How do you correct your children without criticizing them? Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing how constant criticism harms your children and how focusing on your child’s unique strengths is part of the solution to raising confident children.

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Len - You guys do a great job. What made Monica want to go into her dad’s profession? (18:16)
• Bob - On low self-esteem: I think low self-esteem is a virtue. It seems like the best people have had low self-esteem. (20:48)
• Peter - I'm a parent of four. When my three little girls were young, a lady told me 'don't be too hard on them because if so, they'll jump into another man’s arms too early’. (25:54)
• Marie - I have a son who is 49 years old. He's very adamantly opposed to me and is angry with me. I'm not sure why. (36:44)
• Sharon - My father was very critical and he was an alcoholic, even though he was very well-achieved. (43:06)
• Deedee - What if that child grew up to be an overachiever, after growing up in an overly critical home? (48:25)

 

Resources:

Catholic Therapists

https://catholictherapists.com/

 

Catholic Psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle

https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Negative outcomes of criticism  

1. Low self esteem
2. Perfectionism
3. Negative self-talk
4. Difficulty accepting compliments
5. Tendency towards being hypercritical
6. Becoming hyper defensive
7. Becoming people pleasers
8. Becoming too self-reliant
9. Social anxiety
10. Comparing 
11. Constant apology