Your Body Remembers Pleasure: Somatic Sex Education & Sexual Healing

What if pleasure isn’t just something you feel… but something that can actively heal the body?

Explore pelvic healing and pleasure as medicine:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/pleasure-as-medicine-pelvic-healing 

Your pelvic floor, fascia, and pleasure pathways hold far more healing potential than most of us were ever taught.

In this episode, bodyworker and international teacher Martin Beaudoin shares how hands-on fascial work, pelvic floor release, and therapeutic pleasure techniques can help resolve incontinence, menstrual pain, trauma patterns, and uterine imbalance—issues many people are told are “normal” but absolutely aren’t.

Drawing from craniosacral therapy, myofascial release, neurokinetic work, tantric bodywork, and Compassionate Inquiry, Martin explains how restoring blood flow, freeing nerves, and balancing the pelvic bowl can create profound, lasting change.

We talk about:

• Why incontinence, prolapse, and cramps are often treatable (not inevitable)
 • How fascia and the deep front line shape pelvic health
 • Pelvic floor “stripping” and tension release techniques
 • Using pleasure safely and consensually as a healing tool
 • The often-overlooked K-spot and its role in circulation + hormone balance
 • Trauma resolution through somatic bodywork
 • Partner-involved healing approaches
 • What most doctors never address about pelvic health

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pelvis, struggled with pain, numbness, or shame—or simply want a more alive, responsive body—this conversation offers practical, body-based pathways back to wholeness.

Resources

Martin Beaudoin – beaudoinbodywork.com 

To learn The Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys
 

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What does it actually mean to be supported in your sexuality… not just psychologically, but relationally and physically?

Explore sexual surrogacy and sacred intimacy:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/sexual-surrogate-sacred-intimacy 

And how can touch, presence, and embodied connection help heal shame, trauma, and sexual wounding?

In this honest and illuminating conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Andre Lazarus — somatic intimacy coach, certified Somatica practitioner, sexual surrogate partner, and sacred intimate — to demystify three of the most misunderstood professions in the world of sexual healing.

Together, they explore what it truly means to hold space for someone’s erotic awakening.

Andre shares his personal journey — from early experiences of loving across genders, to surviving sexual violation, to discovering his calling in somatic sexual healing work — and how those experiences shaped his capacity to guide others through intimacy, trauma repair, and authentic expression.

Inside this episode:

• The difference between Somatica coaching, sexual surrogacy, and sacred intimacy
 • Scope of practice and boundaries for each modality
 • How surrogate partner therapy works (the therapist–client–surrogate triangle)
 • What sacred intimacy sessions actually look like
 • Screening, consent, and emotional safety
 • Healing sexual trauma through embodied experiences
 • Navigating intimacy without shame
 • Holding presence without attachment or performance
 • BDSM, bondage, and conscious power dynamics as healing tools
 • What a healthy sexual society could look like

This is a rare, behind-the-scenes look at professions that quietly change lives every day.

If you’ve ever been curious about receiving intimate therapeutic support — or feel called to this work yourself — this conversation opens the door with clarity, integrity, and heart.

Learn more about Andre:
coming-closer.com 

More resources from Rahi:
rahichun.com 

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What if intimacy doesn’t fade with time… but deepens when you learn how to meet each other in new ways?

Explore intimacy, aging, and lifelong passion:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/intimacy-after-60-lifelong-passion 

In this special episode, I’m joined by Judith Claire and Frank Weigers—two beloved humans I’ve known for 25 years, and the celebrated co-authors of The Magical Sex Book and So That’s Why They Do That: Men, Women & Hormones.

What I love most: they’re living what they teach. Judith and Frank share what it takes to keep intimacy alive, honest, and erotic—not only in the early years, but through life’s challenges and into their 70s and 80s.

We explore:

• Why chemistry isn’t enough—and what actually creates lasting erotic connection
• The “90-day commitment” that set their relationship on a deeper track
• How daily rituals build trust, safety, and desire over time
• Their simple practices: “Morning worship,” “Evening news,” gratitude, and weekly erotic devotion
• The 4 stages of love-making they teach: pre-play, foreplay, play, and after-play
• How desire changes over time, and why desire often comes after arousal
• Aging, health challenges, and how to keep Eros alive without pressure or obligation

Resources:

• TopGunLove.com
• Books: The Magical Sex Book + So That’s Why They Do That (Amazon)
• For relational skills and erotic practices: divineunionforlovers.com/course

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What if trauma isn’t just something you remember… but something your body is still responding to—moment by moment?

