Your Aunties Could Never

She put her grown son out after years of verbal abuse. Was she wrong, or had she finally chosen peace?

A.K., Farah and Nana discuss the guilt, expectations and pressure placed on Black mothers. When does protecting your child become accepting behaviour you would tell anyone else to walk away from?

Plus, a woman sets off on a 20-hour drive to confront a man who won’t answer her messages. The Aunties have questions, starting with: what happens when you have to drive home?

We also get into reparations, Britain’s slavery history, racial justice, Hasan Piker’s interview, co-parenting and whether staying together for the children actually helps them. And yes, we’re revisiting the argument that upset the comments: are beards makeup for men?

No guests this week. Just your favourite Aunties, honest opinions and plenty to debate.

Tell us in the comments: can you love your child and still tell them they can’t live with you?

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Being “ladylike” and the rules girls grow up with

03:00 Driving 20 hours for a man who won’t reply

13:00 A mother puts her adult son out

16:00 Why is the mother being blamed?

22:00 Meet the Aunties and live show chat

28:00 Welcome to the Family: Buy Back Brixton

30:00 Britain’s slave trade register

32:00 The Aunties challenge arguments against reparations

39:00 What should reparations actually involve?

46:00 An invitation to come and debate the Aunties

49:00 A Mississippi case and questions about justice

58:00 News narratives, state violence and accountability

1:00:00 Britain, slavery and whose history gets told

1:05:00 Hasan Piker, political interviews and Palestine

1:14:00 A mum carries the baby and everyone’s food

1:16:00 Co-parenting: can you change the dynamic?

1:20:00 Should parents stay together for the children?

1:26:00 Should women dress differently for their partners?

1:27:00 Unwanted touching and personal boundaries

1:28:00 Are beards makeup for men? We answer the comments

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Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by Aaron Dale, founder of Raising Boys 2 Men and author of the new book The Co-Parent: A Toolkit for Parenting Together, Apart.

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 Is he a good dad? A father cancelled his daughter's birthday mid celebration after she got her period, leaked and was too embarrassed to continue. He then took away $250 of her birthday money to teach her about "consequences". Her mum and family were furious. Was this parenting or punishment without compassion?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 NACK Clothing, celebrating African identity and culture through fashion.

💐 Vatika Naturals, bringing more than 140 years of heritage and natural ingredients to haircare for diverse hair types.

💐 Nubian Jak Community Trust, following the unveiling of a blue plaque in Westbourne Park celebrating the history and legacy of Notting Hill Carnival.

💐 Your Aunties Could Never LIVE at the Lyric Hammersmith! Book your tickets now!

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 A stepmother forcing her stepchild to call her "Mum". You can build a loving relationship with a child, but can you demand the title?

🚩 Joanna Wietrzyk, after the Hyrox world champion continued competing after soiling herself mid race. How badly do you need to win?!

🚩 Black girls walking barefoot down the street! Farrah and AK witnessed heels in hands and bare feet on the pavement and couldn't believe their eyes. Some traditions must be preserved. Gen Z, Gen Alpha ... fix up.

🚩 The Lindsay Clancy case, from the campaigning for her freedom to the doxxing of the Black male juror who reportedly held out against a not guilty verdict. We unpack race, sympathy, mental health, the treatment of that juror and whether the three young children who died are being lost in the conversation.

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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Trillary Banks joins the Aunties for an honest conversation about family loyalty, public judgement and supporting her mother through a prison sentence following a fatal car accident. Trillary explains why she refuses to abandon her mum, while acknowledging the lives lost and the pain experienced by the families involved. Can you love someone, stand beside them and still accept that what they did was wrong? The conversation also explores the pressure on women to marry and have children, fertility, intentional dating, distrust, the realities of the UK music industry and why some people struggle to celebrate another person’s success.

Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by actress Tahirah Sharif and Marvin and Tazer from 3ShotsOfTequila.

We catch up with Tahirah about her role in the new 50 Cent produced series Fightland, Tazer reflects on another huge R&B Slow Jams with Chuckie at Magazine London, and Marvin has stories from his latest trip to Jamaica.

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 Ladies, are we sometimes too handsy with men? Touching arms and chests, pinching bums, all passed off as harmless flirting. If we know unwanted touching isn't okay, why do we sometimes assume men are fine with it? And men, do you need to speak up more when you're uncomfortable?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 Shan the Brand, for her brilliant coverage travelling across the Caribbean and taking us along for the journey.

💐 E Man, for the hilarious content exposing some truly shocking gaps in the British public's general knowledge.

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 Humanoid robots! Tahirah wants a word with the people designing robots to look increasingly human. Why do we need them to look like us, and are we casually paving the way for the robot uprising?

🚩 Taking your relationship drama to the internet. Marvin asks why private relationship problems need to become public content, including Serayah sharing what led to the end of her relationship with Joey Bada$$.

