You Can Do Hard Things

I love it when I wake up, and I know what I should talk about and today is no different.

We have a saying in our family that is, “You Can Do Hard Things.” Today I’m going to talk about doing hard things. It easy to stay in bed, it’s hard to get out of bed and to stay engaged. It’s easy to remain upset and angry; it’s hard to forget and forgive.

The hardest things in life are dealing with those challenges that you don’t feel like you have any control over. The challenge could be pornography, drugs, sex, alcohol, anger, resentment, etc. It is so easy to just give into these things; however to avoid giving into these triggers and staying sober is much harder.

Hardest Thing

The more I have thought about Hard things, I have realized, in my opinion, that the ultimate hardest thing to do is to forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness is a gift that we should give freely, maybe not because the person that we are forgiving deserves it, but because we deserve it. We have the right to be free from the bondage that is caused by not forgiving.

Refusal to forgive and to move on is like ropes tied around you that will inhibit your free movement. You may think you are free, but the truth is you are not. You are in bondage without realizing it. There is a lot of pain and anger that you need to let go.

I feel like I’m a happy guy and pretty confident and did not realize that I have several things that are holding me back. I started going through the exercise of discovering my emotions and realized I have a lot of junk in me, and I had no idea.

You owe it to yourself and others to forgive and move on. It may not be easy, but remember, “You Can Do Hard Things!”

You’re amazing, rise up to the challenge to do hard things and especially forgiving others and yourself.

 

Motivation Speaker, Empowerment Coach, and Mentor – Tony Rhoton

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You’re Amazing, Start Designing Your Life Today

Today I am podcasting from Dallas, Oregon and I want to talk about the importance of Designing Your Life.

Sometimes we just allow life to happen; no real purpose or thought but just go with the flow. I want you to recognize the importance of designing your life and not allowing the past to determine your future. You need to take control of your life and move forward with a life of purpose.

You can’t just sit back and complain about the past and your woes, this does you no good. Don’t allow anything to hold you back, especially excuses. Write everything you can think about what you want in life, don’t let financial concerns to hold you back. Discover what it is in life that will help give it purpose.

Don’t let anything hold you back.

Write down some of the things that you really would like to accomplish in your life and start breaking down the fundamental things you need to do to achieve what you wrote down.

For example, let’s say you’re currently just sitting at home doing nothing, allowing life to happen around you, maybe you’re even complaining about some events that have occurred in your life. After completing this exercise, you realize how important it would be to help children.

* What are the steps you need to do to make this part of your life a reality?

* Who do you need to contact?

* How much time can you put into doing this?

* Why do you want to help them, etc.?

Break Down the Process

Go through and break down your top three desires and start designing your life around those desires. What is that you need to do first?

Go do that thing. You deserve a life full of joy, happiness, and excitement; however, you can’t have this kind of life if you don’t design it. If you are not intentionally putting effort into making this a reality.

My father is almost 80 and is a fantastic man; however, he does so much to help others that he allows those people to run his life. He’s not working on his own goals, he’s a product of others goals, instead of his own.

Discover what you need to do today to make your life what you want it to be and Design It.

 

Tony Rhoton, Motivational Speaker, and Personal Improvement Coach.

Giving Back to You

This podcast was created a while ago, but I had not shared this on my blog, so I’m posting it now.

Today I’m going to talk about a book I read called, ‘Millionaire Success Habits’ by Dean Graziosi. I can honestly say this book has changed my life forever. I have learned a lot from books that have made a difference in my life but none that I can see a direct influence until now.

When I read this book, I didn’t know what to expect. I got it because of the title, Millionaire Success Habits. Realizing that if I want to be a successful person, I must incorporate the traits of successful people. Figuring this book might be about how to make a million dollars; I was delighted when I realized it was not that at all. This text focuses on your mindset and getting in the proper frame of mind for success.

My Life Changes

This mindset is where my life changed; Dean introduces an exercise that I immediately implemented and did, it’s called, ‘The Best Year Ever‘ exercise. Essentially you write down explaining how this year was the best year ever and tell why in detail as if it has already happened.

After doing this exercise, I realized things I needed to do in my life to make it the best; starting this blog/video/podcast was one of them. I know that part of the joyful moments in my life is when I’m on the stage helping people or speaking to others, so I took action and started by first doing a video a week, now I’m doing two videos a week.

