When Your Siblings Act Like You're Making Up Your Mother Wound

Are you trying to heal from your mother wound while your siblings defend your mom and act like you're being dramatic? In this episode, I explore why siblings can grow up in the same house with the same mother yet have completely different experiences and relationships with her. From birth order and gender dynamics to family roles like scapegoat versus golden child, I break down six reasons siblings often have opposing perspectives on their mother. I spend extra time on the unique burden eldest daughters carry - being parentified, absorbing family dysfunction, and protecting younger siblings who now don't understand why you're "making such a big deal" about mom. You'll learn practical strategies for maintaining sibling relationships while protecting yourself from invalidation, plus guidance for siblings who want to support their sister's healing journey even if they don't share her experience.

With this episode you'll be able to:

• Understand why siblings can have drastically different relationships with the same mother
• Recognize the unique burden eldest daughters carry as "guinea pigs" and family caretakers
• Stop seeking validation from siblings who aren't ready or able to provide it
• Set boundaries around discussing your mother with invalidating siblings
• Accept that both experiences can be true simultaneously without canceling each other out
• Build sibling relationships on shared interests rather than painful childhood processing
• Grieve the supportive sibling relationship you wanted but may never have

Don't forget that your sibling's denial or different experience doesn't make your pain less real, you don't need their validation for your healing to be legitimate!

Connect with Brittney:

• Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney
• Free Resources

Mentioned resources:

• Therapy support for processing sibling invalidation
• Support groups for people with mother wounds
• Online communities for eldest daughters and scapegoat children
• Strategies for managing family gatherings with conflicting perspectives

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Keyword tags:

sibling invalidation, mother wound, eldest daughter syndrome, scapegoat child, golden child, birth order, family dynamics, sibling relationships, Brittney Scott, parentification, different experiences, family roles, validation