🚩 The Royal Family, for honouring Dolly Parton following her death while facing questions about their own charitable spirit, including reports of NHS ambulances being charged to park on royal land.

🚩 Zeze Millz's comments about men and predatory behaviour caused an internet frenzy. But are we more outraged by how she said it than by the uncomfortable realities behind the conversation?

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by author and journalist Symeon Brown and musician Blue Sevenz.

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 Are we scared to celebrate our wins? After performing with Fat Joe at one of Jay Z’s recent shows, Jadakiss admitted it was one of the happiest nights of his life, but being that happy scared him. Why do we sometimes struggle to enjoy our wins without fear or doubt creeping in?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 Trevor Nelson, sending love to the legendary DJ and broadcaster as he recovers from surgery following a brain tumour diagnosis. After decades championing R&B, soul and Black music, we’re happy he’s doing well.

💐 Vic Mensa, from legal troubles to sobriety to using his platform to explore Black history, politics and Pan Africanism. Now he’s launching The Vic Mensa Show, bringing music, politics and culture together. Loving his growth.

💐 Marcia Hutchinson, author of The Mercy Step, for pushing through years of rejection to finally release her acclaimed debut novel.

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 Seedless fruit! Grapes were bad enough, but now M&S are selling seedless oranges. Where have all the seeds gone?!

🚩 Black Excellence? With Symeon Brown, author of The Good, the Black and the Boujee, we ask whether Black Excellence is a problem.

🚩 The UK and our Black British music legacy. With Blue Sevenz making his musical comeback, why don’t we preserve and celebrate UK Black artists?

🚩 Trevor Phillips, for using a piece about the National Theatre’s The Story to bring Jason Arday into another discussion about truth, race and fabricated narratives.

RUN TO THE COMMENTS

🏃🏾‍♀️ We return to Jason Arday and some of the criticism of our own coverage. How do we discuss accountability while recognising the scrutiny Black academics can face?

This is the honest conversation you won’t hear anywhere else.

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Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by Melissa Berry, aka Mel Boss Lady, executive coach, leadership expert and founder of PowHer Collective.

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 Following the devastating death of Professor Jason Arday, the Aunties reflect on the media storm that surrounded him, racism, accountability and our own responsibility when criticism becomes a public pile on. Jason died aged 41, shortly after resigning from Cambridge amid allegations he denied, with his family condemning what they described as a sustained campaign of harassment.

💸 And how do you actually ask for your money back? Apparently Gen Z are losing serious money because they find chasing friends for what they owe too awkward. Group dinners, holidays, concert tickets... when does being polite become being out of pocket?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 Adrian and Tara Thorpe, for showing the internet what 23 years of marriage and knowing how to take a joke looks like. After Adrian's comments about Tara's edges and bum had social media ready to defend her honour, the couple handled the whole thing with jokes, banter and a 24 hour deadline for everybody to get their think pieces off.

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 The NHS and TfL, as nurses reportedly faint in sweltering wards and London bus drivers take action over cab temperatures reaching around 40C.

🚩 The white dad who told his mixed race son his Afro fade was "too urban". His son loved his haircut. Dad clearly had other ideas.

🚩 Blueface, Chrisean and maybe all of us, because at some point we have to discuss why we keep making the wrong people famous. A livestream involving a 21 year old dark skinned woman descended into colourism, racism and her being put out of Blueface's car at 4am.

🚩 Jan Leeming, for criticising Charlene White and for claiming Black, Asian and other non white people have an easier route to success.

🚩 Loose Women, as separate claims from Chrystal Rose and Nadia Sawalha raise questions about who gets a voice on the panel and what happens when women don't fit the show's preferred mould.

🚩 Afroman, after accusing Africans of selling Black Americans' ancestors into slavery and describing Africans in America as arrogant and disrespectful.

RUN TO THE COMMENTS

🏃🏾‍♀️ Are Black British women stiff, stush and unfriendly? You lot had plenty to say after our April Jackson conversation, including some Black British women agreeing that our American sisters might just have us beat when it comes to warmth and sisterhood.

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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Your favourite Aunties, Ak and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by Ghanaian actress and Kinky Matters founder Lydia Forson.

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 This week’s Auntyvention looks at the conversation around Loyce Nagawa, after she publicly shared her experience of an alleged sexual assault and the online commentary that followed. When someone shares something this sensitive, what responsibility do content creators have when questioning, critiquing or discussing their story?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 Bukky Asehinde, founder of TALES House London, for creating a permanent home just off Oxford Street showcasing African and diaspora fashion, art, homeware and lifestyle brands.

💐 The Montgomery Riverfront Brawl, three years on from the moment Black solidarity, a heroic swim and one folding chair entered the history books.

💐 The LOX, five years after absolutely bodying Dipset in one of the most memorable Verzuz battles ever. A special one for Aunty AK, who was also busy surviving Covid at the time!

