Face Your Fears – Achieve Your Greatness

I have been putting this off a bit. I realize I need to just talk about some of the things that I’m struggling with right now and it’s that big four letter word and no, I’m not talking about the bad word. I’m talking about how important it is to face your fears, F. E. A. R. and for me, this has been huge right now because I have had to face this false evidence appearing real.

And it’s a simple, and kind of a silly thing, I had to reseal my bathroom shower because water is soaking into the grout and tile and running into the wall. It’s ruining my wall. The plaster is all bubbly and started to peel. And then I noticed it started to go down into the floorboards. I’ve known this for a long time, a lot longer than I care to admit.

More Damage Because I Didn’t Face My Fear

I have to repair a lot more than I should of if I would’ve taken care of it immediately. But there was a fear there. I don’t know why? If I start processing these emotions, I can figure things out.

I don’t understand if it’s a thought that somebody gave me when I was a child, that someone said I was incompetent and I couldn’t do something. I don’t know? And that’s one of the things I’m working through. All I have to do is buy the sealer and apply it. But I had to remove the caulking. So that meant I’m going to have to replace some grout. And as I started thinking about this, I started to be paralyzed. Like, what if I:

* Screw up? * Mess up? * Caulk it wrong? * Damage the wall?

I just kept going through this. What if, what if? What if and it was paralyzing me?

After years of these paralyzing thoughts, a lot more damage occurred because the water has been seeping into the grout, wall, and floorboards. Because of this fear, I now have increased the cost of repairs. I might have to replace floorboards, walls, and who knows what else? I have to dry things out and all because this fear is stopping me. Every time I thought about it, I was like, no, no, I’ll do it later. I’ll do it then. I’ll do it later.

How many times do you keep pushing things off, saying, “I’ll do it later?”

Well, that’s what was happening with me. I finally got the sealing chemical. I pulled all the caulking off and as I was pulling off the caulking, it pulled some grout. My worst fear came true, now I have to replace the grout too. With this evidence, I have proof that my fear was real, so I thought?

This narrative started running through my mind, “I’m going to have to replace the grout now and it’s going to cost more money. I”m not going to be able to finish this and it’s going to take a long time, etc.”

It was too late to stop and now there’s no turning back. I kept pushing forward, it did pull a little bit of grout here and there, but it was easy to repair. I allowed this simple task to appear so real of utter destruction, that it paralyzed me for no reason. Is this false evidence appearing real?

Assumptions Because of Fear

I assumed this was going to be a hard process and it was going to take so long and everything was going to destroy my life because I’ll be working on the bathroom forever. In reality, it took a week. it’s finished and it’s the coolest thing ever as the water hits the wall if rushes right down the drain.

Too many children do not show their parents and specifically their mothers respect. This creates a problem later in life because this lack of respect continues on to their spouse and children.

Visualize Your Negative Emotions to Let Go

Today I share a technique that I have been using with the women I work with and also my children to let go of emotions. I help them to visualize the pain or emotion. This technique is powerful and easy to do; however, it will take some practice and commitment.

I’ve used this method to let go of anger, anxiety, sadness, etc.

Here are the steps to follow to visualize your pain and emotion to let go of them:

Step 1 – Level of Pain

One of the first things you want to do is identify the level of pain, hurt or emotion from a 1 to 10 that you’re experiencing.

Step 2 – Location

The next thing you want to do is figure out where the pain or the emotion is located.

Step 3 – Identify Shape and Color

After you have located where the pain and emotion is at, identify what shape and color it has. If you’re not sure, take a guess and imagine that pain or emotion is that shape and color. This imagery will help to separate this emotion for you, allowing you to let go of it.

Step 4 – Other Characteristics

Looking at this visual, what other characteristics does it have? Cold, hot, spikey, smooth, etc. The more you can see it, the easier it is to let go of it.

Step 5 – Close Your Eyes and Breathe

Focus on the emotion and pain and breathe into it, breathe love and gratitude into the feeling and follow it as it travels. Don’t try to fight it, love it, and breathe.

Step 6 – Gratitude

As you visualize the pain and emotion, express gratitude that you’re able to feel this pain and emotion, which helps to guide you to where you want to go. Gratitude is one of the highest energy frequencies we have and allows you to put your mind at ease.

Summary of Visualizing the Pain and Emotions to Let Go of Them

In summation, this technique is powerful if you implement it to help move the emotions out of you. As you move emotions, start looking for new ones, similar to other let go techniques, seek to see if you have the emotion within. Say, “I’m feeling (say emotion)…” and follow the steps above.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Life Coach, Mentor and Speaker – Tony Rhoton 801.787.5765

Value is inside of you and others are waiting for you to realize it. You can have so much and be so much more than what you are. My goal is to help you break free from the chains that are holding you back. The changes that we focus on:

* Improve your mindset.* Changing your past negative thoughts and beliefs.* Letting go of past trauma.* and so much more.

