Getting engaged is exciting, but a healthy marriage starts long before the wedding day.

In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack the conversations, decisions, and preparations that can help couples build a strong foundation before saying “I do.” From navigating family dynamics and wedding planning stress to discussing sex, finances, faith, and expectations, they share practical wisdom for engaged couples and the people who love them.

They explore why community input matters, how premarital counseling can uncover blind spots, and why competency—not just chemistry—is essential for building a thriving marriage. They also discuss the importance of developing the emotional, spiritual, and practical capacity needed to carry the weight of the life you’re asking God to give you.

Whether you’re engaged, dating seriously, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers helpful guidance for preparing for a marriage that’s built to last.

In this episode:
 • The pre-engagement conversations every couple should have
 • Why community input is a gift, not a threat
 • Healthy ways to talk about sex before marriage
 • Keeping wedding planning from damaging your relationship
 • The value of premarital counseling and marriage assessments
 • Navigating expectations from parents and in-laws
 • Why it’s wise to spend money where you lack skills
 • What couples should focus on before the wedding day
 • Building confidence through competency and preparation
 • Developing the load-bearing capacity needed for marriage

If you know someone who is engaged or preparing for marriage, send them this episode.

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