Explore preverbal trauma and nervous system healing:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/trauma-lives-in-the-body 

Long before we have words, the nervous system records everything — touch, safety, fear, abandonment, violation, belonging.

So what happens when trauma occurs preverbally… in infancy… in utero… or across generations?

How do we heal experiences we can’t consciously remember?

In this episode, I’m joined by Becky Carter, a somatic experiencing therapist and trauma specialist with over 20 years of clinical work supporting survivors of sexual abuse, adoptees, men healing from sexual trauma, and individuals navigating racial and transgenerational trauma.

Together we explore how the body holds these early wounds — and how gentle, somatic therapy can help release them.

This conversation is grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical for anyone seeking true nervous system healing.

We discuss:

• What “preverbal trauma” actually means
 • How trauma is stored in the nervous system and tissues
 • Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough
 • Somatic Experiencing & Transformative Touch Therapy
 • Healing trauma that happened before memory
 • Recognizing sexual trauma patterns in the body
 • Dissociation, shutdown & pelvic constriction
 • Male sexual abuse — the hidden epidemic
 • Shame, performance pressure & men’s intimacy struggles
 • The fawn response and people-pleasing for survival
 • Racial trauma and microaggressions as chronic nervous system stress
 • How sexual and racial trauma compound in the body
 • Adoption, attachment wounds & the “primal wound”
 • Learning to feel your body’s authentic yes and no
 • Rebuilding safety through co-regulation and touch

If you’ve ever felt:

– disconnected from your body
 – confused by your reactions in intimacy
 – stuck in shame or shutdown
 – or like “something happened” but you can’t explain it

This episode offers language, understanding, and hope.

Because healing isn’t about forcing the story.

It’s about helping the body finally feel safe enough to release it.

Resources:

Becky Carter – Family Resilience Group
 https://familyresilience.org 

Organizations supporting male survivors:
 • https://menhealing.org 

• https://1in6.org 

• https://malesurvivor.org 

More somatic sexual healing resources
 https://rahichun.com 

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What if male pleasure extended far beyond performance, ejaculation, and the narrow definitions we’ve been taught?

Explore prostate massage and expanded male pleasure:
 https://rahichun.com/podcast/prostate-massage-male-pleasure 

Most men are never taught that the prostate can be a source of profound healing, emotional release, and full-body orgasm.

Instead, it’s only associated with medical exams or disease.

But what if the prostate is actually one of the most powerful gateways to pleasure, vitality, and spiritual embodiment in the male body?

In this episode, I’m joined by Asim Sacred Fire and Stine Krage, co-creators of The Prostatic Portal, a trauma-informed tantric training that reframes prostate massage (also called sacred spot massage) as a practice for pelvic health, shadow integration, and expanded orgasmic states.

We explore how intentional, respectful prostate touch can increase blood flow, release stored trauma, regulate the nervous system, and help men experience pleasure that goes far beyond ejaculation.

This conversation bridges somatic psychology, tantra, anatomy, and energy work — grounded, practical, and deeply human.

We talk about:

• What the prostate actually is (and why most men misunderstand it)
 • Prostate massage for health, circulation & detoxification
 • Releasing emotional trauma stored in the pelvis
 • Why many men struggle with performance anxiety & ejaculation patterns
 • Separating orgasm from ejaculation
 • Full-body and non-ejaculatory orgasms
 • Surrender vs performance in male sexuality
 • The link between the prostate, the vagus nerve & nervous system safety
 • Prostate tissue as “womb-like” creative life force energy
 • How sacred, ritualized touch creates safety and trust
 • Working through shame, fear & cultural taboos around anal pleasure
 • How prostate practices deepen intimacy between partners
 • Why this work can radically change lovemaking

Whether you have a prostate or love someone who does, this episode offers a respectful, educational, and empowering doorway into a part of the body that’s long been ignored.

Because pleasure, healing, and wholeness belong to every body.

