Your Body Remembers Pleasure: Somatic Sex Education & Sexual Healing

What if your erotic nature wasn’t something to control… but something to rewild?

Explore erotic embodiment and reclaiming aliveness:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/rewilding-eros-belonging-community
 

What if you already belong — exactly as you are?

In this expansive and deeply human conversation, Rahi Chun sits with author, mentor, and founder of the Institute for Erotic Intelligence, Christiane Pelmas, to explore rewilding, belonging, and the untamed nature of our erotic embodiment.

Together they question one of the most invisible forces shaping our lives: the pressure to fit in.

From childhood conditioning to sexual norms to professional identities, we’re taught to domesticate ourselves — to trim our edges, suppress desire, and conform.

But what happens when we stop trying to fit… and remember that we already belong?

Through stories of community potlucks, fire circles, mentorship, erotic friendship, psychedelics, trauma healing, and dismantling rigid ethical boxes, this episode invites us into a more ecological way of being — where sexuality, intimacy, and connection are wild, relational, and alive.

Inside this conversation:

• Belonging vs. fitting in (and why they’re opposites)
 • Rewilding the body, desire, and community
 • Trauma as a rupture in belonging
 • Why healing doesn’t have to be “hard work”
 • Erotic friendship and breaking relational compartments
 • Community gatherings as medicine
 • Psychedelics, embodiment, and expanded intimacy
 • Ethics as an internal, lived experience (not external rules)
 • Returning to our indigenous language of connection

This episode is less a teaching… and more an invitation.

To soften.
To question.
To remember your place in the living web of life.

Learn more about Christiane’s work:
 christianepelmas.com 

Learn the skills and practices for reclaiming pleasure:
rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure 

If this conversation resonated, leaving a 5-star rating or review helps this work reach others longing for deeper connection and belonging.

What if sexual arousal wasn’t something to rush through… but a doorway into clarity, creativity, and deep embodiment?

Explore sexological bodywork and embodied erotic practice:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/joseph-kramer-sexological-bodywork
 

What if touch could change your consciousness?

In this landmark conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Joseph Kramer — founder of the Body Electric School and architect of the profession of Sexological Bodywork — whose teachings have trained thousands of somatic sex educators and erotic healers around the world.

Often called the grandfather of modern somatic sexuality, Joseph has spent over four decades exploring one radical idea:

That sustained, conscious touch can awaken the “Body Electric” — a state of aliveness, presence, and expanded awareness.

From his early years as a Jesuit seminarian forbidden to touch…
to founding the Body Electric during the AIDS crisis…
to developing erotic massage, breathwork, and non-ejaculatory arousal practices…

Joseph shares how sexual energy became not just pleasure — but a path to embodiment, healing, and insight.

Inside this episode:

• The origin story of the Body Electric School
 • How Sexological Bodywork became a recognized profession
 • Touch as communication and consciousness
 • Why chasing orgasm limits erotic potential
 • The power of sustained (non-ejaculatory) arousal
 • Breathwork and sexual energy circulation
 • Erotic massage as meditation
 • “Erotic massage dancing” and active embodiment
 • Porn, presence, and reclaiming attention
 • Sexual rituals for staying embodied in a digital world

This is both a masterclass and a transmission — a rare chance to hear directly from one of the pioneers who shaped the field of somatic sex education.

If you’ve ever felt called to explore the deeper intelligence of the body, this episode is essential listening.

More resources :

orgasmicyoga.com/ 
rahichun.com 

If this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming pleasure and embodiment.

What if your body wasn’t just physical… but electric?

Explore erotic embodiment and sexual energy:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/body-electric-erotic-embodiment 

Many of us were never taught that our sexuality could be sacred.

Instead, we inherited shame.
Secrecy.
Silence.

And for many — especially queer bodies — that shame lives deep in the nervous system, shaping how safe we feel in our own skin.

So what happens when we enter a space where our bodies are honored…
our pleasure is welcomed…
and our erotic energy is treated as holy?

In this heartfelt conversation, I’m joined by Craig Cullinane — longtime faculty member and former director of The Body Electric School — to explore the path of erotic embodiment, healing sexual shame, and the power of sacred, consent-based erotic community.

Craig shares his journey from body dysmorphia and chronic shame to profound spiritual awakening through a Body Electric workshop — an experience that ultimately led him to assist, teach, and guide the organization for over a decade.

