He does not want to sit with me and allow me to walk with him and help him struggle well.  Maybe I'm just not giving enough time.  

Then I fall in the rut of "I'm not good enough" or "give me your phone, keys to the car...until you can spend time with your family and work on this..."

Dang.  This is hard.  And it is reality for many families.  It's like the story of the prodigal son in scripture, but the son in this story is rebelling while still living under the same roof.

Linger in this episode as we share more about transformational and transactional relationships, the power of "I change my mind," and staying connected while staying honest about real problems.

We offer these TAKE AWAYS, too:

• A relationship of trust is one where it is safe to admit I am wrong and say, "I change my mind."  This only happens when there is no added penalty for being wrong--and when the relationship is not at stake.
• Love always equips and never enables.  Just because a child complies doesn't mean they are growing up.  Compliance only asks me to do what you say to get what I want.  Trusting obedience invites me to trust you--and obey.  Obedience is evidence of maturity.
• Give your kids car keys and a phone because they are mature and responsible--and for no other reason.  There is too much risk involved in driving a car and having a phone for a child to get this privilege while they are immature and irresponsible.

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We mention these resources in this episode:

Fredericksburg Theater Company - Thank you for a wonderful "Sound of Music" evening.  Friends--check out the website for future productions...and come visit us!  https://www.fredericksburgtheater.org/

Check out our new website--dedicated to all things BRAVE LOVE and EDUCATION.  https://john15academy.com/ 

The Cure and Parents https://smile.amazon.com/Cure-Parents-Bill-Thrall/dp/1934104094/

Education by Design, Not Default https://smile.amazon.com/Education-Design-Not-Default-Fearless/dp/057840835X/

This blogpost maybe helpful for you and your prodigal.  https://janetnewberry.com/prodigal-welcome-home/