Resources

The Prostate Portal.  theprostaticportal.com 

Learn the Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys 

For Lovers and Extended Lovemaking: divineunionforlovers.com/course 

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What does it mean to live in full relationship with your erotic nature—without shame, without performance, and without needing to fit into cultural expectations?

Explore erotic embodiment and conscious sexuality:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/honoring-caffyn-jesse-erotic-embodiment 

Today’s episode is a tribute — a celebration of Caffyn Jesse, and the profound legacy Caffyn has offered the field of somatic sex education.

In this conversation, I share how Caffyn’s work has influenced my own path, and we explore her journey of erotic reclamation — from early experiences of queerness, isolation, and cultural conditioning, to the awakening of erotic life force through bodywork, breath, and sacred touch.

Caffyn is the author of Science for Sexual Happiness and Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure (republished as Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch), and a co-founder of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education and the Somatic Sex Educators Association. During this interview, I learned Caffyn is retiring this month after decades of teaching, training, writing, and supporting somatic sex educators around the world — and I’m honored to mark this moment with her.

We speak about why “consent” isn’t always enough (because many of us are trained to consent to what we don’t actually want), and why voice and choice are foundational to erotic healing — especially within the realities of culture, race, gender, and nervous-system survival strategies like appeasement/fawning.

Caffyn also guides a brief somatic visualization at the end of the episode to help you connect pelvic warmth, breath, and the sacred life force of eros.

In this episode, we explore:

• Caffyn’s path into somatic sex education — and the turning points that changed everything
• Erotic embodiment as spiritual life force (eros as a gateway to source)
• Science for Sexual Happiness and the role of breath, sound, movement, and safety
• Touch as re-imprinting: how the body can shift from pain to pleasure
• Vulvodynia and “holy pain” as a teacher and initiator
• Why “taking turns” in touch changes everything (receiving without responsibility)
• The difference between consent and authentic desire
• Fawning/appeasement, cultural conditioning, and why many people consent to unwanted touch
• Race, gender, and social power dynamics in erotic exchange
• Group containers: why community healing is uniquely powerful
• How the Institute’s training model was redesigned to honor nervous-system pacing
• Retirement, spaciousness, and what may be calling Kain next
• A closing grounding + pelvic-energy visualization

Resources mentioned:

• Caffyn’s free PDF Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch and other offerings: https://ecstaticbelonging.com
• More resources and teachings from me: rahichun.com

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What if your patterns in intimacy didn’t begin in adulthood… but were shaped by early sexual experiences your body is still carrying?

Explore healing childhood sexual imprints and reclaiming pleasure:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/healing-sexual-trauma-childhood-imprints 

For many of us, childhood moments of attention, shame, or confusion around sexuality quietly wire the nervous system — creating intimacy patterns that follow us for decades.

Sometimes those patterns look like over-sexualization.
Sometimes numbness.
Sometimes people-pleasing, dissociation, or difficulty receiving pleasure at all.

In this deeply compassionate episode, two courageous guests share how early sexual imprints influenced their adult relationships — and how somatic, body-based healing helped them reclaim safety, sensation, and authentic pleasure.

Together we explore how sexual trauma, shame, and early conditioning are stored not just in memory — but in the tissues, breath, and nervous system — and how the body can gently rewire new, empowering associations.

Kimberly shares how childhood attention became unconsciously linked with sexual engagement, shaping years of intimacy patterns rooted in seeking love through sex — and the journey of uncoupling those imprints through breathwork, somatic recall, and embodied healing.

Nina shares a different story: how shame, silence, and cultural repression created numbness and disconnection from her pleasure — and how learning to feel safe, receive touch, and soften control allowed sensation and desire to return.

In this episode, we explore:

• How early pleasure experiences wire lifelong intimacy patterns
 • Why abuse can feel confusing to a child’s nervous system
 • Sexuality, shame, and the body’s “cellular memory”
 • Over-sexualization vs numbness as trauma responses
 • The neuroscience of pleasure, reward, and imprinting
 • How trauma lives in pelvic tissues and the nervous system
 • Releasing stored emotions through breath and somatic work
 • Re-parenting the body with safety and consent
 • Learning to receive pleasure without guilt or shame
 • Rewiring arousal pathways through mindful erotic practice
 • Neuroplasticity and the body’s capacity to heal
 • Creating new, loving associations with sexuality

This conversation is not about pathology.

