your friendships just as you would your romantic relationships
• When you enter a relationship, don't drop your self worth at the door step
• Don't stop writing your story just because one character doesn't make it into the next chapter

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The You Can Tell Me team catches up with A New Yorker in LA from our third episode. She shares how she's been doing since her breakup in March!

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This week we are featuring a non-traditional break-up story: breaking up with a perceived identity. We talk to Gently Evolving who, after identifying as a lesbian for four years, fell in love with a cisgender man. She discusses the complexities of queer identity, how she still considers herself part of the LGBTQIA+ community, and tips on how to handle tricky coming out situations.

Survival strategies include:

• Be gentle with yourself
• Surround yourself with those who will be understanding of your journey
• Be careful who you come out to

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*ALSO* Last week, the You Can Tell Me team sat down with Julia & Brenda at RAWring Twenties podcast – check out our episode!

The You Can Tell Me team catches up with our very first guest, Resilient Single Dog Mom, six months into her break up with her ex. She shares what has been most helpful to her in her healing journey which includes a rigorous morning routine and cultivating confidence through meditation and affirmations!

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A Mystery Musician joins the You Can Tell Me team to tell us about her first love. For the majority of their relationship, they lived over 3,000 miles apart before FaceTime existed – but their summers were akin to the fairytales we love so much. A true heartwarming teenage love story set to a Coldplay album.

Survival strategies include:

• Give yourself as much mercy as you can.
• Use your creativity!
• Keep journals of your time. Remind yourself of your tenacity by looking back on other hardships you have gone through and use that as proof that you can get through this as well.

Aside from giving us incredible advice, Mystery Musician also wanted to share her newest album Conscious Control with us! <3 It's...so good, y'all. 

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You Can Tell Me is excited to announce a special series for February: FEBRUARY FOLLOW-UPS! For the next three Fridays, we will be following up with past guests to see how they're doing on their healing journeys. They will share their advice, spill some tea, and remind us that everyone is healing on their own timeline.

The YCTM team also shares their plans for Galentine's Day, as well as a special guest spot they are doing on RAWring Twenties Podcast this month.

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*CONTENT WARNING* This episode contains discussion of sexual violence. Please listen with caution, and take care of yourself.

Eight years ago, Hot Girl fell in love for the first time. It was film school, he was perfect, and everything was right in the world. That is, until passions ran high, events were misinterpreted, and the relationship came to a dramatic end. In this episode, Hot Girl looks back on this relationship and examines all the things that would be different if only both her and her ex were better at communicating with one another.

Survival strategies in this episode include:

• Trusting that time will help heal the wound
• Focus on not hurting yourself or others in the wake of the break-up

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Don't believe in ghosts? Think again. In this episode Always Leveling Up spills the tea on the dude who keeps ghosting her and how she's coped with it when it happens.

Survival strategies featured in this episode include:

• Just focus on the next 24 hours – stay present.
• The feelings will pass eventually, they are temporary.
• Remind yourself that you are worthy of love, respect and admiration.

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*WARNING: This episode includes detailed descriptions of sexual acts.*

For those of you who have recently ended a relationship and are feeling guilty about how you ended things – this episode is for you. Guilty No More realized something was up when she... literally never wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. Major red flag. She discusses working up the courage to be honest with her partner and how she learned more about herself in the aftermath of their relationship.

Survival strategies shared in this episode include:

• If you are breaking up with someone and you feel guilty about it, remember the things about the relationship that weren't working.
• Don't feel guilty for wanting to date other people or explore other areas of your sexuality.
• Lean into learning about yourself post-break-up.

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"I went back so y'all don't have to." Table For One sits down with the You Can Tell Me team to discuss healing after an eight year-long relationship wherein they still had to live with one another after the fact. We talk about taking a pause from dating to date yourself as a means of healing.

Survival Strategies discussed in this episode:

• Honor your feelings
• Cultivate a relationship with yourself to better understand what you can give in a relationship
• Romance yourself! Buy candles... lots of candles.

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