In this video we discuss two addictions we haven’t covered before, as well as 2 different kinds of values. WE also discuss the issue of faking vulnerability.

TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section)

0:00 Intro

0:15 Video games and hobbies (where we invest our time in relationships)

0:39 Stated Values vs Lived Values (“not demonizing those activities”) *

2:51 This can lead to even more broken trust

3:44 Stated values may be about our image

4:21 One Solution: Stated values is the goal vs. Craving the approval of others *

5;43 One Solution: How to name emotions

8:23 One Solution: One thing that would do wonders for relationships *

9:18 One Solution: A place guys can learn vulnerability, not faking it

11:12 Why Matt would “Say it all” now? Practice

11:40 “Thank goodness someone finally said it” vs “Not willing to go there”

12:47 In the next episode: Can video games actually help after broken trust?

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https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

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