Imagine being a strong, athletic law enforcement officer, yet feeling trapped and powerless in an abusive relationship. That was the reality for Ben Bjarneson, who bravely shared his experience with domestic violence as a homosexual man. I discuss the three cycles of violence, which include the tension building, acute explosion, and honeymoon phases, and also explore the four stages expanded by psychcentralcom. Listen closely as I uncover the stark differences between a non-abuser's guilt and an abuser's guilt, and understand the impact on their victims.

Ben's courageous story serves as a powerful reminder that anyone can be exposed to domestic violence, regardless of their appearance or profession. 

If you are in Australia and need help, contact DV Connect Womensline at 1800 811 811 -OR- Mensline at 1 800 600 636 -OR- 1800respect. If you need immediate help, contact the police at 000.

Sources:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUiPWe0Wxzw
• https://play.qagoma.qld.gov.au/dear-queensland/letter/96/
• https://www.ted.com/talks/ben_bjarnesen_could_you_be_a_victim_of_domestic_violence
• https://www.facebook.com/watch/?extid=mJoosKPkfjKliSfV&v=831915884002715
• https://www.benbjarnesen.com/
• https://www.dvafoundation.org/
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSO-SDj-8ag
• https://au.news.yahoo.com/domestic-violence-survivor-speaks-out-about-community-with-one-of-the-highest-rates-of-abuse-102039636.html
• https://hopeandsafety.org/
• https://psychcentral.com/
• https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/
• https://nomore.org/learn/bystander-scenarios/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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What happens when love turns fatal in a same-sex marriage? Discover the tragic story of Anna Marie Cochran-Rintala and Cara Rintala - the first case of a woman being charged with murdering her same-sex spouse in Massachusetts.  Join me as I delve into the unique challenges that the LGBTQ community faces when dealing with domestic violence, such as threats to out their partner to family, jobs, or the public, and how previous trauma from bullying or hate crimes may deter them from seeking help.

As I examine the controversy surrounding Cara's case, I'll attempt to make sense of the underlying dynamics of domestic abuse that might have escalated to murder, and how prejudice against or misunderstanding of the LGBTQ lifestyle may have influenced how the case was handled.  Don't miss this heart-wrenching and eye-opening episode that sheds light on the complexities of LGBTQ relationships and the struggles faced by victims of domestic violence.

Sources:

• https://obits.masslive.com/us/obituaries/masslive/name/annamarie-rintala-obituary?id=12266167
• https://www.northwesternda.org/home/news/judge-sets-4th-murder-trial-cara-rintala-september-2023
• https://www.gazettenet.com/The-Annamarie-Cochrane-Rintala-you-never-knew-5341770
• https://thecinemaholic.com/annamarie-rintala-murder-where-is-cara-rintala-now/
• https://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/2013/05/28/cara-rintala-murder-trial/
• https://www.nepm.org/regional-news/2021-11-23/rintala-released-on-50-000-bail-as-prosecutor-focusing-on-the-next-trial
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozINDqTfq0I
• https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/domestic-violence-and-the-lgbtq-community
• Women & Crime podcast Episode 120
• Crime Junkie podcast 10/21/2019 episode

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What if the person you thought was your soulmate turned out to be your worst nightmare? That's what happened to Alex Skeel, who survived years of brutal domestic abuse at the hands of his girlfriend, Jordan. In this powerful and emotional episode, I follow Alex's journey from a seemingly perfect relationship to the harrowing realization of his predicament and the courage it takes to break free from the grip of abuse.

This episode assists in recognizing that abuse and victimhood are not defined by gender, and the changes needed to better support and advocate for all victims of domestic violence. Don't miss this inspiring story that will resonate with anyone who's ever faced the darkness and found the strength to emerge victorious.