It’s about possibility.

Because the body is remarkably resilient.

And with safety, presence, and compassionate support, pleasure can be reclaimed — not as performance, but as birthright.

Resources

More somatic sexual healing teachings:
https://rahichun.com 

Learn how to Reclaim Your Pleasure: 

rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure 

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What does it take to rebuild trust in your body… after injury, surgery, or trauma has changed your relationship to sensation?

Explore healing genital trauma and restoring sensation:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/healing-genital-injury-sexual-trauma 

In this deeply moving episode, two courageous women share their journeys of reclaiming pleasure, embodiment, and trust in their bodies after profound pelvic trauma.

Diane speaks about recovering from multiple surgeries following complications from a medical implant, and the long path of restoring comfort, sensation, and connection in her body.

Sophia shares her experience healing from childhood genital cutting and early sexual trauma — and how learning to feel safe in her body again transformed her relationship to intimacy and pleasure.

While their stories are very different, both discovered something essential:

Healing wasn’t only physical.
It required safety, touch, emotional release, and reconnecting with the nervous system.

Together we explore:

• Why trauma lives in both tissues and the nervous system
 • Scar tissue, sensation loss, and restoring blood flow
 • The role of safe, attuned touch
 • Rebuilding trust with your body after medical or sexual violations
 • Trauma release practices and nervous system regulation
 • How pleasure can return — even when doctors say it won’t
 • Learning to listen to your body’s boundaries and desires
 • Compassion as the foundation of sexual healing

This episode may be supportive for anyone navigating:
pelvic surgery recovery, birth trauma, sexual trauma, scar tissue, numbness, or disconnection from their body.

More somatic healing resources:
rahichun.com 

To learn the Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keys 

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Content note: includes detailed discussion of medical and childhood genital trauma.  Can the body truly heal?

What does it actually take to become someone who can guide others through sexual healing -  to work with sexuality, trauma, touch, and pleasure — ethically, safely, and skillfully?

Explore somatic sex education and embodied training:
https://rahichun.com/podcast/becoming-somatic-sex-educator 

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Liam Snowdon (they/them) — educator, anti-violence worker, and long-time faculty member within multiple somatic sex education trainings across North America.

Liam (who I affectionately know as “Captain”) was the director of my own sexological bodywork training years ago and has helped shape the evolution of this field for over a decade.

Together, we explore how queer identity, learning differences, harm reduction work, and community care can become powerful gateways into embodied sexuality — and why somatic, trauma-informed approaches are essential for true sexual healing.

This conversation is honest, grounded, and deeply human — a behind-the-scenes look at how practitioners are trained to support others through intimacy, consent, and pleasure.

We explore:

• Liam’s path from learning disabilities to embodied intelligence
 • Growing up queer and finding community outside social norms
 • Discovering sexological bodywork and somatic sex education
 • Why pleasure — not performance — is the foundation of healing
 • Oppression, privilege, and how power dynamics live in the nervous system
 • Sexuality and social justice: why embodiment must include anti-oppression work
 • Trauma-informed vs cathartic sexuality models
 • Why “don’t gotta” and authentic NOs are revolutionary
 • Teaching consent beyond compliance
 • Hands-on vs non-hands-on somatic sex education trainings
 • The evolution of sex education programs in North America
 • What makes a great somatic sex educator
 • How to know if this field is right for you
 • Creating a daily mindful erotic practice
 • Pleasure as a lifelong embodiment discipline

If you’re curious about becoming a practitioner…
or healing your own relationship to sexuality…
or simply longing for a more honest, embodied way of living…

This episode offers a rare, insider look at the heart of this work.

Because sexual healing isn’t about technique.

It’s about safety, presence, choice, and learning how to trust your own body.

Learn more

Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
https://somaticsexeducator.com 

More somatic sexual healing resources:
 https://rahichun.com 

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How can couples who love each other but are no longer feeling sexually aligned address their misalignments?  Celine and Kevin, whose specialty includes working with couples, share common issues they witness and resolve, as well as insights into the “Wisdom of the Vagina” and the “Wisdom of the Penis.”