Together we talk about:

• how shame disconnects us from pleasure and intimacy
• why safety and consent are the foundation of erotic healing
• the role of breath, touch, and ritual in awakening the whole body
• reclaiming masturbation and self-pleasure as sacred practice
• pornography, distraction, and emotional numbing
• how erotic energy fuels creativity, intuition, and life force
• and how The Body Electric has expanded to serve all genders and communities

At its heart, this episode is about remembering something simple and radical:

Your body is not a problem to fix.
Your pleasure is not something to hide.
Your erotic energy is life force.

And when we treat it as sacred, everything changes.

If you’re curious about somatic sexuality, erotic healing workshops, or exploring your body with more reverence and freedom, this conversation will feel like coming home.

In this episode, we explore:

• Craig’s first life-changing Body Electric workshop
 • Healing body shame and sexual shame
 • Creating safe containers for deep erotic transformation
 • Why pleasure is medicine for the nervous system
 • Simple practices to awaken your whole body as an erotic organ
 • Conscious self-touch and breathwork rituals
 • The impact of porn habits and intentional “porn cleanses”
 • Erotic energy as creativity, spirituality, and life force
 • The evolution of The Body Electric School into a global, inclusive movement

Resources & Links

Craig Cullinane – craigcullinane.com 
The Body Electric School – bodyelectric.org 
More teachings & resources – rahichun.com 

What if healing sexual trauma isn’t the end of the journey… but the beginning of rediscovering intimacy?

Explore rebuilding intimacy and reclaiming pleasure:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/healing-sexual-trauma-rebuilding-intimacy 

How do you come home to your body after trauma?

After childhood abuse…
after sexual violation…
after years of numbness, shutdown, or feeling like your body wasn’t even yours?

And once you do begin healing — how do you rebuild intimacy with a partner when old patterns have been running for decades?

In this deeply moving conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Laura Jergens, certified Somatica practitioner, intimacy coach, and survivor of childhood abuse and sexual trauma, who shares her courageous journey of reclaiming her body, her boundaries, and her pleasure.

Laura speaks candidly about:

• surviving homelessness and early sexual abuse
 • dissociation and chronic genital numbness
 • why talk therapy wasn’t enough
 • learning to feel emotions in the body
 • rebuilding safety through somatic embodiment
 • how boundaries actually create intimacy
 • healing sexual shame and people-pleasing
 • genital de-armoring and restoring sensation
 • and how she and her husband completely reinvented their sexual relationship after 20+ years together

Together we explore how somatic healing, relational repair, and slow, intentional touch can rewire the nervous system and restore access to pleasure.

Because healing isn’t just mental.

It’s cellular.
It’s relational.
It’s embodied.

And when the body finally feels safe… pleasure returns naturally.

If you’re navigating sexual trauma recovery, struggling with intimacy, or wanting to feel more alive and at home in your body, this episode offers both hope and practical tools.

You are not broken.
Your body remembers how to heal.
And pleasure is still possible.

In this episode, we explore:

• Somatic approaches to healing sexual trauma
 • Processing emotions through the body
 • Boundaries as self-care (not rejection)
 • Reclaiming genital sensation after numbness
 • How Somatica “relationship labs” work
 • Practicing desire, voice, and consent in real time
 • Couples intimacy resets and slow touch practices
 • Removing goal-oriented sex and rebuilding from the ground up
 • Why safety is the foundation of arousal

Resources

Dr. Laura Jergens – https://laurajurgens.com 
To learn relational skills and erotic practices for extended lovemaking – divineunionforlovers.com/course 

What if belonging wasn’t something you had to earn… but something you could feel in your body?

Explore erotic embodiment and conscious community:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/ecstatic-belonging-caffyn-jesse 

In this return conversation, I welcome Caffyn Jesse back to the podcast two years after retiring from the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, the pioneering training program they co-founded.

Instead of slowing down, Caffyn’s life force has only expanded.

With fewer roles, fewer responsibilities, and more spacious mornings, their work has distilled into something even more potent: ecstatic belonging, peer intimacy, and community-based erotic healing.

Through their new platform EcstaticBelonging.com and the online Intimacy Educator training, Kain has curated decades of somatic sex education, trauma-aware touch, nervous system science, and sacred sexuality into a living, accessible body of work.

This episode explores what becomes possible when we move beyond hierarchy, beyond performance, and into authentic, peer-to-peer connection.