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 The Jason Arday controversy, as the former Cambridge professor faces fresh scrutiny over his academic record and allegations of misconduct, which he denies, while Kehinde Andrews argues we're watching a smear campaign.

🚩 Ariana Grande's team... or is it us? As she steps away from public life citing relentless scrutiny, the Aunties ask where concern ends and invasive commentary begins.

🚩 Sacha Baron Cohen for deciding that 2026 is apparently the year we needed Ali G back.

🚩 Black British women?! After April Jackson claimed Black American women have been more supportive and welcoming to her than Black British women. Generalisation or uncomfortable conversation worth having?

RUN TO THE COMMENTS

🏃🏾‍♀️ You lot had A LOT to say, so we're running straight back to the comments. This week we address being called out for talking over each other, our conversations about Black Americans and African identity, interracial dating, colourism, that viral Nigerian skin bleaching statistic and why people STILL think Black hair is public property.

Some fair criticism, some strong disagreements and some comments that definitely needed an Aunties response.

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by the In My Opinion crew, DT, Uzoma and Sukali.

AUNTYVENTION

A woman spent the day with a man she's dating and wondered if him shoppign for himself and leaving her waiting in his car for three hours while he worked. She wanted to know if his behaviour was a collection of red flags or an original approach to dating?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 Beverly Naya for her Netflix documentary Skin continues that tackled colourism, skin bleaching and beauty standards in Nigeria.

💐 Mulinde welcomes Zeze Millz for defending In My Opinion podcast from critics who tried to lump them into the "take the mics away from men" conversation.

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 People who think Black children's hair is public property. Admiration is one thing. Ignoring consent is another.

🚩 New UK Prime Minister Andy Burnham's questionable new cabinet choices.

🚩 Cam'ron, for being disrespectful about Africans as he denies any African heritage.

RUN TO THE COMMENTS

🏃🏾‍♀️ This week, the Aunties revisit your reactions to two conversations that got people talking: Kelso's comments about Caribbean immigration history in Britain and the ongoing debate around why some Black men don't date Black women.

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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The Aunties are back, and this week we are joined by content creator, host, and viral personality Kelso (@Kelsoshow)!

From his controversial comments on immigration and Windrush to the viral debate on where all the 40+ Black men are, no topic is off-limits. We dive deep into Caribbean vs. African identity, building wealth, height privilege, and why Kelso officially stopped talking to girls after hitting the limelight.

Plus, we run through the comments, call out the latest viral madness (including that Paraguayan senator and World Cup politics), and talk about Kelso’s insane rise from corporate manager to online star.

⚡ Kelso explains (and defends) his Windrush comments — was it really what people think he meant?

⚡ Being 6'7": the DMs, the dating, the disadvantages nobody talks about

⚡ Buy Back Brixton, Ghana's reparations bid, and who actually got rich off the slave trade

⚡ The Paraguayan senator's vile comments about Mbappé — and Trump getting FIFA to overturn a red card

⚡ "Where are the Black men over 40?" — we run to the comments and it gets heated

⚡ Kelso's actual rise: from a corporate job at Peabody to going viral in Grenada in three months

Your favourite Aunties, Ak, Farrah and Nana are back with another packed episode, joined by Kelechi Okafor!

AUNTYVENTION

🫂 This week's Auntyvention looks at the end of LaVar and Tina Ball's 30-year marriage. After raising three sons together and supporting each other through Tina's stroke and LaVar's leg amputation, the couple have separated. So, if you've built a life together and survived the hardest of times, is it ever okay to walk away because you're no longer happy?

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

💐 BET for an unforgettable tribute to Lauryn Hill, with performances from SZA, Doechii, Tems, Doja Cat, Nas, Queen Latifah, Common, Rapsody, Lizzo, YG Marley and more celebrating one of music's greatest icons.

ENEMIES OF PROGRESS

🚩 Sexist MCs for the tired, lazy and misogynistic crowd banter that's long overdue for retirement.

🚩 India.Arie or Yung Miami? The Aunties unpack the debate over Spend Dat. Is India.Arie right to question the messages our music reinforces, or is Yung Miami simply making the soundtrack to the summer?

🚩 Megyn Kelly for her racist rant telling Haitians to "go home", reigniting anti immigrant rhetoric and dehumanising an entire community.

🚩 Justice Amy Coney Barrett after joining the Supreme Court majority allowing the Trump administration to move forward with ending Temporary Protected Status for hundreds of thousands of Haitians, despite being the adoptive mother of two Haitian children.

🚩 Oprah Winfrey after claiming Whitney Houston had relapsed during her final Oprah appearance, a version of events firmly disputed by Whitney's estate.

RUN TO THE COMMENTS

🏃🏾‍♀️ This week, the Aunties dive into your reactions to Gina Yashere's comments about African and Caribbean identity on One54 Africa. The debate has sparked strong opinions, emotional responses and thousands of comments. Now it's time to hear what you had to say.

This is the honest conversation you won't hear anywhere else.

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