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Tell Mikell had the privilege of being invited to a Women's Retreat centered around healing and empowerment. Tell Mikell came to give the women a man's perspective and also answer any questions. We discuss what happens when people commit to working on their healing. We also discussed how jealous Tell Mikell was about how many of these spaces that women have to work on themselves and how few of these spaces men have. Why don't we create spaces where men can heal. Men often have impromptu get-togethers that sometimes can turn into real transparent moments and healing spaces, but for some reason, there aren't many planned spaces where men can work on healing. Tell Mikell emphasizes how black men have not been taught or really rewarded for creating spaces of empowerment. 

Today we talk about how difficult it is for men to rest because our perceived worth is embedded within our everyday grind and our everyday struggle. So many men work themselves to exhaustion and don't think twice about it because they are taught that their value is tied to how much they can produce or how much they can perform. We break down how the need and the want to grind can also be tied to a trauma response instead of just passion or drive. We really dive deep into the self-doubt that creeps in even when we do decide to take more of a break or work less. 

Today we are talking about narcissism and taking a deeper dive into how our current society feeds the narcissistic personality. We discuss the traits of narcissism and the spectrum of where it fits when it comes to mental health. Tell Mikell talks about how narcissism feeds dysfunction and makes dysfunction look great. Sam Dupe wants to know why people do not empathize with narcissists in a crisis as they empathize with other more prominent mental health issues such as bipolar or depression. We also tackle how many of the leaders of black culture especially in the arts have exhibited narcissistic behavior which has impacted black people as a whole. We also talk about how everyone has a little bit of narcissism in them.

Today we are having a conversation about men that are scared to be in successful relationships. Sam Dupe has an interesting theory that he feels like there are a lot of men out here that are afraid of the responsibility associated with being the head of household. We analyze whether or not that fear manifests itself in the sabotage of romantic relationships that otherwise could be successful. We also talk about being a support system to help men get over the fear and what that looks like. The reality is the role of being a protector and provider comes with a lot of pressure that can be a strong deterrent and the goal is to restore confidence in these men so that we can grow our families and our legacies. 

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Today we talk with Justina Victoria, a Men's Psychosexual Expert, to have a dialogue about the sexual experience. We discuss how men are taught early that sex is a performance rather than an experience and how those teachings have a strong impact on the male psyche. We discuss how emotional issues can resurface as sexual issues if not dealt with properly. We talk about why certain men seek out sex therapy and issues such as erectile dysfunction, hypersexuality, and men working on boosting their sexual comfort level. We also discuss why there aren't enough safe spaces for men to discuss sexual problems and when it comes to sex no one cares whether a man feels safe. We talk about how male feelings are not protected and the pressure for men to measure up to society's definition of a man and how that pressure has become detrimental to men as a whole. 

Today we bring on a special guest Cam J who speaks about his struggles with Post-Graduation Depression. Cam talks about how the transition from college to working every day and trying to balance his old social life with his new post-graduate life was difficult for him. He discussed his issues with being the youngest at his job and how at times it felt as if he didn't have what it took to fulfill his duties and responsibilities. Imposter syndrome and bad management diminished his professional confidence and how he was able to overcome those things. Cam also discussed how he was able to get himself back in order through helping others, mentoring, and taking care of himself physically. Post-Graduation Depression is very common and needs to be talked about more in order to help others understand that they are not alone. 

Today we are talking with Pastor Theodore Rollins of Suwannee Worship Center regarding the state of the black church. We discuss how the black church went from being a staple in the community to one of the most criticized parts of the community. We discuss the emergence of megachurches and what that means for the black community. We also talk about how black churches used to be the driving force in political change for blacks but no longer holds that position in our society and why that is. We discuss how the church has lost its mission. Pastor Ted talks about what churches have to do in a post-COVID-19 world in order to grow membership and bring back the relevance of the church. Pastor Ted wraps up the conversation with a message on how to exercise their faith moving forward in life.

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On today’s podcast we are talking about languishing which is often referred to as the middle child of mental health. Languish often gets overlooked because it is not quite depressed and not quite thriving it is a weird stage in the middle. Languishing is like living but looking at your life through a foggy window. You’re not quite depressed and have the energy to do life, but life for some reason or another is not bringing you the joy that you once had. We all discuss how we felt languish throughout 2020 and how we individually got out of that state. We talk about goal setting and the importance of doing things to take control over your life even when times are uncertain and unveil our 2020 superpower that we have brought with us into 2021.