Great Discovery

In the discovery process, of what makes this the best year ever, I realized that I had to improve the relationship with my wife, even if it is good, I want it fabulous! You can’t be happy without connection, and I want my wife and children to join me on this journey. I’m so glad to say; she’s incredibly supportive, loving and caring.

I hope you will get this book, read it and then do the activities it suggests to make this the best year ever. You deserve it. Rise to the challenge, You’re Amazing.

Tony Rhoton, Motivational Speaker, and Personal Improvement Coach

The many faces in life

Every day we wear so many faces, the face of mom, dad, brother, sister, co-worker, boss, disciplinarian, etc… These faces help keep us motivated and charged if they are real.

I love being a dad, absolutely love it but I have noticed that sometimes I don’t keep myself charged while I’m interacting with my children. I go into a more disciplinarian role until they want to talk to me. I have, unfortunately, realized that my deeper conversations are few and farther between. However, being aware of that will help me to change it.

What face are you wearing that’s a facade?

What face do you put on just to try to impress others when you are struggling? It’s okay to have bad days, it’s okay to be down at times, and it’s okay to get help.

Getting help does not mean you’re weak, matter-of-fact you are showing strength by recognizing it. When you are humble enough to recognize your weaknesses, healing begins. You don’t have to be happy all of the time, you don’t have to be in a good mood all of the time. Emotions are a part of life, recognize them and then you can decide how to move forward.

There are times that you might want to be upset, it seems silly but it’s true. You may want to sulk, have a little pity party but don’t allow yourself to stay there long. If you stay long in a down state, that too is unhealthy. We want to find a balance of emotions.

Design Your Life

I’m not talking perfect balance, that would be amazing but also would generate a lot of stress. I want you to identify your emotions and be mindful of them so you can design the life you want.

Living a fulfilling, fun, energetic, passionate and adventurous life is by design, not happenchance. You need to recognize areas of your life that you want to change and then decide to start the changing process, even if it requires you to do hard things. Ask yourself these three questions:

* What is it that you want in life?

* Why do you want that?

* If you want to achieve that, what do you need to d0?

After you have recognized what it is you want in life, you must take action to create that life.

You’re Not Weak

Frequently people will tell me, I can’t because …

A lot of times the struggles of life will hold someone back. I know life can be hard but it can also be easy and amazing. If you struggle with depression, anxiety or any other struggle, you are not weak. You have a struggle, name one person who doesn’t have a struggle. If you give a name, I dare say you don’t know that person very well then. We all have struggles but they are different.

Your struggle, however, is not unique. There is someone in this vast world that has experienced or is experiencing exactly what you may be going through. You’re NOT Alone!

You’re Amazing

You’re amazing for listening and wanting to improve your life. Don’t allow anyone to still your dreams.

You’re amazing for pressing forward when you don’t feel like it. You deserve to be happy so identify what face it is, that you put on, that gives you excitement and energy for life. Wear that face more and more, share it with the world and invite others to have an amazing, wonderful, fantastic day.

Tony Rhoton, Motivational Speaker • Personal Development Coach

You’re Priceless; Love Yourself Enough to Forgive Yourself

I’m so glad you’re here, and this is an excellent day for you to be here to learn how to love yourself. I was not sure what I was supposed to talk about and to share with you, and I received a prompting I need to talk about Loving Yourself Enough to Forgive Yourself.

Sometimes it is easier to forgive others for the mistakes or the things they may have done than to forgive ourselves. It’s so important to forgive ourselves for our past mistakes. Mistakes are just that, a mistake, don’t allow them to define who you are; allow those challenges to help you be a better person.

You deserve just as much if not more forgiveness of yourself than for others. You deserve to love yourself; realize that you are amazing and you deserve tremendous blessings.

An exercise to implement in your life is to look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you. You are great. You’re amazing just the way you are, mistakes and all.”

Valuable Mantra

Here’s an exercise to go through to help improve your self-love and confidence:

I am an amazing child of God.

I love myself.

I am a gift to the world.

The world deserves me to be at my best.

I can accomplish anything I set my mind too.

I am valuable and I have infinite worth.

I love the world and the world loves me.