Value is already inside of you, it now comes to unlocking it so you can experience it yourself.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton • 801.787.5765

Denying Emotions Increase Pain, Frustration, and Depression

When you first start facing your #emotions, you may not want to acknowledge them or even deny that they exist. You’ll tell yourself lies like you can’t handle them. The other thing you may do is #suppress your emotions, pushing them down and burying them. Today I talk about denial and explicitly denying emotions and the different challenges this creates.

Your brain has created safety in some form for many years and has helped you block it. You may think something is holding you back but you don’t know what it is? As you start facing the hidden emotions, it’s hard but your mind opens up.

Managing Emotions of Pregnancy – How to Keep Going!

There are many emotions that you feel when you’re pregnant. Learning how to manage the emotions of pregnancy like postpartum depression, anxiety, overwhelm, fear and frustration is challenging but possible.

It’s astounding to me the miracle of children and childbirth. I’ve watched my spectacular wife give birth seven times; however they weren’t all easy, matter-of-fact, none of them really were but they got easier. The first child over 22 hours of hard labor. I thought we were done having children but then two years later my next daughter graced us, 16 hours; 8 hours; 4 hours; 2 hours; 1 hour and 15 min.

My last child literally came exploding out, it was extremely nerve racking, not know what was going on. Fortunately, my wife and son were both okay but my wife’s uterus had started to petrify.

Needless to say with all of the different pregnancy there have been many emotions experienced. No matter what we did, it came down to slowing down and taking things slow.

As a guy, I was wanting my wife to get up and go during her pregnancy and also after but realized that was not possible after birth. I wanted her to be the person she was before. However, I saw her struggle to get out of bed and that’s where it started, let’s just get out of bed today and feed the baby. The steps were gradual but soon she was back to her new and improved self.

Life is like this, sometimes we don’t want to get out of bed, it’s the last thing we want to do. What do you do? Take small steps to get back to where you want to be.

You’re amazing, believe it.

Stop Hate Know Where You’re Going

Hate destroys you more than it does getting revenge. Too many times we don’t manage our emotions and emotions manage us. We are reactive instead of proactive in controlling them.

Today’s video and podcast I’m comparing the movie, “Miracle” with life. Miracle is a Disney movie about the 1980 Olympic Ice Hockey team and what they had to go through to win against the Russians.

The team had to overcome hate, dislike, old-scores, etc. The coach knew what needed to happen and that he had to stop hate immediately. He had the vision but it was trying to get the team on board and united to overcome the challenges.

Hate stops you and prevents you from becoming the person you want to be. You have so much potential, let go of any hate and negative emotions; know where you’re going so nothing stops you.

Parenting Responsibility or Children’s Responsibility?

Sometimes it can seem fuzzy about our responsibilities as a parent versus the child. What’s the responsibility of the parent or accountability of the child? You probably get a lot of advice from friends and family. You’re probably tired of it and especially don’t want to read or listen to another article or video; however, I feel we should never stop learning

Getting Rid of the Dogs in Life – Making Tough Choices and Hard Decisions

I’m faced with one of the hardest decisions and the toughest choice I’ve had to make in my life, which inspired this post and video.

Last night, my daughter was bit by our dog that we got at Christmas. Unfortunately, she was also bit on Christmas Eve which was worse. He punctured her nose and lip.

Showing my daughter’s lip and nose from dog bite 12/24/18

However yesterday was just a scrape on the face, but it scared her and the rest of the family.

I realized in life we have to make tough choices and hard decisions. I’m being faced with this one, I have to get rid of Champ, our dog.

How many dogs (hard choices to make) in your life do you need to get rid of? What’s holding you back for reaching your goals because you’re wanting to keep that dog, even though you know you shouldn’t?

You’re amazing, believe it. Get rid of the dogs that aren’t empowering you.

Tony Rhoton – Life Coach & Speaker

There are too many times that we allow our emotions to drive us instead of us staying in control. The technique I share in today’s video addresses how we can stay in control.

If you don’t manage your emotions they will manage you. Managing your emotions is easier than you think and with this technique, you can do it anywhere so you don’t bring that negativity home to your family.

You won’t have those moments of lashing out at your child, husband, friend or co-worker. Your ability to keep your cool allows you from having to repair damaged relationships. Get rid of anger now, before anger gets you.