We talk about:

• Life after “retirement” — and why stepping down created more creativity
 • From teacher/student to peer intimacy and co-creation
 • Distilling 12+ years of teaching into the Intimacy Educator online course
 • Erotic embodiment as belonging — to self, community, and Earth
 • The window of tolerance & neural learning zone in sexual healing
 • Why safety alone isn’t enough (we also need bravery)
 • Reclaiming voice, choice, and authentic consent
 • The “Outlaw’s Journey” — trusting your inner truth over cultural norms
 • Creating conscious erotic community with friends and lovers
 • Touch as neuroplastic re-patterning and trauma integration
 • Office hours, accessibility, and making this work available to everyone
 • Psychedelic-supported bodywork — potential, caution, and ethical boundaries
 • Integration, power dynamics, and the pace of trust

This conversation feels like sitting with an elder by the fire — honest, grounded, and deeply human.

Not about technique.

Not about performance.

But about learning how to belong — in your body, in your truth, and with each other.

Explore Caffyn’s work: 

Ecstatic Belonging + free resources: https://ecstaticbelonging.com 

Intimacy Educator training: https://intimacyeducator.com 

More somatic sexual healing resources about touch and being touched:
rahichun.com/turnedonbytouch 

If this episode supports you, leaving a 5-star rating or short review helps this work reach more people.

What if the doorway to healing trauma isn’t just through talk or touch… but through expanded states of consciousness?

Explore plant medicine and sexual trauma healing:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/plant-medicine-sexual-trauma-healing 

Psychedelics aren’t just “altered states” — they can be powerful tools for trauma healing, embodiment, and reconnecting with the body’s life force.

In this episode, plant medicine integration therapist and clinical counselor Salimeh Tabrizi shares how intentional work with ayahuasca, psilocybin, and cannabis can help metabolize stored trauma, release sexual wounding, and restore trust in the body.

We explore the intersection of psychedelic therapy, somatic healing, and sexual embodiment — and why safe set, setting, and integration are everything.

Salimeh opens up about her own journey through early childhood sexual trauma, autoimmune illness, and how plant medicines helped her access grief, reclaim sensation, and reconnect with her life force.

This is a grounded, trauma-informed conversation about using plant medicines with reverence, responsibility, and deep therapeutic support.

We talk about:

• How ayahuasca unlocked repressed trauma memories
 • Psilocybin for nervous system regulation & emotional release
 • Why integration matters more than the ceremony itself
 • Healing sexual trauma through the body (not just talk therapy)
 • Cannabis as an embodiment & intimacy ally
 • Somatic processing during psychedelic journeys
 • Set, setting, safety & working with trained guides
 • Reclaiming pleasure, sensation & life force energy
 • Non-duality, consciousness & spiritual awakening through plant medicines
 • How psychedelics support deeper connection to self, sexuality & nature

If you’re curious about psychedelic healing, trauma integration, or reconnecting with your body in a more conscious, empowered way — this episode offers a mature, responsible perspective.

Important: Plant medicines are traditionally used in sacred, guided settings. Always research carefully and work with experienced, trained professionals.

Resources

Salimeh Tabrizi – Vibrant Life Counseling
 https://vibrantlifecounseling.com 

More about somatic sexual healing and reclaiming pleasure:  rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure 

If this episode supported you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more bodies.

What if erectile dysfunction isn’t a failure of performance… but a signal from your nervous system?

Explore somatic healing for erectile dysfunction and male sexuality:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/erectile-dysfunction-somatic-healing-men 

More than half of men over 40 experience erectile dysfunction.

Yet almost no one talks about it.

Instead, many suffer in silence — carrying shame, anxiety, and a quiet sense that something is “wrong” with their body.

But what if erectile challenges aren’t just medical…

What if they’re somatic, emotional, and learned patterns that can be rewired?

In this grounded and deeply compassionate conversation, I’m joined by somatic sex educators and sexological bodyworkers Ron & Pono Stewart to explore sexual health, pleasure, and erotic wholeness for cock owners.

Together we unpack the real roots of:

• erectile dysfunction
• premature ejaculation
• porn conditioning
• performance anxiety
• shame around pleasure
• and the lack of sexual education for men

Rather than quick fixes or pills, Ron and Pono guide men back to something more foundational:

Breath.
Touch.
Safety.
Slowness.
Full-body pleasure.

Because an erection is a parasympathetic response.

It happens when the body feels safe.

And many men have never actually learned how to feel safe inside their own erotic body.

Through somatic practices, erotic massage, self-pleasuring rituals, and trauma-informed touch, they help clients literally recondition their nervous systems — moving from goal-oriented ejaculation toward sustained arousal, confidence, and deeper intimacy.

This episode is practical, honest, and refreshingly shame-free.

