Analyze Your Life and Improve

I count my blessings continuously. Recently, I have been analyzing my life in detail, in more detail than I ever have. I have been going through a program called Lifebook, which is intense, walking you through each aspect of your life and causing you to create a premise, vision, purpose and the strategy to complete that vision. It’s wonderful. I count my blessings continuously. Recently, I have been analyzing my life in detail, in more detail than I ever have. I have been going through a program called Lifebook, which is intense, walking you through each aspect of your life and causing you to create a premise, vision, purpose and the strategy to complete that vision. It’s wonderful.

In my process of creating my book about my life and who I want to become, I realize that I was missing very important parts of my goals. After doing a deep dive into different categories, I realized how powerful this exercise was and I want to share it with you.

Premise

First you need to know your overarching premise, what’s your belief around the category of life you are analyzing and writing? For example, if we were doing a deep inspection of our health, what is your belief?

Here’s an example of my premise: “I personally believe that my health affects all aspects of my life and if I have good health my life will be better. I also believe that my health is the foundation to good relatsionships, business, emotional, mental and spiritual wellness.”

Vision

After you know your premise and what you believe is your baseline, now create your vision around your premise. What does this category of your life look like? What do you want? Who’s part of that vision?

Your vision is critical in developing the person you want to be. Here’s an excerpt of my vision, again using health as the category: “I am lean, strong, full of energy. I’m ready to help others; My mental and physical strength help me accomplish all of my goals. I crave good, healthy foods that strengthen and heal my body from all illness.”

You can see that my vision helps me to identify what it is I want in my life and I know I need to make changes in my life to achieve this vision.

Purpose

Now that you have a vision of what you want in the category you’re analyzing, you need to answer the question, “Why?” What’s the purpose for this vision? If your purpose is not strong enough, you will not be motivated to fulfill it when times get tough, and they will. You will be tested by the Universe, your Higher Power to see if this is what you really want. You have to show your commitment.

Here’s an excerpt of my purpose for health: “I want to live a life without assistance, and to maintain my mental and physical health. I want my energy to be high enough I can enjoy time with my kids and grandkids. My purpose is to be happier, a good example to my children and I want my wife to be proud of me.”

I’m going through the process to break this down even more so my why or purpose is strong enough, I don’t question anything that’s contrary to my vision.

Strategy

Great, you have your premise (or belief) and created a vision and know the reason for that purpose of your vision but now you need to develop a strategy. Your strategy will be how you accomplish your vision. I’m not talking about a complex plan, or something that seems impossible.

Climb to Higher Ground and Lift Others

In the process of improving myself, I have realized a very important truth:

“If I want to lift others up, I have to be on higher ground. It is a lot more enjoyable to be on the higher ground with others.”Tony Rhoton

Being on higher ground does not mean I’m better than you or that you’re better than anyone else. It is not arrogant or egotistical. It is a simple concept, if you are not standing on something or not higher than someone else. You can lift them up if they stood on your shoulders but you don’t want them standing on your shoulders. Be the support and encourage them to stand strong by themself. You have more leverage being above so they can see the possibilities. You can lift someone if you’re standing on the same plane by encouraging and supporting them. However, if you don’t know something different or do anything different than the person you’re trying to lift, they will get the same results. You have to improve yourself to lift, push or pull them to higher ground.

Once you are shown ways to improve you must take action. The adage, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink is so true; I’ve shown you and can show you how to improve yourself, increase your confidence and gain stronger self-esteem but it takes action, you must drink. I can’t force you to drink that is up to you. Are you willing to take action on the things that will improve and change your life forever?

I apologize if this article seems a little convoluted but the important thing to remember is in order for you to help others, you must help yourself.

You’re amazing, believe it!

The Lesson We Can Learn from Dogs and Children – Have Fun!

Last night we got dumped on from above, we have more snow than I have seen in American Fork in the past 20 years, it’s awesome. We got a dog for Christmas and when I let the dog outside, he took off. He was jumping, rolling and sliding all over and through the snow, having an amazing fun time.

As I was watching him romp around and disappearing in and out of the snow, I realized there was a valuable lesson to be learned here and that lesson is, ‘Have Fun!’

There are a lot of different chemicals released in the brain when we are doing something we enjoy doing. We also get rid of a lot of harmful chemicals, it’s the perfect symbiotic relationship our body has, and what a great lesson. Have fun, stay healthy.

Have Fun Stay Healthy

This phrase kept going over and over in my mind but it’s true. If you want to be healthy, you must learn to enjoy life and have fun. Don’t worry about being childish, or thinking I can’t do that. Your health depends on it.

I was working with a young lady and she said, “I’ve never been able to be a kid.”

This was one of the saddest statements I have ever heard, “Never able to be a kid.” It sounds like a death sentence and truly it is, it’s the death of child and fun, if you let it be. Her circumstance was because of extreme abuse as a child into her adult life, she had to grow up way to fast. After working with her for several months, I received the best gift ever since I’ve been mentoring and she said,

“I think I can be a kid for the first time in my life.”– Mentee (Name Confidential)

Grow up, what an awful term, why would we ever want to grow up? When we grow up, our bodies start shutting down, we stop having fun and enjoying life.