It’s True; It’s True

Your Life of Value

You have been given your life and your challenges because your higher power knows you can handle it. They want you to discover your real worth. Your experiences will help you help others overcome their problems and realize there’s hope.

Realize your worth and your potential. If you don’t believe in a higher power, put your faith in my belief about you. Rise Up to the challenge to realize You’re priceless; You’re Amazing so Realize it.

Tony Rhoton Motivational Speaker • Personal Improvement Coach

Love Yourself – You’re Amazing!

Learning to love yourself is one of the hardest things you may be asked to do. You may be thinking about all of the negative things that are going on in your life, illness, spouse problems, parenting issues or personal struggles; all of these things are what makes you so amazing.

Your knowledge, talent, and skills can be shared with others to make this world a better place.

Look at your life and take an audit of your life and discover what is holding you back. Have you been abused in the past and never adequately dealt with it? Do you need to get some counseling for negative behaviors that you may have because you feel shame and don’t feel worthy because of your past?

Stuck

The past can keep you stuck, lacking motivation or a desire to continue forward, you are worth being the best you. You deserve to be happy, healthy and robust. Your ability to move on depends on your mental stability so get the help you need. You can find help through my mental health clinic if you can’t find someone in your area. Get the help you need so you can be the best you possible.

Learning to love and connect with others starts by learning to love yourself. Start learning to love yourself by doing this exercise, watch the video below:

You deserve to have the best year ever and to be the healthiest, happiest and most valuable you. This exercise, which I learned from Dean Graziosi, will help you have the Best Year Ever. Happiness is not just something that you can experience every once in awhile; it is something you can experience daily.

Rise Up

Rise Up to the challenge to face your fears and stop the abuse you may be experiencing. You have all that you need to change your life because you are amazing. Listen to more of these podcasts so that you can start the healing process and realize there is hope and you’re worth it.

Listen to other motivational and inspiring speakers to get the hope you need to take the leap of faith. You have many talents and skills, and the world requires you to be present. Have faith, make the leap that will lead to long-term happiness and joy.

You’re amazing, rise up to the challenges that you have. You can beat them,  don’t give up.

Tony Rhoton – Speaking – Coaching – 801.787.5765

 

The Slight Edge Can Change Your Life, Forever!

I am excited to talk to you about a book that I’ve read that has changed my life in a lot of the ways. The title of the book is, ‘The Slight Edge’ by Jeff Olsen.

The Slight Edge is not just a fantastic book, but the principles it teaches is spot on. The Slight Edge is about making little changes to achieve significant results.

I’ve already talked about the best year ever and how to apply that exercise in your life. We’ve talked about how you break down the what is going to make it the best year, which helps you to identify what your real goals are.

Once you have your large goals, you can break it down into smaller goals; this simple exercise is a little change or a slight edge a movement in a direction that will help achieve phenomenal results.

Small Improvements

Let’s talk more about the slight edge principle of making small improvements to make a difference now. Here’s an analogy to explain this concept.

If a plane took off and was off course by a degree, you would never reach your destination. You would be so far away from your desired location that you would have to get on a new plane.

At first, you may think, it’s no big deal, but then by the end of its flight, the plane will be entirely in the wrong place from where it should be. This analogy explains the slight edge; making a little adjustment or change that will help improve your life forever.

The change that you make is not a drastic difference, but it’s just enough that it helps you improve. Those slight edge changes can be different for everybody. For me, one of the things that I have implemented in my life is just by reading just a little bit a day; sometimes I only read one page a day. Reading a book just a little bit every day, I’ve now completed several books, that’s an example of a slight edge; it’s not huge, but it does make a difference.

Discovered Knowledge

The things that I’ve learned and I’ve been able to implement in my life has made things that much better. I find insight in situations that I don’t have any knowledge of and I’ve been able to share that with other people.

Identify for yourself what is going to be your slight edge what change are you going to implement today that’s going to make a difference. If you could make one small change every month, imagine what your life would be like in 3 months, a year, or 5 years the possibilities are endless. Minor changes can and will change your life.

I hope you enjoyed this post. I enjoy doing these podcasts for you. You’re amazing and deserve all of the blessings in the world.

You’re Amazing, Rise Up!

