January 13, 2023

26. A Candid Conversation on Childhood Sexual Abuse, Radical Self-Responsibility & Kink with Jagger Waters

1 hour 50 minutes

This is one of the most intimate and refreshing conversations I've ever had on childhood sexual abuse. As my guest and long-time best friend of 15 years, Jagger Waters, says, societally, "We tend to treat it like it's a disease rather than an experience." As a comedy writer, she brilliantly sheds light on this topic by intentionally using humor to alchemize one of the most traumatic experiences one can have. We muse on what it's like to not just heal from the experience, to the point where it's nothing but a tiny blip in our life story, but to also use it as a catalyst to become an even more powerful, communicative, confident, sex-positive, and self-aware human.

We also discuss:

ways in which the impact of childhood sexual abuse is more about betrayal/attachment than the physical/sexual aspects

the kinds of horrible (and hilarious) responses we've gotten from therapists and others

how age, gender, and power are deeply interrelated

whether adult sexual kinks have anything to do with trauma and making a commitment to healthy relationships and sex

self-translation and how to disclose to partners, therapists, and friends

what kinds of responses from people are helpful (and not)

re-defining and communicating your relationship to pleasure

how to deal with retraumatization

avoiding victimhood and taking radical self-responsibility

when to stop going to therapy and follow your own process

Jagger Waters is a Los Angeles based comedy writer, goof ball and amateur roller skater.

Instagram: @glamorousreptile

Twitter: @glamoureptile

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