In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about destination addiction, contentment, and how easy it is to romanticize a life we aren’t actually living while missing the one happening right now. They also talk about why joy can feel vulnerable, why we sometimes wait for something bad to happen when life is going well, and whether our hope for the future can actually keep us from participating in the present. 00:00 - Live From the Netherlands 01:40 - Why Do We Romanticize the Future? 02:13 - Life Will Be Better When… 04:40 - Destination Addiction 05:07 - The “When, Then” Trap 05:48 - Learning to Be Content Now 06:13 - Living in the Season You Once Prayed For 07:35 - Are You Postponing Happiness? 08:39 - Why Is It Hard to Express Joy? 09:40 - Does Joy Feel Vulnerable? 10:10 - Are We Protecting Ourselves From Joy? 12:10 - Joy Isn’t Circumstantial 13:37 - Can Hope Keep Us From Living? 15:51 - Enduring Life Instead of Enjoying It 16:23 - Learning How to Live Now 17:13 - What Season Do You Now Miss? 19:37 - What Will You Miss About Today? 20:08 - Recognizing a Season Before It’s Gone 22:44 - Catch Your “When” 23:25 - Name What’s Already Good Today 23:54 - Change Your “When” to “Now” 24:55 - You Are Loved Right Now

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about destination addiction, contentment, and how easy it is to romanticize a life we aren’t actually living while missing the one happening right now. They also talk about why joy can feel vulnerable, why we sometimes wait for something bad to happen when life is going well, and whether our hope for the future can actually keep us from participating in the present. 00:00 - Live From the Netherlands 01:40 - Why Do We Romanticize the Future? 02:13 - Life Will Be Better When… 04:40 - Destination Addiction 05:07 - The “When, Then” Trap 05:48 - Learning to Be Content Now 06:13 - Living in the Season You Once Prayed For 07:35 - Are You Postponing Happiness? 08:39 - Why Is It Hard to Express Joy? 09:40 - Does Joy Feel Vulnerable? 10:10 - Are We Protecting Ourselves From Joy? 12:10 - Joy Isn’t Circumstantial 13:37 - Can Hope Keep Us From Living? 15:51 - Enduring Life Instead of Enjoying It 16:23 - Learning How to Live Now 17:13 - What Season Do You Now Miss? 19:37 - What Will You Miss About Today? 20:08 - Recognizing a Season Before It’s Gone 22:44 - Catch Your “When” 23:25 - Name What’s Already Good Today 23:54 - Change Your “When” to “Now” 24:55 - You Are Loved Right Now

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about destination addiction, contentment, and how easy it is to romanticize a life we aren’t actually living while missing the one happening right now. They also talk about why joy can feel vulnerable, why we sometimes wait for something bad to happen when life is going well, and whether our hope for the future can actually keep us from participating in the present. 00:00 - Live From the Netherlands 01:40 - Why Do We Romanticize the Future? 02:13 - Life Will Be Better When… 04:40 - Destination Addiction 05:07 - The “When, Then” Trap 05:48 - Learning to Be Content Now 06:13 - Living in the Season You Once Prayed For 07:35 - Are You Postponing Happiness? 08:39 - Why Is It Hard to Express Joy? 09:40 - Does Joy Feel Vulnerable? 10:10 - Are We Protecting Ourselves From Joy? 12:10 - Joy Isn’t Circumstantial 13:37 - Can Hope Keep Us From Living? 15:51 - Enduring Life Instead of Enjoying It 16:23 - Learning How to Live Now 17:13 - What Season Do You Now Miss? 19:37 - What Will You Miss About Today? 20:08 - Recognizing a Season Before It’s Gone 22:44 - Catch Your “When” 23:25 - Name What’s Already Good Today 23:54 - Change Your “When” to “Now” 24:55 - You Are Loved Right Now

296. Why Is It So Easy To Romanticize A Life We're Not Actually Living?

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about our tendency to fix people, give advice they never asked for, and become more invested in someone’s growth than they are. They also talk about the deeper things that can be hiding underneath our desire to help. What happens when being needed becomes part of our identity? Are we actually offering something to another person, or are we trying to produce an outcome for them? 00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast 02:18 - Why Do We Feel Responsible for Fixing People? 03:52 - Why Is It So Hard to Watch People Struggle? 06:23 - Learning to Have Fewer Opinions 07:41 - When You Want to Coach Everyone 08:52 - What Happens When People Ignore Your Advice? 09:47 - What Do You Need From Me? 12:05 - Are You More Invested in Their Growth Than They Are? 13:40 - You Can’t Do the Work for Someone Else 15:45 - The Addiction to Being Needed 17:21 - Jesus Didn’t Chase People 19:24 - Jesus Didn’t Need to Be Needed 20:54 - Three Questions Before You Try to Help 21:39 - Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice 24:40 - This Week’s Challenge: Don’t Give Advice 25:10 - You Are Loved

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about our tendency to fix people, give advice they never asked for, and become more invested in someone’s growth than they are. They also talk about the deeper things that can be hiding underneath our desire to help. What happens when being needed becomes part of our identity? Are we actually offering something to another person, or are we trying to produce an outcome for them? 00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast 02:18 - Why Do We Feel Responsible for Fixing People? 03:52 - Why Is It So Hard to Watch People Struggle? 06:23 - Learning to Have Fewer Opinions 07:41 - When You Want to Coach Everyone 08:52 - What Happens When People Ignore Your Advice? 09:47 - What Do You Need From Me? 12:05 - Are You More Invested in Their Growth Than They Are? 13:40 - You Can’t Do the Work for Someone Else 15:45 - The Addiction to Being Needed 17:21 - Jesus Didn’t Chase People 19:24 - Jesus Didn’t Need to Be Needed 20:54 - Three Questions Before You Try to Help 21:39 - Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice 24:40 - This Week’s Challenge: Don’t Give Advice 25:10 - You Are Loved

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about our tendency to fix people, give advice they never asked for, and become more invested in someone’s growth than they are. They also talk about the deeper things that can be hiding underneath our desire to help. What happens when being needed becomes part of our identity? Are we actually offering something to another person, or are we trying to produce an outcome for them? 00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast 02:18 - Why Do We Feel Responsible for Fixing People? 03:52 - Why Is It So Hard to Watch People Struggle? 06:23 - Learning to Have Fewer Opinions 07:41 - When You Want to Coach Everyone 08:52 - What Happens When People Ignore Your Advice? 09:47 - What Do You Need From Me? 12:05 - Are You More Invested in Their Growth Than They Are? 13:40 - You Can’t Do the Work for Someone Else 15:45 - The Addiction to Being Needed 17:21 - Jesus Didn’t Chase People 19:24 - Jesus Didn’t Need to Be Needed 20:54 - Three Questions Before You Try to Help 21:39 - Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice 24:40 - This Week’s Challenge: Don’t Give Advice 25:10 - You Are Loved

294. Why Do We Keep Trying To Fix People?

Welcome to our podcast! We're Channock Banet and Cory Rice, pastors at Hill City Church in Floyds Knobs, Indiana. We started this to be a resource for you. We hope our conversations around faith and life empower you on your own journey.

Welcome to our podcast! We're Channock Banet and Cory Rice, pastors at Hill City Church in Floyds Knobs, Indiana. We started this to be a resource for you. We hope our conversations around faith and life empower you on your own journey.

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