Go out today and have fun, do something you want to do, not because of anyone else but because you want to do it. If you don’t know what you would want to do to have fun, start creating a list and enjoy the discovery as you do things on that list to see what you like to do.

Have Fun, Enjoy Life!

If it’s difficult for you to have fun because of your past, let me help you move on from your past and into the future that you deserve. A future of fun, laughter, joy, and immense pleasure.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Learning to Manage Your Emotions is CriticalWe are continually being bombarded by negativity, just turn on any news and see for yourself. Political turmoil, harm, murder, right, wrong, movies, music, there’s a lot that’s all negative, which causes you to fill up with negativity faster. You already started out the day rough because something happened and you suppressed the emotion, and then more things went wrong, so you suppressed even more feelings. One emotion after another you push down and try to contain it until, boom, you explode on someone that really didn’t do anything wrong.Manage Your Emotions Success StoryI woke up this morning to an alarm telling me to wake up but I did not want to get out of bed. I had a problematic sleep last night and didn’t feel like doing anything; however, I forced myself to get up. After getting out of bed, I stub my toe. Feeling like cursing, I stop and say, “It’s okay, don’t worry about it.” I pushed that anger from stubbing my toe down.I went on the rest of the day, and I come home to my son crying and saying, “I’m sorry dad.”“What happened,” I replied.I broke the oven.What? How did you break the oven?He proceeds to tell me that he was trying to break apart some chicken wings and he was dropping the bag on the stove. My first reaction was not what I used to do. I said, “Thank you, son, for telling me about it, and I gave him a hug.”I know this seems like wow what a great dad, good response, amazing. I agree, but it took work to get to this point.Lack of Managing Your EmotionsLet’s rewind a few years and how I reacted to something much less in damage but unfortunately I did not handle it with the finesse I did yesterday.This was my reaction to my son breaking a plate.“Are you kidding me? I told you to be careful. Quit acting like a monkey. You need to use your brain bud. I can’t believe you …”I did not handle this well at all, and it was only a dollar plate instead of a $350+ glass stove top.I share this with you because of the importance of learning how to manage your emotions and let them go appropriately so you can maintain strong, healthy and healing relationships.In the video, I share with you another story where I didn’t have the self-mastery of managing my emotions and a negative result.Please take the time to write your emotions down and let them go today. Let one emotion go today.You’re amazing, believe it.If you’re having a hard time feeling any value or worth, struggling with accomplishing goals or need to develop emotional mastery, schedule a free Rise Up session today.

You’re Good Enough as You Are!

You’re Enough!

It’s okay to be in a funk occasionally, it’s normal and natural. However, the challenge comes into what’s your thinking when you’re in a funk? Are you thinking negative destructive thoughts like:

* I’m not good enough.* It would be better if I was gone.* How can anyone love me?

Thoughts like this are destructive and don’t serve you. It’s okay that thoughts come but don’t entertain them, whoosh them a way quick. Allowing a negative thought to take root does not serve you, or your loved ones.

You’re Good Enough

You are good enough, just as you are. Is there room for improvement, yes. No matter where we get to in life, we can always improve but that doesn’t mean you’re any less right now. Life is about progress and every step counts. You did not get to this point without tremendous successes along the way. You’re good enough as you are.

You don’t have to accomplish great things to be great. Greatness comes from realizing you’re good enough and not in a negative way but that you love yourself for who you are right now, with all of the imperfections. The imperfections make you even better and unique.

Value comes from within, not from accomplishments, but what you feel and think about yourself. When you realize and accept your inherent value, you have accomplished the greatest of all gifts you can give to yourself, family and the world.

You’re amazing, believe it.

Tony Rhoton – Confidence Mentor, Speaker & Trainer • 801.787.5765

Be Grateful; Stop Complaining

As I was looking through some of my social media followers the other day, I noticed how one person complained about the weather and someone else praising the weather. I started thinking about what it must be like from Heavenly Father’s (your Higher Power) point of view continually getting prayers to stop the weather and at the same time, keep the weather coming.

Complaining Prohibits Your Success in Life

How can He answer everyone’s prayers? He can’t!

That got me thinking about the importance of gratitude and to stop complaining about things. The one thing we can control is our attitude of gratitude. We can express appreciation for all things no matter what is going on and our view will determine your level of joy and happiness.

You have something going on in your life right now and I want you to ask yourself: Have I been grateful for …? or Have I been complaining about …?

You need to make a decision today of how you’re going to react to life. Are you going to have a life of gratitude, joy, happiness and success or not? It’s your choice.

Tony Rhoton – Speaker, Mentor and Trainer 801.787.5765

I created this post with you in mind. However, in full disclosure, I have an ulterior motive. I’ll reveal the ulterior motive at the end. Here’s what I think of you you’re amazing, believe it:

* You make everyday a masterpiece.* The life you want is already here, embrace it so you can upgrade to the next life you want.* You have extraordinary gifts and talents, but you need to believe it for them to shine.* You’re beautiful, talented, smart and caring.* Your dreams can come true.* Every success starts with one step.