Discover Your Purpose

I am reading a book by Brendon Burchard titled, ‘High-Performance Habits‘

A fantastic book and some amazing insight. I posted previously about the concept of ‘Focus on Your Strengths‘ on what you do the best. Brendon gave me a different insight, which I agree to some degree. He said we should not get caught up in the focus only on your strengths movement.

I was caught off guard when I first read this because it’s contrary to something that really rings true for me, but then I realized our thoughts are along the same line. It’s true that you can’t just focus on your strengths and find lasting happiness.

Lasting Happiness

Lasting happiness is much more than just focusing on your strengths.

For you to have lasting happiness you need to discover purpose, your purpose. Some people may call this your ‘Why’, but it’s all the same, purpose.

* What is your purpose in life?

* What makes you want to get up every morning?

* What is it that drives you?

Discover Purpose

You may not know what this is? You may be thinking to yourself, “I’ve been trying to figure this out my entire life.” I hope to help you discover this by one simple exercise: Go Talk to Someone or even send me a private message and start the communication like this.

Dear Tony,

I love …

You complete the rest but don’t give me platitudes or standard lingo. I want you to seriously write me a letter telling me about things you love to do. What is the thing that you get really excited about? What was it that made you start to light up and become passionate as you write about it?

(You can write a letter to me at the bottom of this article.)

Conversation, What You Talk About

Too many times, our conversations are fake, they don’t get into real communication; you talk about the weather, sports, etc… If you love weather or sports, great, this may be the thing you want to pursue more otherwise it’s usually just filler conversation.

You’re Amazing, Rise Up and realize your potential.

Motivational Speaker & Personal Improvement Coach Tony Rhoton 801.787.5765

I strongly recommend you getting a copy of these books. They are eye opening!

Write me a letter about your passion.

Get Rid of Stuff; Increase Energy

Good morning guys and gals. I am late because I was busy doing something for my business, ‘YES Clinics‘

‘YES Clinics’ is one of my businesses that I’m part owner in and I love it, and it’s where my greatest passion is because we’re helping individuals struggling with addictions, anxiety depression. We’re helping couples come together and unite and connect with purpose and doing that same thing for family systems

I love helping people, and that’s what started me doing this as well as many other things.

I wanted to answer the question we talked about last week,

about focus. We want to focus on those things that we are best at, those things that just make us so excited to work on. These are the things that give us energy. Everything outside of this, we’re going to call it stuff.

Our goal is to get get rid of stuff. We want stuff to go down and gradually get rid of it so our energy will go up.

What is stuff?

Stuff would be things that don’t give you energy, which doesn’t excite you or motivate you; Stuff causes you to stay stuck in the same place and not moving.

When you get rid of stuff, you have the energy for life, and you want to keep going.

Stuff can be different for everybody so for me some of the stuff that I’m dealing with is website stuff. I don’t find enjoyment in working with websites. Even though I don’t enjoy it, I do it because I have to but it’s not something that I get excited or jazzed.

New Concept

I want to introduce this new concept, get rid of the things you don’t like that don’t give you energy and bring in those things that do provide you with energy.

For me, one of the things that give me energy is doing these shows. Whether one person listens to it or a thousand I don’t care it fuels me. I get excited to do these. I love doing them.

We want to get rid of stuff because that is clouding up our lives; stuff reduces our quality of life. We wake up in the morning, and we get down when we think of all of the stuff we have to get done, and none of it we want to do.

Then there are those few things that just a mere thought of them excites you. Your energy goes up just thinking about them. You can’t wait to get to that matter, and you want to push everything else to the side because you want to do it so bad.

Those things that are just stuff get in the way and diminish the quality of our life. We need to start doing those things that give energy, and man life gets exciting. I learned this concept from Dan Sullivan he is phenomenal.

Increase Energy

The most exciting thing that I realized was the more I get rid of stuff, the more energy I get. I can find more time in the day. I can accomplish so much more because I’m excited and energized to do it.

I’m able to go from one thing to the next, full of energy. I don’t get that four o’clock depression or whatever you want to call it. I’m doing those things that give me passion, excitement and yes even more energy.

Identify Stuff

Identify five kinds of stuff in your life and then identify five energy; focus on getting rid of the stuff and add more things that give you energy.

Reduce the five (5) stuff down to only three things, give them away; have someone else do that stuff. You can teach somebody else how to do the stuff. Identify what it is and then reduce it in the next month, reduce it to three.