Sustainable Parenting | The kind and firm solution for resilient kids and dependable calm.

120. How to Help Kids Stop Saying “I’m Stupid” or “Nobody Likes Me”


Listen Later

That crushing moment when your child says, I’m stupid” or “Nobody likes me” can leave you feeling helpless. You’ve tried everything — reassurance, distraction, even giving in — but the negative thought loops just won’t quit.

In this episode of the Sustainable Parenting podcast, we dive into one of the most common parenting challenges: those Automatic Negative Thoughts (what brain psychologist Daniel Amen calls ANTs) that sneak into our children’s minds. These thoughts not only affect their mood but can chip away at their confidence and cooperation.

The best part? These tools don’t just help with negative thoughts in childhood— they are a key tools for raising confident adults, giving the tools for lifelong resilience and self-confidence. Bonus - these are great tools for US to use, too (as parents). When we model these ways to decrease our own shame and blame, we help our kids to see that they can do it, also.

So if you’re ready to trade helplessness for hope, tune in. 

By the time you finish listening you will know:

✨Positive parenting strategies you can start using today.

✨Four simple, science-backed tools to help your child recognize and reframe negative thinking. 

You’ll discover how adding a tiny word like “yet” can shift their whole outlook, why swapping out extreme words like “always” and “never” can calm their big feelings, and how a simple butternut squash story completely changed the way I approach these moments with my own kids.

Together, we’ll explore sustainable parenting solutions that balance kindness and firmness — so your child can grow in confidence, and you can finally feel more calm, connected, and confident in your parenting.

Want more?

Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨NEW✨ pdfs and short video lessons on Respect, Bedtimes, Power Struggles and More: ON ETSY!

Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference f...

...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

Sustainable Parenting | The kind and firm solution for resilient kids and dependable calm.By Flora McCormick, LCPC, Parenting Coach

  • 5
  • 5
  • 5
  • 5
  • 5

5

118 ratings


More shows like Sustainable Parenting | The kind and firm solution for resilient kids and dependable calm.

View all
This American Life by This American Life

This American Life

91,047 Listeners

Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me! by NPR

Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!

38,676 Listeners

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled by JLML Press

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

3,661 Listeners

The Lazy Genius Podcast by Kendra, The Lazy Genius

The Lazy Genius Podcast

6,639 Listeners

Juicy Scoop with Heather McDonald by Heather McDonald & Studio71

Juicy Scoop with Heather McDonald

25,871 Listeners

The Daily by The New York Times

The Daily

112,734 Listeners

Up First from NPR by NPR

Up First from NPR

56,473 Listeners

Calm Parenting Podcast by Kirk Martin

Calm Parenting Podcast

1,457 Listeners

The Peter Attia Drive by Peter Attia, MD

The Peter Attia Drive

9,132 Listeners

Connected Families Podcast by Connected Families

Connected Families Podcast

411 Listeners

Good Inside with Dr. Becky by Dr. Becky Kennedy

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

4,522 Listeners

All There Is with Anderson Cooper by CNN Podcasts

All There Is with Anderson Cooper

10,368 Listeners

Nat Theo Nature Lessons Rooted in the Bible by Eryn Lynum

Nat Theo Nature Lessons Rooted in the Bible

452 Listeners

Good Hang with Amy Poehler by The Ringer

Good Hang with Amy Poehler

10,087 Listeners

Raising Confident Kids with SEN by Sarah Billingham, Confident Kids

Raising Confident Kids with SEN

0 Listeners