Everyone has a past, but when it comes to relationships, how can someone be sure it no longer has a hold on their present? Whether in dating or marriage, navigating past mistakes, previous relationships, or personal struggles can be complex. How much should be shared, and when does transparency build trust versus causing unnecessary pain?

In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the balance between honesty and wisdom, discussing when full disclosure is valuable and when it may not be helpful. They break down how to recognize genuine healing, build trust, and have important conversations about the past in a way that strengthens relationships rather than creates insecurity.

Key Topics Discussed:

• How to discern if someone has truly moved on from their past
• The role of full disclosure in building trust
• When sharing past mistakes strengthens a relationship versus when it creates unnecessary harm
• How to navigate difficult conversations about previous relationships, personal struggles, or past wounds
• Signs of true healing versus patterns that indicate unresolved issues

Whether preparing for marriage, working through past hurts, or striving to build a foundation of trust, this episode provides insight and practical tools for moving forward in a healthy way.

Resources Mentioned:

• Episode 20 - A Plan for Pain, Part 1
• Episode 21 - A Plan for Pain, Part 2

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