It’s amazing how just one small word can shift an entire conversation—for better or worse. Without realizing it, we often invite comparison into our discussions, creating unnecessary tension or discomfort.

That’s why I’m thrilled to have Kathie Gwilliam on the podcast this week! Kathie is an expert at identifying the subtle ways comparison sneaks into our language, and she’s here to help us become more self-aware.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✅ Three common phrases that unintentionally fuel comparison—and what to say instead.

✅ How to help your kids when they feel insecure after someone else gets a compliment.

✅ A simple way to introduce yourself with confidence.

✅ Why we need to be mindful of body-talk around our kids—plus a healthy way to process body image struggles.

Since learning from Kathie, I’ve been catching myself making comparisons—and I’m working on changing that! I’d love to hear how this episode impacts you. Come share your thoughts with me on Instagram!

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If you ever feel at a loss for how to support your partner, friend, or family member who struggles with mental illness, this special episode is for you. My brother-in-law Logan has been a loving and sturdy support for my older sister Sarah through decades of mental health challenges. Over their 20 years of marriage, he has learned a lot about how best to support someone who is struggling, and he's joining me in this episode to share those insights with us, including:

- What to do when frustration creeps in and it feels like your loved one isn’t “trying hard enough.”

- How to give yourself permission to feel joy, even when your loved one is feeling down.

- A mantra to lean on when everything feels heavy and hope is running low.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

Be sure to also listen to the episodes with my beloved sister Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness.

If you’re caring for someone battling mental illness, I want to take a moment to say thank you. Thank you for being there and for giving of your compassion and love. Please remember to take care of yourself too. You deserve support and help through this, too.

[FREE DOWNLOAD] Mental Health Guide for Depression and Anxiety // To support you even further, I’ve created a guide that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a private playlist of all of the episodes I’ve released about mental illness and helpful resources for additional support.

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After my daughter Sally was born, I stopped sleeping. During the day, I had a hard time looking at my baby because I didn’t feel like I could take care of myself, let alone her. Up to this point, I had managed my natural melancholy okay on my own, but after a terrifying panic attack, I reached out for professional help. 

I attribute my quick decision to get help to my older sister, Sarah, who has fought mental illness since she was a young teenager. 

This time of year can be especially difficult for many emotionally. That’s why I’m dedicating three episodes to the focus on mental health in motherhood. On Monday, you heard Sarah and I discuss depression in motherhood. Today’s episode is focused on how to get professional help. Next week, you’ll hear from Sarah’s husband, Logan, about how to support a loved one who’s struggling with mental illness. 

In this second episode of the series, we discuss: 

- A practical tip to help you stay honest with your doctor & therapist

- A few helpful thoughts if you’re scared to try medication. 

- Two kinds of therapy you might not have thought about before. 

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful. 

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Whatever battles you’re fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you’re not alone. 

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This time of year, I struggle more with depression. The winter months can be a really hard time - and I know it’s just not me! That’s why I truly feel like it’s important this time of year to talk about mental illness in motherhood. 

To give this topic the full focus it deserves, I’m dedicating the next three episodes to focusing on mental health in motherhood. This week, you’ll hear previous episodes I aired with my beloved older sister, Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness. After that, I will air a new episode with Sarah’s husband, Logan, about ways to care for a loved one struggling with mental illness. 

In this first episode of the series, we discuss: 

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful. 

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Whatever battles you’re fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you’re not alone.

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Feeling maxed out? But also feeling like it’s YOUR fault you feel that way? You’re not alone! 

If you're caught in a cycle of overcommitment, self-criticism, and the struggle to say "yes" when you really want to say "no," this episode is for you!

Join me as I chat with Amy Wilson, who shares invaluable insights for women navigating the challenges of over-commitment.

In this episode, you’ll hear: 

- The best question to ask yourself to create more margin in your life (it's definitely not what you think!)

- Why saying "no" is not always the  "full sentence" we're led to believe it is (and what needs to come next!)

- Tactics to help when saying “no” is met with uncomfortable silence.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

PLUS, if you need help figuring out WHAT to put down in your life and HOW to articulate it to others, check out my audio course Declutter your Motherhood! This course offers insightful questions to help you pinpoint the sources of your overwhelm, along with compassionate scripts to explain your needs to family and friends. Now until the end of January, use the code NEWYEAR for $50 off!

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As we enter this time of year, I find myself reflecting on clutter—both the physical clutter in my home and the mental clutter in my mind. I'm especially focused on those areas that feel disorganized and overwhelming.

