January 24, 2023

216 // What Resentment Reveals & Understanding Envy

59 minutes

We all know that we don’t love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it? In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown’s work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings.

Time Stamps

10:54 - Our language shapes our world,

13:20 - Comparison isn’t inherently bad, it’s a natural part of being human

18:00 - Stay in your lane and your journey

19:54 - Humans are happier if they are forced to commit to a decision

26:15 - Feeling content with fashion

32:30 - Definition of Jealousy vs. Envy

34:09 - Malicious envy vs. just plain envy

38:45 - Resentment is a part of the envy family

42:00 - What do I need that I’m afraid to ask for?

43:00 - Schadenfreude & Freudenfreude

45:20 - Cultivating flame-keepers

50:32 - “Rejoice in the success of others”

52:30 - Develop Freudenfreude using “Shoy” and “Bragitude”

54:52 - Social media can be a detriment for our ability feel freudenfreude

Related episodes:

How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison

Comparison vs. Contentment

Books and links we mentioned:

Atlas of the Heart // Brené Brown

Decide Already by Hidden Brain

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