Sources: 

• https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/6080402/alex-skeel-jordan-worth-domestic-abuse-bbc-three/
• https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6716559/Abused-girlfriend-Alex-Skeel-reveals-injuries-Jordan-Worth.html
• https://medium.com/@criminalmatters/the-alex-skeel-domestic-abuse-case-e699b80343cf
• The BBC special, “I Survived: The Case of Alex Skeel and his abusive girlfriend” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jz9CVFKRK6s
• Private Stories Podcast with Psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman interviews Alex Skeel 
• https://vocal.media/journal/the-alex-skeel-domestic-abuse-case

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Have you ever wondered how a policy could make a difference in protecting vulnerable people from domestic violence? This powerful and emotional episode takes you on a heart-wrenching journey through the story of Clare Wood, whose tragic murder by her ex-partner, George Appleton, led to the creation of Clare's Law, also known as the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme. Join me as I explore Clare's early life, her relationships, and the tireless efforts of her father, Michael Brown, to bring about change that could save countless lives in the future.

I go beyond the surface to examine the flaws in the system that left Clare in the dark about George's dangerous past and how her father's determination led to the introduction of Clare's Law. Hear the account of discovering Clare's body, the nationwide manhunt for George, and his eventual death by suicide. Learn about the impact this law has had on providing vital information to potential victims and its success in saving lives. This episode is a harrowing reminder of the horrors of domestic violence, and the importance of raising awareness for Clare's Law.
 
 Sources:

• “It’s Murder Up North” podcast by Jenny Hacking. Episode titled Clare Wood. 
• https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/mum-whose-murder-changed-britain-22543641
• https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/timeline-clare-wood-murder-884985
• Crimes That Shook Britain; S5, Ep 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdkOwkYfils
• https://metro.co.uk/2019/10/12/murdered-mums-unsent-letter-killer-boyfriend-says-still-scare-10907243/
• https://www.thehotline.org/
• Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk)
• https://criminalinjurieshelpline.co.uk/
• https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/survivor-resources/ 

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Doc shares his personal experience of domestic violence to prove it also happens to men. Content includes various forms of abuse, animal cruelty, child molestation, and child abuse. 

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Kathy experienced child abuse at the hands of her mother. As an adult, she was abused by her partners. This is part two and the conclusion of Kathy's story. Content includes various forms of abuse as well as details of animal cruelty and attempted suicide. You can find links to Kathy's social handles and presentations under the guest tab on the 1 in 3 website.

Check out Kathy's profile on the 1 in 3 website: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/Kathy/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Kathy experienced child abuse at the hands of her mother. As an adult, she was abused by her partners. Content includes various forms of abuse including descriptions of child abuse.

Check out Kathy's profile on the 1 in 3 website: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/Kathy/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Domestic violence has shocking statistics that affects people from all walks of life, and it's time to shed light on this pervasive issue. Join me, Ingrid, as we unravel the complexities of domestic violence and explore the different types of abuse, terminology, and the long-lasting effects like depression, suicide, and economic costs. Together, we'll educate ourselves on how to better support those affected by it.

As a survivor of domestic violence myself, I know first-hand the pain and struggle that comes with it. Let's raise awareness, support one another, and continue the fight against domestic violence because every survivor's story matters.

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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As someone who has experienced the devastating effects of domestic violence, I was compelled to create a platform for survivors to share their stories and offer hope to those going through similar experiences. With the alarming statistics reported by the Centers for Disease Control and the World Health Organization, we can no longer stay silent on this issue. That's why I'm launching the new podcast series "One in Three" on March 1st, where we'll not only discuss physical and sexual violence, but also emotional, psychological, and financial abuse affecting millions of people worldwide.

In upcoming episodes, I'll feature powerful and inspiring stories from survivors and those who have unfortunately succumbed to these tragic circumstances. My hope is to shed light on the harsh realities of domestic violence and provide support to those who need it most. 
If you or someone you know has a story to share, please reach out to me at [email protected]. 

If you're in need of immediate assistance call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or text "start" to 88788. 

Remember, you are not alone, and it's not your fault. Together, we can make a difference in this fight against domestic violence.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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