Can you relate? 

Last week, I shared an insightful interview with Erica Layne, discussing mindset shifts that can help us declutter our homes in lasting ways.

This week, I want to dive into the topic of decluttering our mental spaces. To guide us, I've decided to share a recording of a live online masterclass that I taught last year about overcoming overwhelm. While it’s longer than my usual 30-minute episodes, it does have three takeaways, and I hope you'll find it incredibly valuable. 

In this episode, you’ll:

- Learn about the difference between stress & overwhelm

- Hear some strategies you can use if you’re in the midst of overwhelm

- Receive some scripts you can use to opt out of commitments that are too much for you 

Thanks for taking some extra time today, beyond our regular thirty minutes, to learn about overcoming overwhelm! If you are interested in dedicating yourself to a true transformation - going from constant unhealthy overwhelm to more productive stress mixed with a lot more joy and fun - sign up for my Declutter your Motherhood Audio course by the end of January for $50 off with the code NEWYEAR. I'd love to have you with us! 

For full show notes, including the three takeaways, click here. 

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With the new year comes a new surge of energy for me to GET MY LIFE IN ORDER! My kids always laugh at me when I get these bursts of motivation because they never last. They roll their eyes and humor me as I declare plans to declutter our home and patiently wait for my resolve to fizzle.

Is this cycle familiar to you too? Well, if so, you’re in for a treat. I truly believe that with some mindset shifts and a deeper commitment to our WHY for decluttering our homes, this can be the year that decluttering actually sticks. 

My guest today, Erica Layne from The Life on Purpose Movement, believes this too. On this week’s episode, Erica will share:

- The simple mindset shift that can make it easier to "get to work" when you're feeling overwhelmed by your messy house.

 - What clutter does (and does NOT) say about you.

 - The best way to approach decluttering with sentimental items.

Are you ready to start the decluttering process and follow through this time? Let’s do this! Plus, if you’re looking to dive deeper into mental decluttering, my Declutter Your Motherhood Course is currently $50 off through the end of January. 

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. 

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As we dive into the season of goal-setting and resolutions, I want to start with an episode focused on honoring and understanding our female bodies and how that relates to goal-setting.

Because guess what? As women, we are physiologically unable to have the same level of energy and motivation every single day of the month due to our menstrual cycles, and that TRUTH should absolutely change the way that we set goals. We will not be exactly consistent with goals because our bodies are not exactly consistent, and that is okay!

In this episode, April Davis of Haus of Vagina educates us on our menstrual cycles and how to align our goals with our cycles, including:

1. The four phases of the menstrual cycle.

2. What to expect from ourselves during each phase.

3. Strategies for aligning our goals and ambitions with our cycle.

Tune into the episode to learn more! 

I’ve also designed a FREE worksheet that recaps April’s awesome information. This is an incredible resource for you or any woman or girl in your life. I wish I had known this stuff decades ago! 

For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here. 

Take care of yourself, my friend, especially if you’re luteal! xo

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Happy Monday, my friends! I am truly so grateful to be with you on this final Monday of 2024. Today's episode is going to be a bit more personal than usual, as I spend some time talking through the highs and lows of my year. 

As I shared in last week's encore episode with Chatbooks co-founder Vanessa Quigley, I love to spend time at the end of the year reflecting on questions my mom used to ask me when I was growing up. I've done it pretty much every year for 25 years, and I am honored to bring a little sample of that to the podcast today and share with all of you. 

Today, I will be sharing 3 of my 2024 highlights and 3 of my 2024 challenges. 

For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here. 

If you want a guide as you reflect over the year, I’ve designed a printable and fillable worksheet to help you through the reflection process.

I’d love to hear your highs and lows! Come share with me on Instagram!

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As we wrap up another year, it’s the perfect moment to reflect as a family and set intentions for the upcoming year. In this episode, I’m thrilled to welcome rockstar mom and business owner Vanessa Quigley of Chatbooks. Vanessa shares insightful ways to help your family make the most of this transitional time of year, including:

1. Six end-of-year questions to ask each family member to reflect on and share.

2. How to choose a "family theme" for the upcoming year.

3. A simple way to capture and look back on all of your family memories from the year.

Jump into the episode to learn more about each of these takeaways. 

To further help, I’ve also designed a printable and fillable worksheet to guide your family through the reflection process. Share it with your loved ones and spark fantastic conversations!

For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here. 

Happy Holidays! xo

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