If the thing that would make your brand unforgettable is the thing you’re most afraid to say… You don’t have a messaging issue; you have a nervous system at capacity. In this episode, I break down why your body reacts the way it does when you go to post, pitch, or “be authentic” online—and how to work with your system instead of shaming yourself into silence. 

We’ll unpack how shame shows up as procrastination, over-editing, people-pleasing, and total shutdown—and why that doesn’t mean you’re flaky or broken. It means your internal “threat bucket” is overflowing. I walk you through the NSI (NeuroSomatic) lens of input → interpretation → output, and how that explains everything from ghosting your own launch to going blank on Instagram Live. 

I also share the story of a client whose most “unforgivable” moment—cheating on her ex-husband—ended up being the exact pivot point of her coaching work. The same story her nervous system was desperate to hide was the story that held her true edge and most potent positioning. Once we worked with her nervous system and the shame in her body, her articulation, confidence, and clarity finally caught up with the depth of her work. 

If you’ve ever known you have something to say but freeze the second you try to say it out loud, this episode will help you see that authenticity isn’t a personality trait—it’s a capacity you can build. And that capacity is what turns a “nice brand” into one that’s impossible to ignore for the people who are already looking for you. 

In this episode, we get into:

• Why “just be authentic” is low-key cruel if your body thinks authenticity = exile
• What your nervous system actually is in plain language (no woo, just your operating system)
• The NSI model of input → interpretation → output, and how it shows up in your branding
• The “threat bucket” concept and why you lose access to your best ideas when it’s full
• How shame acts as a protective strategy (not proof that you’re a terrible human)
• Real-life examples of nervous-system outputs: procrastinating, over-editing, sounding like Pinterest prose, going blank when someone asks what you do
• Why your edge—the thing that sets your brand apart—is usually the truth you’re most afraid to say
• Simple ways nervous system tools can make visibility feel safer (and eventually, even fun)

Thanks for tuning into this episode of Kelli Was Here. If you made it this far, bless your brave little ears.

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