If you (or someone you love) has ever struggled with erections, staying present, or feeling disconnected from pleasure… this conversation is for you.

More resources for Somatic Sexual Healing: rahichun.com 

What if one of the most misunderstood parts of the body… holds the potential for profound pleasure, healing, and emotional connection?

Explore cervical awakening and sexual healing:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/cervical-orgasm-sexual-healing 

Most people with a cervix were never taught it could be a source of deep pleasure — let alone orgasm.

In this episode, cervical educator and Self Cervix founder Olivia Naomi Bryant shares how numbness, medical trauma, shame, and cultural conditioning disconnect many of us from one of the most innervated and sensitive parts of the body — and how gentle, somatic “de-armoring” can restore sensation, safety, and profound orgasmic capacity.

This is a grounded, compassionate conversation about cervical healing, sexual embodiment, and reclaiming the pelvis as a place of power — not protection.

Olivia shares her personal journey from numbness and pain to developing what she now calls a “love affair with the cervix,” and how that path evolved into a global movement blending anatomy, trauma healing, and spiritual embodiment.

We explore:

• Why many cervixes feel numb or guarded
 • The science of cervical innervation & orgasm potential
 • How shame, medical procedures, and trauma create pelvic armoring
 • Gentle practices to rebuild trust and sensation
 • How to locate and safely explore your cervix
 • Working with the surrounding ligaments (not forcing contact)
 • Why clitoral over-reliance can bypass deeper healing
 • The role of patience, presence & nervous system safety
 • Cervix–heart connection and love-based healing
 • Cervical orgasms as emotional and spiritual experiences
 • Healing after LEEP procedures or cervical interventions
 • Sexual energy, embodiment & inner alchemy

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pelvis, struggled with deep penetration discomfort, or sensed there’s “more” to your pleasure than what you’ve been taught — this episode offers a radically empowering starting point.

Resources

Olivia Naomi Bryant – Self Cervix: https://selfcervix.com 

To learn the Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys 

If this episode supports you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more bodies.

What if the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide… are actually the gateway to your freedom?

Explore shadow work, sexuality, and embodiment:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/shadow-work-sexuality-embodiment 

In this episode, I’m joined by Tani & Leslie Rogers, founders of the Light Dark Institute, to explore what shadow work looks like when it’s embodied — not just intellectual.

We talk about the difference between “light work” (healing, changing, improving) and “dark work” (radical approval, embracing what is), and why trying to “fix yourself” can unknowingly create more disowned parts.

We also explore how shadow work can profoundly impact sexuality — not through explicit sexual technique, but through power, shame, desire, boundaries, and nervous-system truth.

If you’ve ever felt confused about your desires, afraid of being “too much,” or trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, control, shutdown, or judgment, this conversation offers a deeper lens: your shadows aren’t the enemy — they’re an invitation back to wholeness.

In this episode, we explore:

• What “shadow” actually means (and why it’s different for every person)
• Light work vs dark work — and how they can unintentionally conflict
• Why judgment and repression create blind spots (and “boiling over”)
• How sexuality is often the most shamed and exiled part of the psyche
• Power dynamics, dominance/submission, and the real meaning of “kink”
• Safety, consent, boundaries, and why container creates freedom
• How aversion and charge can point to shadow material worth exploring
• Why relationships can become mirrors for unowned desires and fears
• The role of humor, play, and “life as play” in integrating shame
• “Dark awakening” — reclaiming protected, unconditioned parts of self
• Why this work can be deeply spiritual (even when it’s not framed that way)
• How Light Dark Institute offerings work (workshops, intensives, couples work)
• The future direction: bringing this work into nature and the wild

As you listen, I invite you to notice what lands in your body:
Where do you feel contraction, charge, curiosity, resistance, or longing?
Those signals may be your next doorway.

Explore more:

• Light Dark Institute: https://www.lightdarkinstitute.com/
• More resources & teachings: https://rahichun.com 
  
  

If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star rating or a short review — it helps these conversations reach the people who need them most.

Dolly Josette, also known as "The Vulva Whisperer" and named "a leading practitioner of hands-on sexual therapy" by Hustler magazine, shares her journey of reclamation from a lack of sexual aliveness to an aligned, prioritized, pleasure-filled marriage.  She also explains how her training as a Somatica Practitioner blends beautifully with her space-holding as a Sexological Bodyworker, and the magical benefits of genital mapping, one-way touch, and intentional touch for emotional healing in deepening pleasure, intimacy and connection for couples.