As you read the above statements, what was going through your mind? Were you dismissing them and thinking, I’m talking about someone else? Did you skim past them because it was too hard to read the truth?

My mission in life is to help every man, woman and child I meet to feel better about themselves.

Here’s some words I would like you to internalize and adopt one into your life today and say it over and over:

I am whole.I am enough.I am amazing.I am loving.I am caring.I am strong.I am kind.I am positive.I am smart.I am humble.I am intelligent.I am positive.I am wise.I am beautiful.I am pretty.I am dedicated.I am radiant.I am patient.I am a teacher.I am creative.I am of worth.I am priceless.

I agree. I believe you are all of the things you just read above, pick one and say it to yourself several times throughout the day.

My ulterior motive is that I wanted you to read this, internalizing the words. I hope there was at least one word from above that you can implement in your day and repeat it over and over so you can realize it’s true!

You’re amazing, believe it!

What an amazing gift we’ve been given, journaling. This simple exercise will help you purge negative feelings, and empower the real you.

Today’s focus is on gratitude journaling. You have been tremendously blessed but you don’t realize it or acknowledge it. Unfortunately, for most of us, we focus on what we don’t have or didn’t achieve which puts us in non-abundant thinking and selfish attitude.

Selfishness is when you are focused on what you will get what you will gain without the thought of how others can benefit.

I’m trying to break out of this thought process right now. For the longest time, I was afraid for people to know if I had money or not. I was ashamed when I didn’t have money to go participate in the activities or ashamed when I could but someone else couldn’t. My thinking was keeping me stuck, stuck in between failure and success.

I am learning that I have to Leave Behind and Change My Mind. As I leave behind my old thoughts and negative beliefs and change my mind to the new me, the better me, the blessings continue to flow to me. I have to accept the fact that it’s okay to achieve success in all forms. I can celebrate the rewards that come to me.

Analyze your life, are you sabotaging your success? What’s your thoughts on money, time, success, failure, etc… What thoughts are empowering you and giving you strength to succeed and which ones are holding you back?

Let go of the past thougths and negative beliefs and move towards the better you, the you that does not fear success, money, time or failure. The, ‘you’ that uses opportunities you choose to bless your life, your families and others around you.

You can have it all without being selfish, keep in mind the reason for success and how you can bless the lives of others. You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton • Confidence and Success Mentor, Speaker and Trainer 801.787.5765

Starting out 2019 on the right foot!

What’s Your Plan for 2019?

Today I share some of the things I have going this month to start out the new year of 2019. The basis of this post is to remind you to design your life, not just react to it.

Starting January 1, 2019

I am undergoing a trial of eating called intermittent fasting. This is a process of training your mind, body and the entire system that you will only eat during a chosen period of time to maximize the efficiency of using the food you intake. Therefore, when you’re not eating, your body is burning the excess fat that you have stored. My goal is 10% body fat, which should make me a lot more lean and healthier.

I am also going through a journey to build a Lifebook, which is a process of analyzing my life in depth in the following categories:

* Health & Fitness* Intellectual* Emotional* Character* Spiritual* Love Relationship

* Parenting* Social* Career* Financial* Quality of Life* Life Vision

This process of analyzing my life more in depth is going to help me design my life and to know exactly what I want in life. There have been many times that I don’t know what I really want, and this process is going to help me identify it and pursue it, and in this process, I’ll be able to help you discover what you want and are seeking.

Go to the Facebook Group, “You Are Amazing” and share with others what you are hoping to accomplish in 2019, so you can start to design your life.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Speaker and Trainer 801.787.5765

Your Relationships Matter the Most!

Nothing Matters More Than Relationships!

I’ve been doing a lot of reflection on relationships because right now my father in law, is in the hospital and has been there for several weeks. He was skiing and hit his head, causing bleeding in the brain. You never know if someone will be here tomorrow and you don’t want to regret not letting them know how much you care.

I can’t believe 2018 has already passed by so quickly too. As I was looking back over the year and doing some reflection on lessons learned, I realized one of the most significant lessons I have learned is, “Relationships and mending relationships should always be one of our highest goals in life, but especially 2019.”

You can have all of the money in the world, but if you don’t have someone to share it with, it does not matter. You will be miserable. Having money, health, wealth, intelligence, etc., will not matter if you don’t have someone to share it with.

Looking over last year (2018), what relationships do you need to mend? Who do you need to call and say, “sorry?” or “I love you?”

This is not about who’s right or who’s wrong, this is about building a strong relationship with others and forget everything else but the relationship. Connection with others is critical for long-term happiness don’t regret it by allowing pride to get in the way of that connection.

Make a list of what relationships need some mending or building and make that the focus for 2019. Do what you need to do to forgive and move on. In order for things to change you have to change, if you’re not willing, change will never happen.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton, Mentor, Speaker and Trainer