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104. Why Explaining Doesn’t Work When Kids Misbehave (and What to Do Instead)


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Do you ever feel frustrated when your kids just don’t “get it”? You’ve explained why they should be kind, modeled sharing, or tried talking them out of an upset—yet nothing changes. This is what I call “parenting from the neck up”—relying only on logic and explanations when your child’s brain simply isn’t in a logical place.

In this short episode of our weekly podcast, you’ll learn how to shift from over-explaining to strategies that actually work. By tuning into anxiety & emotions first, you’ll unlock more cooperation and strengthen your parent-child connection—without endless lectures or power struggles.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

  • Parenting tips & tools for helping kids who are resistant, emotional, or defiant (RED) when reasoning just isn’t working
  • Why it’s essential to stop arguing the “lyrics” (content) and start listening to the “music” (feelings) for deeper connection
  • How to use gentle parenting practices and emotional attunement to create calm, confident parenting moments that bring real change

These positive parenting strategies will help you parent without yelling, use kind and firm parenting approaches, and even stop power struggles with kids—all while raising confident kids who feel truly understood.

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